Guy I Like Is Moving Away

[TaylrJ]

I am a guy, 14, and like a guy who is 13. I think I am bisexual and I also think he is gay. He is younger than me so I don't think he really knows it yet. I can defiantly tell and he probably will later on. I have liked him for 5 months now. Trying to talk to him constantly, be with him, and message him before he moves, since I probably won't see him again after he does. I really like him, I actually think I love him. I want to be with him so bad and can't stand the fact that he is moving away. Today was the last day of school and I have tried to be with him so much. Tomorrow I get to see him one last time before he leaves. He will be at school for only one hour to take his exam and I have cried over him so much and I am so depressed about it. I don't know how I am going to get over this. It is going to be so hard not being with him. I think about him all the time and love every single thing about him. I will probably eventually stop liking him while he's gone. But I don't want to stop. I want him to stay so I can be with him. I have thought about telling him all this. I just didn't want to risk our friendship. He said he might come back in 10th grade. But I don't think he will and his parents probably won't let him. I am so depressed. I just want to stop crying over him. Could you help? Thanks...

[gayprideguy12]

sounds like you love him with deep emotion and i would be a good idea to tell him how you feel about him.

[BeyondOne]

I would definitely tell him. If you don't, you could regret not doing it later on.

[TaylrJ]

He is only 13. He is childish and I don't really think he would take it seriously. I might. I just don't want to ruin anything between us.

[Wonder.]

Are you saying he's childish because he's younger or because he actually is childish? If it's because he's younger, he may be more mature about a situation like this than you think and I would tell him. If he's just immature, then it's hard to say if you should say anything or not, you would have to go with your gut in that situation.

[Charoum]

I would say that you should tell him, it's better to at least have tried and failed than never tried at all, and you might regret not telling him. It is a saddening fact that he is moving away and you care so much for him. But time will keep moving, and you will eventually find another person you care that much about, so do not be too upset. If it's meant to be, you two will meet up again, and if not, you will find someone else that will love you as much back.

[TaylrJ]

Are you saying he's childish because he's younger or because he actually is childish? If it's because he's younger, he may be more mature about a situation like this than you think and I would tell him. If he's just immature, then it's hard to say if you should say anything or not, you would have to go with your gut in that situation. He is just immature. He would be creeped out if I told him. Probably wouldn't even care. Maybe if he was a little bit older he would understand.

[Wonder.]

If you don't think he would make a big deal of it, then tell him. It doesn't hurt to speak.

[PerpetualMotionSquad]

If he is childish then I wouldn't tell him. Do not underestimate his feelings just cos he's 13 cos my bf is 13 too. I'd maybe go for it he may be childish cos he's gay cos some gays are stereotyped for acting like women and childish.

[TaylrJ]

Well he's moved away now. It's only a 45 minute drive. But either way I can't really see him. I miss him so much. You'd think by now I'd be over him but I think about him every day. Crying has gotten worse too. I mean If I can't be with him I might as well move on.. It's hard though... Advice?

[Drew5]

Move with him

[liljack13]

that's really cute, you need to tell him how you feel, I had a similar situation and I regret not telling him

[KenBoy6]

Just see him as often as you,can

[Prince3121]

That's a hard one, I'd wanna tell him, but I also havnt told my crush who isn't moving, so ya I understand where you're coming from

[TaylrJ]

I don't think I am going to tell him. I might move with him but that's a very small possibility. He doesn't really talk to me anymore. Which is the worst feeling in the world. Loving somebody this much, and they practically ignore you. Its taught me that if I ever find out someone loves me as much as I love him. Male, female, gay, or straight. I am going to at least talk to them and be around them instead of just ignoring them because they like you. Because I can understand how bad the feeling *is and how it can be so depressing loving someone like I do, then being ignored.*

[purpleninjacookie]

Wow you have like the same problem as me....I loved this guy named Matthew for 2 years and next year we wont see eachother anymore :(
I wanna confess my love toobut I don't want to ruin our friendship....it ducks not to have the person you love....I know exactly where your coming from....if you want someone to talk to...pm okay...because I would like to talk to someone about my troubles too....hope everything goes well ;)

[jiji112]

I've had this same problem before. His name was Jacob (fake), and we were best friends at the time. I loved the way his hair flipped, and how he could always make me laugh, no matter how sad I was. He was obviously straight. He hung around that "crew" that were homophobes and didn't like me. He would always back me up though if they were picking on me. So anyways, sometimes we would rub eachother's leg under the table at school, and pretend like it wasn't happening. And sometimes we would act like we were propping our arm on the table, but really just touching arms, and stare at eachother ALL the time. I loved him sooooo much. I would literally come out for him. He was so hot, smart, you name it.

But just a few months ago, he had to leave. His family was really screwed up; his mom and dad were divorced, and he lived with his Grandma sometimes (who was abusive). He ended up having to move about 100 miles away with his mom, because he couldn't take his Grandma. I don't blame him, she did abuse him. He never told me "i'm leaving in a week!", instead he kept it a secret, and on the last day he was at school, we just skipped class and talked to each other, and had fun (not that kind of fun).

Well, I was super depressed about him leaving. I was taken aback, because he told me on Facebook about it. I was literally depressed for weeks, and felt like dying, because he was the one I loved. I loved him so much, and I love the way he looks, and how he does things. He was the one. I would have told him that too if he told me that he was leaving in real life.

Now I am pretty feminine (my voice, not my attitude), at most people know that I like boys. So after being depressed and lonely, I was at school eating lunch. There was this really cool guy that sat next to me. He was really cute, and I always kept noticing him looking at me. So I finally looked back, and he say's "Hi, i'm Brian", and smiled. I said "I'm Brandon", then smiled back. Long story short, we had a boy-love I guess (I would have said fallen in love, but I don't think 13 year olds do that). We still are together now. Everything got better, and I hope it does for you too :)

[Kuntaw kid]

Your just going to have to let it go man if u hold onto if it will make you depressed

[TaylrJ]

I've had this same problem before. His name was Jacob (fake), and we were best friends at the time. I loved the way his hair flipped, and how he could always make me laugh, no matter how sad I was. He was obviously straight. He hung around that "crew" that were homophobes and didn't like me. He would always back me up though if they were picking on me. So anyways, sometimes we would rub eachother's leg under the table at school, and pretend like it wasn't happening. And sometimes we would act like we were propping our arm on the table, but really just touching arms, and stare at eachother ALL the time. I loved him sooooo much. I would literally come out for him. He was so hot, smart, you name it.

But just a few months ago, he had to leave. His family was really screwed up; his mom and dad were divorced, and he lived with his Grandma sometimes (who was abusive). He ended up having to move about 100 miles away with his mom, because he couldn't take his Grandma. I don't blame him, she did abuse him. He never told me "i'm leaving in a week!", instead he kept it a secret, and on the last day he was at school, we just skipped class and talked to each other, and had fun (not that kind of fun).

Well, I was super depressed about him leaving. I was taken aback, because he told me on Facebook about it. I was literally depressed for weeks, and felt like dying, because he was the one I loved. I loved him so much, and I love the way he looks, and how he does things. He was the one. I would have told him that too if he told me that he was leaving in real life.

Now I am pretty feminine (my voice, not my attitude), at most people know that I like boys. So after being depressed and lonely, I was at school eating lunch. There was this really cool guy that sat next to me. He was really cute, and I always kept noticing him looking at me. So I finally looked back, and he say's "Hi, i'm Brian", and smiled. I said "I'm Brandon", then smiled back. Long story short, we had a boy-love I guess (I would have said fallen in love, but I don't think 13 year olds do that). We still are together now. Everything got better, and I hope it does for you too :)

Thanks for the story. It helps to know that I am not alone. His actual name is Jared (lol, thats why my username is TaylrJ). I also am thinking about really telling him now. I don't really care what he thinks. He'll most likely think I am wierd or crazy. I just feel like it'll help if I do. Like something to get off my chest. Should I tell him? How could I and what should I expect from a 13 year old? Have you told anyone you were gay and liked them? Thanks for the help.

[sms22]

You know what they say if you love something let it go and if it was ment to be it will come back to you.

[SmileyFace13]

the best thing you could do is telling him how you feel...he'll probably think of something.patients is always there.just wait for it.:rolleyes:

[TaylrJ]

I think I'm going to tell him pretty soon. The next time he is online on facebook I guess. I'll just message him asking can I tell you something go from there a little bit. Then, I'll copy & paste this:

Jared, I love you. I try not to but I can't stop. I think of you, cry over you, and it kills me inside. You don't understand how I feel, it's like I'm dying. It hurts so much. Every day... It feel like I'm sick. And it's not getting better. It makes me so depressed and I miss you so much. I can't stand you being away and I wish I could just be with you. You don't know how much I love you either. I love every single thing about you. Going through the next moment, and the one after that. I constantly think of you. And I'm tired of it. I am tired of crying and I am tired of missing you. Because I love you, and it hurts.

I'm so worried about what he'll say. Like what if he thinks I'm some freak? I hate this so much but it feels like there is nothing else I can do about it, so why not tell him? Anyway, I'll let you know what he says back. Thanks for the help...

[canadaski]

I think I'm going to tell him pretty soon. The next time he is online on facebook I guess. I'll just message him asking can I tell you something go from there a little bit. Then, I'll copy & paste this:

Jared, I love you. I try not to but I can't stop. I think of you, cry over you, and it kills me inside. You don't understand how I feel, it's like I'm dying. It hurts so much. Every day... It feel like I'm sick. And it's not getting better. It makes me so depressed and I miss you so much. I can't stand you being away and I wish I could just be with you. You don't know how much I love you either. I love every single thing about you. Going through the next moment, and the one after that. I constantly think of you. And I'm tired of it. I am tired of crying and I am tired of missing you. Because I love you, and it hurts.

I'm so worried about what he'll say. Like what if he thinks I'm some freak? I hate this so much but it feels like there is nothing else I can do about it, so why not tell him? Anyway, I'll let you know what he says back. Thanks for the help...

Whoa, don't start with that. I know it's probably how you really feel but it's best not to go into it with that grade of depth. Just message him and say something like "hey man, I miss you. Do you want to hang out sometime?"

Bring yourself out of the closet to him first and then if all is well, let him know that you care about him and are attracted to him. Don't start with confessing your love for him though.

Good luck. 45 minutes is really not that far. My friend is moving about that distance away and we have tons of stuff planned for the summer. We both drive though, I'll bet you could find some way there.

[TaylrJ]

Whoa, don't start with that. I know it's probably how you really feel but it's best not to go into it with that grade of depth. Just message him and say something like "hey man, I miss you. Do you want to hang out sometime?"

Bring yourself out of the closet to him first and then if all is well, let him know that you care about him and are attracted to him. Don't start with confessing your love for him though.

Good luck. 45 minutes is really not that far. My friend is moving about that distance away and we have tons of stuff planned for the summer. We both drive though, I'll bet you could find some way there.

So I need to start off saying I'm Bi. Well after chatting a bit with him, I'll tell him I am. Then get his opinion and whether if it's good or bad... Should I then tell him I love him? I'm just not really sure how to put it all out. What would YOU say?