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fxo7
May 29th, 2012, 02:37 PM
Hey, this is my first post here, and I really need to get this off my chest.
When I was 13 (I've kinda blocked out the age), let's just say I was molested by my brother who was 2 years older. This incident was more my fault because I kind of egged it on.
I made sure nothing happened after, though when I was maybe 15-17 (once again, blocked out the ages) he would come into my room when he thought I was asleep and continue what he did before.
I always put what happened in the back of my head and didn't think I was really affected, but recently I've realized the reason I had been depressed since middle school might have been because of that. I recently broke up with my gf because I couldn't emotionally connect with her. I actually find it hard to really connect with anyone. This might also have to do with what happened to me. I've resented my brother for all these year, though I finally have started forming an actual relationship with him very recently. He genuinely seems to have changed and moved on from all that. He is going to get engaged to his gf soon. Gone seems the person who choked me in front of my best friend and who sexually abused me. We never once talked about what happened in the basement that first time, and I would never bring up the fact that I was actually awake every time he would come into my room.
I finally told 3 friends, one who was also abused. I even spoke to a school counselor. Kind of helped me move on. Telling my parents is out of the question, so that's not about to happen. It's not so much what exactly happened between the two of us that is upsetting, it's the fact that I've realized I've done such a terrible job coping with everything. I don't have trouble making friends, but I can't get too close to anybody unfortunately. Although, becoming aware that I do have depression has made it easier to cope with.
I just needed to get that off my chest. Thanks for listening :)

Destructive Impulse
May 29th, 2012, 02:49 PM
Shit I'm sorry that happened to ya. They say your not supposed to blame yourself for this kinda stuff. You may have egged him on but did you really think he would do whatever he did. I'm sorry man

mto5111
May 29th, 2012, 02:55 PM
Wow I feel really bad sorry what happened

redknight
May 30th, 2012, 07:23 AM
wow dude, that f up, maybe u should see a doctor? idk might help

joeharris1223
June 3rd, 2012, 11:22 AM
no problem, if you ever need to vent im here to listen.

Kuntaw kid
June 16th, 2012, 10:00 PM
Bro I think you should tell someone

Lyra Heartstrings
June 19th, 2012, 12:44 AM
Bro I think you should tell someone

If you notice, he talked to a counselor, and friends..

eggy101
June 21st, 2012, 12:41 AM
You need to see a phycologist, not a counsellor you may slowly develop severe depression and social relationan anxiety and other mental disorders, my sister is a phyc and would prescribe meds and help you get better and over this. Im here if you need me want anymore information on phycs or anything else

fxo7
July 25th, 2012, 05:37 PM
Thanks for the support guys! I haven't been back here since I first posted that. But I just wanted to post to say thank you for showing support.
And to eggy101: the counselor actually did diagnose me with major depressive disorder and manic depressive disorder (bipolar disorder) which does suck a lot. I don't want to be one of those people who blame all their problems on one thing, but these "disorders" most definitely began post-trauma.

toobigforlife
July 26th, 2012, 09:45 AM
I think you need to have a one on one with your brother about it before he gets married because if you dont confront the problem at the root then you will be depressed forever and emotionally scared so I HIGHLY suggest you talk to your brother ASAP!!!

SmokeyBeat
August 1st, 2012, 12:17 AM
Im sorry for what happend to you , thats very horrible what he did to you ):
But you really should talk to him about it , and maybe your parents becuz they kinda deserve to know /: Only if your comfortable with it...
But if you need anything you can talk to me (:

West Coast Sheriff
August 1st, 2012, 12:21 AM
First of all welcome 2 the site next I'm so sorry this happened 2 u

Carlyle
August 1st, 2012, 03:46 AM
Since hardly anyone seems to be giving him proper advice, I'll attempt to..

First off, its not your fault. Don't say you egged him on, it is never acceptable for anyone to do that to another human being. Tell me though, why is telling your parents not an option? Part of your problem with depression and getting too close could be that the whole experience traumatized you.