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Kenton225
May 27th, 2012, 02:10 PM
Hey guys,
I used to cut myself a lot, and well I mean a lot, my I had been hospitalised twice, some days couldn't walk because legs had been cut so bad, anyway you get the jist.
Probably like most people I wanted to quit, quit for about a day or so and then do it again, it was like I missed doing it and I had to return back to how it used to be.
Also went through the lying and denial stage with my friends, i promised them that I had stopped, told them it had been weeks while in some cases it had been hours and I could feel the blood dripping still :what: I started to lose friends because of it, they didn't like being lied to and didn't want to me associated with me, the thought of me being alone was too much, which started off the final time time I quit.
One of the last friends i had left of hadn't given up on me, he decided to reward me for not doing it, so when he suggested it he said 'If you last 2 days, i will buy you a pint' and well who wouldnt turn down a free pint so it kept me from doing it, then as i lasted longer and longer he did better and better things, like if i last 5 weeks, which is our next goal, he said he will pay for a night out with me, i mean hell that is way better than cutting myself.
I know a lot of people aren't allowed to drink and stuff, but what im saying is that getting a reward really helped me quit, obv your rewards will be different from mine, just make them something you want to get so it will motivate you to stop, trust me :)
Sorry if that was really boring/pointless but i wanted people to know how i stopped and i can proudly say i haven't cut my self in 4 weeks and 3 days :)
Hope this has helped at least one person stop :) x

Ambrosia
May 27th, 2012, 02:27 PM
This is a very good tip! It could be very helpful for people who have friends/family who are interested in helping them quit. Even things that people can promise themselves, like, if you don't cut for a week you can go buy yourself something nice. Things like that.

In all my years I have never actually considered this an idea! Good job, and thanks for your great idea!! :)

Kenton225
May 27th, 2012, 02:34 PM
Yeah it helped a lot :)
Another thing, when I first stopped, it felt like part of me was missing, but once you have done a few days it feels like you have achieved something, like now i;m really proud of myself that I haven't done it.
Every now and then something is said, or something happens which does make me want to do it, but the thought of breaking my little achievement of lasting so long, and not getting my reward makes me not want to do it :) Its surprising how it keeps me going so well

lindsaybeth
May 29th, 2012, 04:29 PM
I'm actually smiling at your message! I'm really glad you posted it, it's not boring or pointless at all!
This is a brilliant idea, I think it's something that people might struggle to do own their own, god knows when I was quitting I'd have never stopped just by offering myself a reward, but having somebody actively helping you quit and giving you a positive reinforcement for it is great, even with something as simple and ordinary as a pint, could you be any more of a bloke?! lol.
I'm actually envious that I never had a friend who offered me support like that, I'm happy for you that you had such a good friend and that you've managed to quit :)

Love.Hate
May 30th, 2012, 04:55 AM
This is so lovely to hear, your friend sounds so supportive and kind.

Keep up the good work :) :hug: make him and yourself proud