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deadpaw
July 12th, 2007, 01:47 PM
Hi, now, i know teenages arent supposed to know about love, or what it is, but i truely believe this is real.

I'm in love with this amazingly beautiful, lovely, wonderful, amazing person. She's called Maria, and she amazing. She's this wonder person, a friendly and great person to hang around with. She's a great actress and an awesome friend and I truely believe that i love her, but i know alot of you will say its not real, but listen to me first.

I daydream about her in classes, i think about her at home, in the park, with friends, i dream about her at night. In those dreams we're laying on the grass staring at the stars, me just holding her, messing around with other friends, messing around by ourselves, having a great time, or simply laying down on the bed in each others arms.

We only share a few classes, and next year, we'll probably share even less, but in those few, i find myself lost in her eyes, even if she doesnt notice. I know i probably sound like some pervert or stalker, but she's actually only a few days older than me.

Maria and I are actually good friends, and i have told her how i feel, and she accepts it but hasnt replied to me about how she feels. Now, me and Maria share a lot of things, and we're good friends, just messing about, but recently she told me that she had a major crush on my best friend and he doesnt even notice! It pisses me off!

I just want to scream at him to take notice, but i dont because i promised her that i wouldnt tell anyone unless she told me to, and i always try to keep my promises, espesically for her. I would literally do anything for her! And she's alway fluttering her eyelids around him, or laughing at his jokes (sometimes even when they're not funny) or trying to be around him alot more and its annoying me that that's not me!

I asked her about this, and she answered that she didnt even notice she was doing it!

I know only a few guys have ever asked her out, but she has always turned them down (one guy asked her over text saying "i was wondering if you'd go out with me? Sorry!") saying that she wasnt yet ready to have a relationship, and i agree that she should wait until she's ready.

I need some advise. Everyday i wake and everyday its the same, i wish she feels the same thing that i do.

Can anybody help? Do you think that our relationship will ever advance more than "Just Friends"?

marine_sniperman35
July 12th, 2007, 04:08 PM
I can relate in a similar way. It's just the girl I fell in love with is 2000 miles away from me...has a "boyfriend," and well...is 2 years and ten months younger than me. Ehh no biggy.

The thing is if you truly love her you will do what makes her happy...not what makes you happy. If she wants a relationship with another guy and she really believes that she will be happy with that other guy then you should support her.

As of you and her being with each other...it's never for sure. DO NOT TRUST LOVE...meaning do not trust it when you fall in love with someone and you think they love you back. DO NOT DO NOT DO NOT TRUST IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The age difference thing...a few days isn't bad. If you ever fall in love with someone who you truly do love and you think its wrong re think it because that is the government telling you it's wrong. It is only wrong if you like someone a few years younger than you and you just want sex. Age is timeless.

Love...it can be wonderful in relationships. It can be horrible and terrible when not.

Just remember...if you love her and you are willing to do anything for her...and she is happy with some other guy...then let her be with that other guy. If you are truly meant to be with each other...then trust me...love will find her just like it found you. We can never answer the whole "is it possible" questions in a snap. It's all...unexpected if you will.

Good luck!!
Trust me...I know what love is.

deadpaw
July 12th, 2007, 04:12 PM
Thank you very much for your advice. i guess i do just want for her to be happy

Serenity
July 12th, 2007, 05:20 PM
My boyfriend is exactly 3 1/2 years older than me [our birthdays are each other's half birthdays] and he lives an hour away. It's stressful and hard to deal with at times, but we both thought it through very seriously before deciding to date, and we agreed that we should do what makes us happy, not what makes everyone else happy.

As for her liking your best friend, boy have I been THERE before. There's really nothing you can do except make sure she knows you're always there for her, whether she's with you or not. :(

deadpaw
July 13th, 2007, 09:46 AM
3 1/2 years exactly? wow, coincidence!

But yeah, thank you

Serenity
July 13th, 2007, 10:01 AM
3 1/2 years exactly? wow, coincidence!

But yeah, thank you

I know, isn't it weird?? And you're welcome, anytime :daisy:

deadpaw
July 13th, 2007, 11:56 AM
YES! She told me she likes me! :D Today in geography, we were mucking about because our teacher is absolutly shit, and she asked me who i fancied at the moment. As always, (That is, she asks me this question a lot, about ever week, lol) i answered "you know who i fancie" and as always, she blushes and then i asked her. and she turned away blushing even more. THEN(!) the bell rings and everyone packs up to go and she shy-ly says she'll text me later. I nod, and we leave the school, then go our seperate ways.

About 10 mins after i get home, she texts me and says, "You"

I didnt move for about 5 mins, my mind had just stopped.

I then recieve a text saying "but i dont want a boyfriend at the moment"

what do you guys and gurls think?

marine_sniperman35
July 13th, 2007, 08:29 PM
interesting. my advice would be to ask her when she wants a boyfriend that is if you really want to start dating her.

Camazotz
July 13th, 2007, 11:02 PM
I know the feeling. Happened like that for me. Eventually they went out, and I was so pissed, but in a few months, they broke up. In that time, I realized she didnt make me feel that great.

So, idk.

deadpaw
July 14th, 2007, 01:49 PM
Well, thank you both anyway

Nick_C
July 14th, 2007, 06:42 PM
There's a girl im talking to that is the same, one day wants to talk and the next is not ready for a relationship. I just hold back and be there for her when she wants to talk or whatever.

deadpaw
July 15th, 2007, 06:42 AM
Thats exactly what it's like,

Sapphire
July 15th, 2007, 07:06 AM
If you really want to be with her then be patient.
I have been like this many a time. I find a guy or girl I really like and want to be with, but I can't do the whole relationship thing for one reason or another. So trust me when I say this, rushing her into a relationship will only cause problems later on.
Be there for her and be patient.

Enkoi
July 15th, 2007, 12:04 PM
I just have to agree with everyone I have read!

My boyfriend is actually a yr and a half younger than me about. Its tough for me because I'M the older one and the woman. Not that we care.

*sigh* I wish you so much luck and hope this works out for you!
a little biblical; but quoted for truth:

" 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. " Corinthians.

deadpaw
July 23rd, 2007, 02:30 PM
Ok, we've agreed that even though we both like each other, we wont start seeing each other until she turns 15, which is when she's alloud to date. :D so until then, we've been harmlessly flirting with each other, lol, and im really happy that im going to be with the girl of my dreams, literally, :D