Getting rejected

[RCT109]

Hey guys well the girl Ive been posting about said no and when she did I was happy and I dont know why. Then at like 1130 it hit me that she said no

Here is what I sent to her on fb when I asked
Hannah,

There is something that I need to tell you. I've wanted to say it for quite a while now. I was going to ask on my birthday, but I didn't want you to feel obligated to say "yes". Well here it goes.

You are an exceptional person and an awesome friend at that. It has taken me forever to even get my thoughts out. You have been there for me in more ways than I can even say thank you for. This is what makes this one of the hardest things I ever told you.

I don't know how else to say it. I've tried the subtle things, but that doesn't seem to work. So here it goes.

I like you and you are one of the few people I am happy to say that about. I've tried asking you to the movies and that doesn't always work out, but this is why I'm just going to say it.

Will you go out with me??

I don't know what more to say. I mean you are an awesome person that I really enjoy being around.


Shawn


here is here response

Okay, I am really touched that you think so highly of me and I think the same of you. You are an amazing persaon and friend and I know I can always go to you if I need help with ANYTHING!! You are a great person and do not take this the wrong way but I am not ready to date. I just dont want the responisblility and I want to make sure that I am out of school before I deal with dating anyone.



now Idk why I felt happy when she said no
has that ever happened to anyone else

[Sonic Boom]

Well, your friend did not reject you in particular. She rejected all potential dates:P And she did this in a very mature and reasonable manner.

If she rejected you and fell for someone else, I don't think you would feel too good.

As for me, I'm the reject king! Rejection now runs like water off a duck's back. I'm indifferent to it.

[Lovemeorleaveme]

As i girl i know for a fact she was probably being truthfull i have alot of friends who have the exact same opinion on dating she does even though i myself dont agree with it.

[joeharris1223]

yea, and she does have a solid point.

[byknott]

She didn't exactly reject you; she rejected dating as a whole. I know that's tough, but look at it from the angle of it wasn't a rejection of you personally. I know in the popular culture now there's a lot of flak on the thing called the 'friend-zone' but honestly, that's the place to be. If you can't be with a girl romantically at the moment, isn't it much better to keep a platonic relationship?

As for feeling happy about being told no, I think that could just have been relief at not having to wonder about her feelings any longer. You put yourself on the line and got your feelings out there, and then you got an answer. That's always a good thing no matter what the answer is because you don't have to ask yourself anymore how she's feeling or how she feels about you. The mystery is gone and you can focus again on the more important things, like improving your friendship with her.

And remember, she only said no to dating. That doesn't mean you can't go on dates. There's a huge difference there, albeit not linguistically, but the difference definitely exists (:

[Iron Man]

You are happy because you took that extra step Asking someone out isn't easy, but you did it. That is your body's way of rewarding you for doing the near-impossible.