Need a best friend

[love123]

heyy, i have got a lot of actual friends but i havn't got a best friend. Most of my friends have got best friends but not me- and i need your help for some tips on what to do?!?!?!! Thank youu! :)

[jessiecox1]

Well, are there any friends that you share the greatest number of interests with? Or you and him/her share secrets/things with each other that you wouldn't tell anyone else? They always come to you first for advice or to talk about something?

[Desuetude]

Honestly although it's nice to have someone that you can confide in and trust with your life but you don't need one. I have never had a best friend, i've had people I thought were my best friends that then backstabbed me a few weeks after (somewhat due to naivety). All I can say is keep your close friends, I say lots of good friend can sometimes be better than just one best friend. You always have someone to fall back on should you fall out with one of the others.

I don't think you can just magic yourself up a best friend, these people should form over time and you should know that they will always have your back, always be there for you should you need them, will not lie/keep secrets from you. For some people a best friend is almost like another part of themselves, it's someone that close. Try to build up the friendships with a few of your friends now, spend more time together, let them know you're there for them and hopefully, over time, the bond between you should become stronger.

[Stronger]

Getting a best friend does not happen over night, it takes time to get one, even then they still might not even be one. Just build up a nice good relationship with a person, and make sure they are the right one as well, make sure they won't back stab you in the future all that. Like Nikki, I thought I had best friends that I would have for life, but each and everyone of them fucked me over. Like I said, it takes time before you can consider someone a best friend.

[DerBear]

Well your on the right path as you do have friends.

However getting or having a best friend does not happen overnight. Personally it takes years of trust and friendship to develop a relationship to call someone a best friend (in my opinion). It's much better to wait and analyze because if the friendship is broken between a two best friends it hurts really bad. So I would wait and make sure you choose wisely because it can hurt.

My advice for making one really is just go with how you feel, sometimes you will feel a connection or it could be the person you hang out with a lot. It really just depends.

Hope this helped
Derri.