Advice Please

[cloudy]

Hi There. I'm new here, but I have a problem and I could do with some unbiased advise.


I guess I'll just explain what happened.

A girl that I had known (and liked) for ages started talking to me and then revealed to her friends that she liked me. They told me. So, I asked her out and so on. Things were going fine for about a month, and I really liked her.

We were close, and I didn't want to take things to fast. I had kissed her (but nothing further really). Then the holidays came, and I spent a day with her, and I didn't see her for another few days. We were txting each other though.
She didn't want to go out to a party with me (a small gathering of friends) and said she was going to bed.

The next day, I got a txt saying that someone had seen her doing stuff with another guy the night before. I texted her and she said she was sorry. I was really devastated. I really liked her.

She said she was sorry (lots) but said she didn't see the relationship going anywhere. She said I was a great guy, and it was her fault. She said I should have taken things faster. I'm a bit confused.

She now hates the guy she cheated on me with.


Then we were texting, and she said that she was sorry, and wanted us to become good friends, and then we could start the relationship again. It would be better to be trusting each other before we started.


Now when ever I see her, it gets really awkward and sometimes I get a bad impression from her. I think I am starting to see that she doesn't even want to see me. I'm confused :/

[Iron Man]

Personally, I believe in second chances, but in this case, be cautious. Taking things faster might be good, but if it doesn't work out in the end, oh well. It would be her loss, not yours.

[Ryhanna]

Everyone makes mistakes, and she probably regrets this one. I would give her a second chance, to be honest. I'd keep my eyes open, though. "Forgive, but never forget." As cheesey and 15-year-old-girlish as that phrase it, it's good rule to have in relationships.

As for the relationship going nowhere: Consider what she wants, as well as what you want. You have to talk about these issues in relationships, and find out what the other wants. You might want to take it slowly, while she might want things to move a little faster. If you do want different things, it's not the end of the world. You just have to make compromises and make sure you're on the same page. The relationship is never going to work if your needs are too distant.

[cloudy]

The thing is that now I don't know if she wants to start a relationship again. We have talked, but nothing serious. :/ That txt about good friends was about 3 weeks ago.

[Aves]

The thing is that now I don't know if she wants to start a relationship again. We have talked, but nothing serious. :/ That txt about good friends was about 3 weeks ago.

Just ask her if she's still interested. As Ryan said, "Forgive, never forget." I believe in second chances. Hell, I believe in a ton of chances if the person is worth it to me. Just be cautious if you two do end up going back out, but don't be afraid to take it a bit faster.