Age difference?

[Xandle]

I was just wondering about in teenager years, how big a gap in age is too big?

Like, how big is too big for a relationship and how big is too big to fantasize or get off with someone, like be attracted to them physically??

Just interested to know your opinions :)

[CryWolf]

I'm not sure this question can be answered definitively. I was 15 when I lost my virginity to a 21 year old. The gap was there a little but didn't seem to have great impact. We were together for about 6 months. That's not to say its the same for everyone.

As for fantasy? There is no age limit. You're attracted to whoever you're attracted to.

[FullyAlive]

No age limit to fantasising :P

Relationships are different to just hooking up, just getting with someone I wouldn't say there's a limit really unless it's clear someone is being taken advantage off. Relationships I've always said two years older or younger anymore in your teenage years and it seems a bit off. When you're older its perfectly fine but as a teenager I think you need to keep the age gap as minimal as possible. However of course you can't choose who you like in the end.

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[SwaggerIsBack]

Well was the girl order or the guy?

[jessiecox1]

I don't think there's an age limit when it comes to fantasizing, but when it comes to relationships...I would say 2 years or so when you're a teenager.

[therunaway]

If were talking real life and not fantasizing then I'd say if you were 15, stay younger than 17. and older than 14. so 16. :p and if were fantasizing, then stay with 15 & 15..

[Aves]

I stick with 2 years for me personally, but I don't care if the gap is at less than like...4 years.

[Harley Quinn]

I have personally dated someone 3/4 years older, however I would say 1 year below and 2 years above. Age does not make a difference, well it does but it's not something totally major. As for fantasy, I don't think it matters how old the person is.

[aggresivechild]

i was with a twice older guy as me but it wasn't a big deal since i really liked him

[Fruity Drink]

If you're under 18, I'd say one year. Seriously... If you decide to move your relationship to the next step, and have sex or something... You can get in serious trouble!


I personally don't date, I find people my age far to immature, and clingy. I usually hook up, because there are NSA, and we both get what we want.

[TwilightFan]

It depends. If you're 13, than dating a 16-year-old is a huge gap. If you're 18, dating a 25-year-old isn't that bad. And if you're just fantasizing ... Well, you can be 12 and fantasize about, I don't know, Oprah, if you want. It doesn't really matter, cause it's just a dream. It's not a real-life thing, so no one should care about it.

[joeharris1223]

well im 15 and theres girls ive dated older than me and 1 guy, im talking to a girl right now and we are pretty close and she is 17 almost 18.

[Tristin.]

as a rule i go for 2 years above 1 year below, however that can change the older you get etc. For example, at 13 its not good to be dating a 15 year old unless you are both sure it will be healthy. So really, it is common sense :)

[pdidyking]

1 or 2 year difference. That's it. It pertains to intellectual and emotional connection. Epecially at our age as tenagers, we change and learn very quickly. Make sure the person is on the same page as you are. It just makes everything much easier. :-)

[byknott]

While you are underage it's important to remember that while the feelings could be there, the legalities are also there. In the US most states have rules which regard an age gap of more than a couple of years to be illegal and could potentially charge your partner with counts of rape, regardless of if you are in a relationship and any and all sexual encounters were consensual.

There is also emotional maturity to consider. A fourteen year old might not necessarily have the same emotional range as say, a seventeen, eighteen, or nineteen year old. There also might be some questioning from those around you as to what a person more than two or three years older than another is doing pursuing a relationship with someone so much younger in the first place.

The older you get, the less of a problem age differences become, but during the high school years especially, it's more sensitive. Everyone always side eyes that senior/freshman couple, and for good reason. As an eighteen year old now myself, I can't really understand what anyone my age would be doing with a fourteen or fifteen year old, regardless of the gender of the older or younger person.

[Gordo]

I'm thinkin' 18 months. They just passed a law about it in Georgia a few years ago because a guy kinda screwed himself over because he was 18, she was a couple months away from being 16. Both consented, but the girl's mom said it was date rape because her daughter wasn't old enough to consent. Guy got 10 years in jail. It was over turned and they wrote a new law saying 3 year max when minors are involved. So that's the legal side of it.

Personally, I think we change a lot in a short amount of time, that's why I say 18 months for a relationship or something physical happening. If someone is 18 and the only person they can find to hook up with is 15, I think warning lights should go on for the girl involved.

I know guy mature slower than girls and we definitely act more immature than girls our age, but if we like a girl, we'll behave ourselves.

Disclaimer is that I've done a bunch of hookups, but never dated anyone for a length of time because that's just not done around here. It's like no one commits, so everybody has options. Gotta admit, I don't hate it for a number of reasons.

[Black.Butler]

Most people in my school will laugh at you if you go out with someone who isn't in the year above or below you as they think you are a perv or desperate.

[Akasuki]

I will only date people a year older than me and a few months younger than me because of maturity reasons. I don't want to date someone that is on another level of maturity.

[Past_Lives]

I believe the gap limit is 2 years after that it gets a little weird.

[Ronrinesu]

Well in teen years I think the maximum is 2-3 years. After 22-23 years old I don't think age matters this much.
I don't think I would date someone younger than me. However it sounds.

[RCT109]

to me personally it doesnt matter the difference. If the other person is mature than thats all that matters to me.
but when you turn 18 thats when the 2 years younger comes in

[Nellerin]

1.5-2 years, more than that and something seems wrong.