TheHumanSpirit
May 24th, 2012, 09:38 AM
Is there ever a valid reason for giving up on a friendship?
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About a week ago I was invited to this end of the year party planned by two of my best friends. I got an invitation from "Zoe" (my guy best friend's best friend) which I thought was weird since "Duke" is my guy best friend. I didn't think anything of it at the time. Later, I found out that Zoe had invited me because Duke hadn't invited me and she wanted me there.
When I brought it up, Duke said that he needed to talk to me at lunch. When he talked to me he said that because I am a senior and it was a juniors only party, I would make people feel out of place and I would feel out of place myself. I hesitantly accepted his "juniors only" exclusion even though I told him I didn't agree with it and told him that I knew all of the juniors who were going, so it wouldn't be uncomfortable for anyone. The ironic thing is Duke is the one who made this a juniors only party (knowing that I wanted to go) and yet, Duke invited Sarah's (one of our mutual best friends) boyfriend who is a senior from another school and if anyone would feel out of place it would be him, not me.
He couldn't believe I was mad when I found out he invited Sarah's boyfriend and not me. I deleted him on Facebook (this type of thing has been going on all year) and when he texted me asking why, I told him I only have people who act like friends on my facebook. Granted, that probably wasn't the best way to handle it, but he was ignoring me until this point.
When he talked to me on the phone, he told me that the only reason Sarah's boyfriend was being allowed to come was because Sarah was going on vacation over summer and Duke wouldn't be able to see her, and she wouldn't come to the party unless her boyfriend went because she wanted to spend every last minute she could with him. I asked why an exception couldn't have been made for me, considering I'm graduating... He said it's because Sarah is a junior.
He said I'm the one who needs to fix this by re-adding him on Facebook and saying I'm sorry, because he's not going to. I honestly don't feel right giving up on a friendship because I've been putting up with him for two years and dealing with his bs, and I want to be there for him even when he's like this. Unfortunately, he's not acting like a friend at all.
We were supposed to talk after school yesterday, but then his dad picked him up right after. I guess he didn't wait to call his dad? Sarah reinvited me to the party, saying that she talked to him and "he was whatever" about it. She begged me to come, so I said I would for her.
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Any advice? :\
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About a week ago I was invited to this end of the year party planned by two of my best friends. I got an invitation from "Zoe" (my guy best friend's best friend) which I thought was weird since "Duke" is my guy best friend. I didn't think anything of it at the time. Later, I found out that Zoe had invited me because Duke hadn't invited me and she wanted me there.
When I brought it up, Duke said that he needed to talk to me at lunch. When he talked to me he said that because I am a senior and it was a juniors only party, I would make people feel out of place and I would feel out of place myself. I hesitantly accepted his "juniors only" exclusion even though I told him I didn't agree with it and told him that I knew all of the juniors who were going, so it wouldn't be uncomfortable for anyone. The ironic thing is Duke is the one who made this a juniors only party (knowing that I wanted to go) and yet, Duke invited Sarah's (one of our mutual best friends) boyfriend who is a senior from another school and if anyone would feel out of place it would be him, not me.
He couldn't believe I was mad when I found out he invited Sarah's boyfriend and not me. I deleted him on Facebook (this type of thing has been going on all year) and when he texted me asking why, I told him I only have people who act like friends on my facebook. Granted, that probably wasn't the best way to handle it, but he was ignoring me until this point.
When he talked to me on the phone, he told me that the only reason Sarah's boyfriend was being allowed to come was because Sarah was going on vacation over summer and Duke wouldn't be able to see her, and she wouldn't come to the party unless her boyfriend went because she wanted to spend every last minute she could with him. I asked why an exception couldn't have been made for me, considering I'm graduating... He said it's because Sarah is a junior.
He said I'm the one who needs to fix this by re-adding him on Facebook and saying I'm sorry, because he's not going to. I honestly don't feel right giving up on a friendship because I've been putting up with him for two years and dealing with his bs, and I want to be there for him even when he's like this. Unfortunately, he's not acting like a friend at all.
We were supposed to talk after school yesterday, but then his dad picked him up right after. I guess he didn't wait to call his dad? Sarah reinvited me to the party, saying that she talked to him and "he was whatever" about it. She begged me to come, so I said I would for her.
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Any advice? :\