I need to dump him !

[hardcore-smile]

okay , so i have this boyfriend his name is jake and hes like a nerd and he has like NO friend litterally , like at school he just sits by himself and i hate it cause im part of the "in group" and people call it and i always have to go up to him and stay with him , but now that schools done i dont have tht problem. But the thing is i didnt date him beacuse of looks i did it beacuse of personallity. But now i want to dump him so bad but i cant beacuse he loves me so much and i cant do tht to him and i kinda want him to dump me but tht would ruien my reputation , i mean getting dumped by jake kelly . what do i do ?

[4IrishJustice]

in a relationship you have to think of your mental well being first. Relationships take great tolls on our minds. If your lack of feelings for him is wearing on you, you need to get away from him. I'd say dump him, if he gets upset, well thats his issue, not yours.

[Activate]

Dump him.
I'm sure he doesn't love you that much, because if he did he would try to fit into the 'in group' to be with you and make sure you keep your reputation or whatever.

[Ventrue]

By the gods your shallow and catty. Are you a cheerleader.If you don't like him, dump him. As for your reputation, it doesn't matter. Do you think that makesd any difference in life. "I was popular in high school". yay for you, do ya want a button.
As a parting jab, if your "reputation" (the word sticks in my throat) was at risk why are you his girlfriend. You clearly didn't think this through very well.
I would usually say good day to you but the depth of you shallowness amazes me still. I am SO glad i just gradueated high school

[CryingEye666]

okay , so i have this boyfriend his name is jake and hes like a nerd and he has like NO friend litterally , like at school he just sits by himself and i hate it cause im part of the "in group" and people call it and i always have to go up to him and stay with him , but now that schools done i dont have tht problem. But the thing is i didnt date him beacuse of looks i did it beacuse of personallity. But now i want to dump him so bad but i cant beacuse he loves me so much and i cant do tht to him and i kinda want him to dump me but tht would ruien my reputation , i mean getting dumped by jake kelly . what do i do ?


omfg
dont dump him just cause you say hes a nerd
so what? i bet he'll grow to be fuckin rich billionaire
then you'll probably be jealous (if you did dump him)
hes not the problem, YOU should sit with him
if you dont, then YOU'RE the problem
not to be rude though but thats how i feel

[serial-thrilla]

omfg
dont dump him just cause you say hes a nerd
so what? i bet he'll grow to be fuckin rich billionaire
then you'll probably be jealous (if you did dump him)
hes not the problem, YOU should sit with him
if you dont, then YOU'RE the problem
not to be rude though but thats how i feelshe said she doesent like him anymore, why be with someone you dont like? its not fair to either of them. she does sound shallow though.

[Whisper]

Okay personally I'd be more concerned with the situation then your social status because in the end hun schools just that school
It ends
so follow your heart, do what you know is right
because being popular means nothing when the guilt sets in

If you don't like him that way anymore IE your not attracted to him or you dont love him then you need to break it off because right now your not doing anyone any favours your stringing him along which is going to make it even worse when it happens and your not happy right now at all

So if you truly feel this way then you need to break it off
weither that means you stay friends or just flat out dump him is up to you n him

But don't string him along if you still care about him at all
you wont play with his heart like that

[CryingEye666]

she said she doesent like him anymore, why be with someone you dont like? its not fair to either of them. she does sound shallow though.

yea my bad i only read up to that part where she said she said hes a nerd lol
so i kinda got pissed and ranted
my bad again
but yea a little shallow if you ask me

[Camazotz]

If you dont like him, dump him.(obviously)

[Gumleaf]

the best thing to do is dump him, and soon. why? because in a relationship you both need to be happy. he might love you but if your not happy then its really a fake relationship that can't go any further (e.g. sexual, marriage, etc). although it might be difficult to tell him, you should explain to him that you don't love him and that it wouldn't be right to stay with him if you don't love him. hopefully by telling him the truth he won't get to upset. oh, and also, don't leave it to long otherwise it will just get harder and harder to do it. hope this helps, good luck!

[Archduke Robert of France]

Hmm, you should try to explain to him that he needs to change his personailty and become more social. Or, since you're with the proverbial "in" crowd, you can help him with the transition, but not get back together with him until he changes.

[Gumleaf]

Hmm, you should try to explain to him that he needs to change his personailty and become more social. Or, since you're with the proverbial "in" crowd, you can help him with the transition, but not get back together with him until he changes.


thats all good in theory but i don't think you could ask someone to change their personality. i've tried doing that to fit in but i found i was much better off being myself. people accepted me for who i am and not for trying to be someone i'm not. if a person is naturally quiet and somewhat of a loner then thats who they are, you can't make them be really social and i think that if he tried in this case he would feel very uncomfortable because thats not who he is.

[Whisper]

Hmm, you should try to explain to him that he needs to change his personailty and become more social. Or, since you're with the proverbial "in" crowd, you can help him with the transition, but not get back together with him until he changes.

thats rather selfish expecting him to completly change like that
speaking as a loner it isnt that easy for us to "become more social"
when she started dating him she accepted him for what he is
now that shes changed her mind why should she demand that he completly change to suit her?

[Archduke Robert of France]

Quite true.

[ArtistInNeed]

if u dont like him..then dump him. no point in making u suffer for the feelings of sumone else. but honestly the nerds and the geeks and w/e else u call them, they are the best kind of friend to have. i am 100% positive that they are probably out of the rest of the school the nicest and kindest ppl u can find. atleast still try and be his friend if u do break up.

[CryingEye666]

if u dont like him..then dump him. no point in making u suffer for the feelings of sumone else. but honestly the nerds and the geeks and w/e else u call them, they are the best kind of friend to have. i am 100% positive that they are probably out of the rest of the school the nicest and kindest ppl u can find. atleast still try and be his friend if u do break up.



i agree with the part i just underlined !

[~Dazed&&Confused~]

so you're dumping him cuz hes a nerd with no friends and you have your hardcore reputation to live up to? my god.. why'd you go out with him in the first place if you weren't even interested? And to be honest if you wanna get it over and done with say somthing short and sweet like.

'Im sorry, but this aint working, i still care for you and just want us to be friends.'

or whatever... but ye seriously if he makes you happy. then stick by him..