dont know how to handle..........

[osa-cur199]

i havnt been here for a while, its good to be back.

Anyway here is the latest installment of my life. ever since my first post i was worried of being gay and all, but ive had time to think through that and im 100% sure im gay. I love being gay dont get me wrong its freaking awesome, and i have even told some of my closest friends ever and alot of weight on my shoulder has been taken off ever since ive told someone. I dont care who else knows but im worried my family will find out. Pretty much i dont want them finding out for one reason. My sister once said that; and i quote, "this family doesnt need any more gay people." She said it only because my brother pretty much almost ruined our family with his crazy ass boyfriend. Other than that, i have been paranoid that my family will find out because i fear they will be disappointed. My sis keeps telling me to get a gilrfriend, like its the easiest thing in the world, and wont shut up about it. Im scared of them not accepting me as easy as they did my brother, and to be honest a person being disappointed in you is much worse than a person being mad at you.
sorry for the length its just alot to have in my head.

[therunaway]

I would tell them, just to see how they like it, and if they don't like it then tell them you don't need their support with your sexual orientation and that you have people who accept you for you.

[Psychintraining]

Interesting. I would say just keep doing what you're doing and wait for a calm time in your family's day to day to tell them. Or just don't tell them right away at all.. Maybe wait until college?

[Abyssal Echo]

in my opinion it would be alot better for your family to hear it from you then find out from someone else because they might feel even worse because you didn't trust them enough to tell them. Trust me sooner or later it will come out so you can either deal with it now or when they find out but, that is up to you.

[Sean4U]

I agree bro, best that they hear it from you. I come from a family that is very tolerant tho...My uncle is gay and so is my brother and me....My uncle is my dad's brother and has been out since he was in his 20's long ago (he's late 40's now) so my grandparents, brother and other uncles/aunts has learned that being gay is not the end of the world and its not even a choice its who you are.....so let them know when YOU want to...but before they find it out from others.....just a quick question here....does your brother know?....can he help you maybe with the rest of your family....i see that your bros bf is a jerk from what you say and that isn't helping but he is NOT YOU....you're their son after all