Asking out an ex?

[WiiRemoter]

Ok so a few months ago, my girlfriend broke up with me because she was having some self-esteem issues and wanted to focus on her issues for a while. She said that there was a possibility that we would get back together. Well its been 3 months, and I really want to get back together with her, but she keeps saying how great it is that were friends. But i still have strong feelings about her. I've already tried asking her out about a month and a half ago and she said no, she wanted to be friends. I just don't know what to do about this because my feelings arent going away, and I don't want them to. :confused:

[Harley Quinn]

You should stop, and just be happy you're still friends. Usually, ex's never remain friends, I know I don't with mine. She said she didn't want to date when you asked her previously, I doubt that answer has changed. If you want her to be happy, follow her wishes and you'll be okay. Maybe in a year or so she might ask you back. Until then, you need to try and get over the strong feelings you have. I know it's hard, but it's probably for the best. You'll probably get mixed opinions on this, but that is mine.

[Desuetude]

Well if she's already said she just wants to be friends then you can't force her to be anything more, or pressurise her, it wouldn't be fair. I think you should just accept the fact that, for the moment anyway, you will just have to be her friends. Stay close and be there for her and hopefully her feelings for you will become something more but you can't say that's what will definitly happen. That or your feelings will die down a little, give it time and things should change one way or another.

[WiiRemoter]

Well if she's already said she just wants to be friends then you can't force her to be anything more, or pressurise her, it wouldn't be fair. I think you should just accept the fact that, for the moment anyway, you will just have to be her friends. Stay close and be there for her and hopefully her feelings for you will become something more but you can't say that's what will definitly happen. That or your feelings will die down a little, give it time and things should change one way or another.

Thanks

[lindsaybeth]

Like kryptonite says, you're lucky she still wants to be friends with you, god knows I haven't been able to stay friends with many of my exs! I know it's difficult when you still have feelings for them, but you have to weigh it up, if they don't want to be with you in that way you either have to try and suppress your feelings and appreciate the fact that you've still got them in your life as a friend, or if you can't handle being their friend then you have to consider not being friends with them at all, and just cutting them out of their life. From what you've said I'm guessing you don't want them out of your life so as much as it may hurt you try to make the best out of what is for you a bad situation and appreciate their friendship x

[Aves]

Everyone's said too be happy that you're friends, which is true. But, if you two both have strong feelings for each other, I see no problem with it. If you can tell that she definitely has similar feelings that you have for her, I'd say go for it. Just know what you're getting yourself into. After you go out again, you might not end up friends again.

[therunaway]

Drop it; you'll lose a friend. Life's a bitch, just go with the ride.