Please help

[Indecision]

So okay, i've been going out with my boyfriend for almost a year now and we've had some great times. But recently it's been really weird and sometimes we start arguing and he suggests breaking up which kills me. But here's what's happened;

For ages he's been wanting to go to this guys party, his mum was unsure about letting him go, and I was only going to go if he did because I don't know many people there. Last minute he said he can go. I kept ringing him from at least an hour before it started to see if he was there, and he wasn't picking up his phone.

So I rung his friend, who handed the phone to him. He sounded out of it. Of course I went anyway because it's a party, plus I wanted to see him. But he promised me that when I got there he'd be sober.

And hell he wasn't. He'd done so much weed and he was so stoned he didn't even recognize me at first. I was so fricking angry, he kept throwing up and drifting in and out of consciousness as well.

I looked after him all night until I had to go home.

Now I don't know what to say to him this morning. I'm so angry, upset, you name it. I don't know what to do or what to say, someone help please

[unnamed94]

well you can obviously be upset about him not being sober as he told you and not answering when you called him. about him being stoned and whatever, its not that easy to tell. you obviously have to talk to him about and tell him you dont like it when he does that stuff but if he never ends up like that and it was a unique time then i dont see why this would be so bad or stay angry at him. being upset because you had to take care of him is understandable but not anything besides it. no one likes taking care of people in that state and i always get angry when i take care of people like that (brother, friends, etc)

on the other hand he can actually go and do whatever he wants actually, and being your bf shouldnt stop him from doing what he wants to do. you would just have to talk to him about it and tell him why do you feel bad about it and ask him not to do it

[Indecision]

I don't care that he's done it, I just cared that he did so much and he promised me he'd be sober when I came, and he was literally out of it. The fact he's done weed behind my back before irritates me, and he's lied to me about it. I don't have a problem with him doing it though, he just feels as if he has to lie to me.