Being overweight

[Spinner]

No I'm not overweight I workout I'm a little fit, but I know this girl I know she thinks that no one will love her because shes overweight (I will not say fat!!) i know she likes me I promise that is not the reason I don't like her that way I think of her as a sister because I'm friends with her brother! My best friend always talks about looks I told him looks shouldn't matter so much dude he said so you would marry and he mentioned the girl I was talking about I thought ugghhh he goes around and says she ugly ugly because she's a little chubby I always say no no she's not and the girls he's talking about is beautiful in the face!!! I'm sorry but think guys that say a girl is ugly because shes a little overweight is a lowlife and maybe I'm a lowlife because I don't like that girl I mentioned before! I heard from ppl she said she loved me but she knew I'd never feel the same way! That hurt me!

[ImCoolBeans]

This has nothing to do with puberty.
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[Desuetude]

Unfortunately people are like that, they focus way to much on looks rather than personality. You're not to blame for not liking her, you've said it's not because of her looks but because you think of her as a sister rather than a girlfriend. I think that's absolutely fair. Some people fall for others that might not feel the same way, that will happen all through llife and you have to be ready for that. All I can say is be a good friend to her, keep talking to her and just be a nice guy, someone that she can count on. However if you don't think there will ever be anything between you then don't lead her on so she's left thinking that there might be a chance, if you must then tell her but giving her hope will just make things worse.

[DerBear]

Like Nikki said.

Some people will look at looks over personality.

I think what you should do is talk to her and explain while you do like her you feel like she is more of a sister than a potential lover. Sound sweet and if you can avoid the mentioning of her being overweight as if you don't bring it up she will not get the idea that this is the reason why don't want a relationship with her.

I wish you the best of luck.

[PubertyQuestions]

my mom says that im fat but i am actually fine but sound sweet and dont mention her as oberweight just dont bring it up

[Laquifa]

Unfortunately people are like that, they focus way to much on looks rather than personality. You're not to blame for not liking her, you've said it's not because of her looks but because you think of her as a sister rather than a girlfriend. I think that's absolutely fair. Some people fall for others that might not feel the same way, that will happen all through llife and you have to be ready for that. All I can say is be a good friend to her, keep talking to her and just be a nice guy, someone that she can count on. However if you don't think there will ever be anything between you then don't lead her on so she's left thinking that there might be a chance, if you must then tell her but giving her hope will just make things worse.

It can't be put any better than that .