He's older.

[Skittles96]

I'm seeing some one older then me, he's 21 and honestly idk if its right or wrong. i've been told its wrong that i shouldnt be seeing him that he shouldnt even look at me twice, but it doesnt feel wrong.... it feels good when he holds my hand, it feels better when he smiles for me even when i dont he does and it makes everything seem so much brighter.. is feeling this way really wrong? if it is i dont want to be right he's one of the few things that makes me happy and every one is trying to take him away from me.. yes i sleep with him so whats the big deal i asked him when we met if he minded my age and he said no so i took his word for it now im being told what im doing is wrong and i shouldnt doit? this honestly doesnt seem fair to me. your allowed to be happy why cant i be?

[Desuetude]

First it'd be good to know how old you are?

It honestly depends on your age. I mean, if you're under 16 then I really don't think it's appropriate but if he makes you happy then it's great that someone is able to make you feel like that. It's hard to say really, how are your parents reacting to you dating him? (that's if they know) and I can see how for friends and people around you it could look to be like he's taking advantage of you. You have to make sure that he treats you well and won't hurt you. That's the most you can ask of anyone really.

[Short Circuit]

If the 96 in your name means you were born in that year, then your 15 and he is 21, that means technically, its child abuse, and he can go to jail for it and be put on the sex offenders list.

[Stronger]

While you may not think it's wrong, a whole lot of things could go wrong, if your under aged. Like Kyle said he could be jailed for being an adult and you being a minor would get him registered as a sex offender, and is that something you want to happen? That would ruin his life, so has hard as it may be, maybe you should wait till your atleast an adult and not a minor.

[Lovemeorleaveme]

In my opinion you should date people around your age.

[Akasuki]

Love is of all ages, but law is law, and I think you should abide by it. Like another person said, he can be jailed... and if I was in your position, it's something that I wouldn't want happen to the love of my life.

[james wolf]

I think it's ok if you are 17 or above, if you are 16/15 or lower, it is a bit weird.

[ArsenicCatNip]

Hmm, well there's a lot wrong. He's an adult and you're still a child(by law) that means you're still developing and stuff. Just date someone your age that your parents can approve of

[Green Arrow]

I personally think that love is love however society doesn't see it that way as there has been previous cases where people were abused in this type of relationship. It's a tricky one to be honest, it depends which you look at society or life as a whole. Personally think that you should just carry on as you are, you seem to be happy and that's all that matters to be honest. If he does start to make you feel uncomfortable then make sure that you tell someone! :)

[FullyAlive]

If you are under 16 it's illegal for you to even have sex let alone with a 21 year old, you might think this is what you want but I assume there's a substantial age gap as you're asking about it so I'll also assume you're still a child. In which case no matter how grown up you feel you are still vulnerable you aren't ready to make decisions like that and he could have really sincere intentions but either way you'd expect a 21 year old to date people his own age not a teenager personally I do find it slightly odd.

This will vary upon your actual age but still under the assumption you're under 18 society is likely to be very unaccepting, your friends won't understand, I doubt your parents will like it, his friends are likely to be thrown, however if you're really happy then this won't bother you and in a years time you'll look back like how could they doubt us. But you should also prepare yourself for the other outcome of one of you not being able to handle the negativity surrounding your relationship.
One of my friends actually dated a 23 year old she met at work for a while and didn't tell anyone because of the reaction she would get.

Also just a more in case you are under 16, if you're that young I don't think you should be having sex with him it's highly inappropriate and he can be prosecuted if he likes you that much he'd wait anyway.

[Fruity Drink]

If the 96 in your name means you were born in that year, then your 15 and he is 21, that means technically, its child abuse, and he can go to jail for it and be put on the sex offenders list.

not abuse my friend, that's called rape.


That is very much wrong, anyone that is that much older, and still thinks it's ok to be dating someone that young, then they have some serious issues going on in their head.

[PubertyQuestions]

dont do anything because he is older

[Fruity Drink]

dont do anything because he is older

You probably shouldn't even be seeing him, if he is twenty one, he is fully capable of making rational decisions. He chooses to be with someone significantly under the legal age, thus is obviously not thinking logically, or rationally.

'love is love' my response: 'laws are laws,' yup...


I disapprove, sorry. :/

Edit, you mentioned happiness, I'm sorry.. He's MOST LIKELY using you. Guys have a way of doing this, and you obviously don't understand the consequences...


I hope you figure out that what you two are doing is very much illegal, and wrong.

[thomfoun]

As you are 16 it is not illegal but there is 5 years difference and is that why is feels wrong? But it is up to you. Also if it helps my grandmother and grandfather are 6 years apart

I'm 17 I'm gay

[TwilightFan]

Like everyone said, it's OK, if you're 17 or older. Otherwise, there's something wrong. With him, not you. I mean, I'm sorry, but an adult (which at 21 he is), who's atracted to a child (which if you're 16 or younger you still are), is disturbed. I can't find any nicer way to put it.

[KenBoy6]

It depends on your age.

[Skittles96]

yes i understand the consiquences im not stupid my cousins a cop. he understands to, honestly i think if two people love each other it shouldnt matter, my mom met my dad at my age and they're ten years apart (they divoreced but thats besides the point) i think if i love him and he can look at me and say he loves me back it shouldnt matter. yes i understand the law is the law and i should obide but fuck really u want me to believe that you did?

[EvanShaw]

I dated a 29 year-old man...with a son...who was my ex boyfriend..it didnt feel right to date him. But we loved eachother. But it broke his son's, my ex boyfriend's, heart. So I felt so wrong.

[Joshh97]

Personal Opinion, love is love, depends on what country your from and your age cause your probably 16 (guess), its technically child abuse, however its up to you and him, he is old enough to know the risks and if you both love each other only you can tell us if its right or wrong.

[ackmedsgirl666]

in my opinion.. date someone more your age
so it doesnt cause legal problem for him. save him the problems and just remain friends. sure you may think you have feelings but your probably just going through a phase hun... just re-think what you think is best for you :)

[Skittles96]

i have thought it through many many times before we have both talked about it and the consiquences and i have feelings for him and he does me but we both realise it wont be easy and that its probably going to be a slow and painful prosess for the both of us and our familys and friends to accept the fact that we love eachother, yes it sucks that things could go horriblie wrong but right now its working and thats all that i ask of it todo is work for us for now because we are both happy atm

[Cognizant]

I've been there before; I've liked someone older than me. While I never dated him, it was probably for the better.
I understand both sides of the argument because of this, and as much as I think love should be free, I have to agree with everyone else.
If you were born in the year 1996, which would make sense, you are too young to be dating people that age. Unfortunately, the US, and many other places, has made that illegal.
My advice: Stop the relationship. If he's ever caught with you, he's going to go to jail. Just try to remain friends, and try to find someone more your age. If you guys are deeply in love, you and him can wait 2 years :)
Also, if you're thinking of having sex with him, don't. It's considered rape, and we all the wonderful consequences of that..
You're so close to the relationship being legal, and I know how it feels. But it's for your own good, and if you want him that badly, 2 years and you won't have to worry at all~

[Skittles96]

Personal your probably 16 (guess)


To answer all of you yeah im 16 but theres really no bigdeal its completly harmless if i dont want to we dont if he doesnt want to we dont and its always been like that no pressure to do something no "awwwe why not?!?" if i dont want to i honestly dont see how its abuse when no one is getting hurt :/ if it was the same situation like the one i was in with my ex where we had been beating on each other and knocking one another out then i could see a problem and why it would be abuse but he has never harmed me in any way shape or form all hes done is love me the way every girl desserves to be loved :wub: