What am I doing wrong?

[xXoblivionXx]

So I don't really have that strong of a relationship with my family :/ I get along okay with my sister (age 11), little brother (age 2), and my mom. I'm sort of a secluded member of my family. I don't really like being around them, they are a major trigger to my self-harm :( But in order to stop the SH i need to strengthen my relationship with my family. The thing is I can't get along with my brother (age 17) and dad. My brother is always yelling at me for not acting like a part of the family. And my dad, well he expects so much from me, to much. I make him disappointed. I don't know how to talk to him or how to act around him. He makes me feel numb. I can't get his approval no matter what I do, unless I get a full ride to harvard :/ (not going to happen). I try to fix things between us but I can't. The thing is when I don't talk he gets mad but when I do talk he gets mad about what I say. :( I just don't understand what I am doing wrong. Am I that bad of a daughter?

[ImCoolBeans]

Have you tried actually sitting down and telling them about how you feel? Communication is key within a family, and if you can communicate well and hear each others' issues then you can begin to fix them. If you don't bring up the conflicts and let them try to work themselves out they're bound to pop up again, and again and again.