My parents found out...

[Shadowsinthedark]

Two days ago my parents found out that I've been cutting because they saw the tiny cuts on my wrists (I mainly cut on my thighs, as nobody could see them) when my sleeves moved up slightly in front of them. The cuts aren't deep at all as I tried to make them less obvious, and when they saw them I tried to lie and say my cat did it. However, they weren't buying it and I ended up having to tell them all about it, including the cutting on my thighs. They started shouting and my mum asked me what's going on in my "messed up little mind", and despite how much I tried to make them understand, they just wouldn't, they kept shouting at me. They've taken my blades away from me and they keep checking for fresh cuts at every given opportunity, which is really frustrating and annoying. To add to that, they told me I'm not allowed out until I've stopped cutting completely and my scars have faded, apparently they can't trust me at all any more and they "thought I'd be the one who would do well in life, but obviously not". I have no idea what to do, with every hour that passes, the urge to cut gets stronger and I don't know how much longer I'm going to be able to resist. Maybe if my parents were letting me out and treating me the same as before I may be able to deal with it a bit easier and the urge to cut wouldn't be so strong, but they don't understand that at all, and I'm stuck as to what to do now :(... any advice would be much appreciated :).

[Fractured Silhouette]

Okay, first off, I'm sorry this has happened, but sometimes parent's do not know how to react appropriately in situations such as this. But (I'm not defending them by any stretch) it can be quite shocking to learn about something like this and it's quite natural for them to react with emotions such as anger. It's something they just can't comprehend or understand.

So what I would suggest is going on the internet and finding a fact sheet on cutting and show it to them to try and help them understand better what you're going through.
Here's one: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/self_injury.htm
You could print it out or just show them on the computer.

Or, you could try talking to your school counselor or get some support from an outside source.

Finally, in regards to the cutting, there is not much you can do, I doubt your parents are going to give you your razors back. So try an alternative such as drawing, colouring. (I can't list them all because I don't know them, that fact sheet has some pretty good tips on how to distract yourself however)

Anyway, good luck.

[Shadowsinthedark]

Okay, first off, I'm sorry this has happened, but sometimes parent's do not know how to react appropriately in situations such as this. But (I'm not defending them by any stretch) it can be quite shocking to learn about something like this and it's quite natural for them to react with emotions such as anger. It's something they just can't comprehend or understand.

So what I would suggest is going on the internet and finding a fact sheet on cutting and show it to them to try and help them understand better what you're going through.
Here's one: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/self_injury.htm
You could print it out or just show them on the computer.

Or, you could try talking to your school counselor or get some support from an outside source.

Finally, in regards to the cutting, there is not much you can do, I doubt your parents are going to give you your razors back. So try an alternative such as drawing, colouring. (I can't list them all because I don't know them, that fact sheet has some pretty good tips on how to distract yourself however)

Anyway, good luck.

Thank you so much for your help :). Although I do understand why they have reacted like this, I do feel like they could at least be trying to help instead of shouting at me and taking away all my freedom, as they are making me want to cut more and I've tried explaining this to them, but they won't listen. So hopefully by showing them the site you have shown me it will give them more of an understanding. Thanks again :).

[Fractured Silhouette]

Hey, no problem, Let us know how it goes.

[ryantombs]

+1 to that.
And i know with me. I always told myself im notgoing to die by not doing it and beat it mentally. But i also weaned off it. Instead of knives i pinched myself and took deep breaths. I even did it with my therapist. But she understands and i told her. It sooths me and not as bad as cutting or i know prople also says rubber band snapping.

[Destructive Impulse]

My parents reacted the same way so don't worry because you're not alone. My dad also punched me where I deeply carved the word hope into my arm which hurt like a bitch. There's nothing you can do but try to resist.

[Shadowsinthedark]

My dad is slowly starting to understand more and said he's happy to let me out as long as I don't cut again. My mum, however, is getting worse and today she's even told me that I don't understand... when I'm the one who's been cutting? I actually have so much anger at the moment, it's unreal...

[Fractured Silhouette]

It's good to see that your dad has become more accepting. What your mother may be saying is not that you don't understand why you cut -because you clearly do- but how you have affected her by doing it. I'm not sure, just an educated guess on my part.

Maybe you should try letting your anger out in a more positive way? Walking/Runinng/Physical exercise in general is a good way to deal with anger. Also drawing and hitting pillows and stuffed toys.

Sorry if this sounded a bit confusing. Hopefully they both will come around eventually, might just need time.

There's nothing you can do but try to resist.
Probably not a good idea in this situation.

[ryantombs]

The night i was confronted... My dad told me hes calling the abulance and i need to go to the physch ward. And screaming and my mom understood and i didnt cut for a week or two hes so ignorant to so many things resist peacefully. I use logic and calm to e when i speak

[Destructive Impulse]

The sick part of all this is that your parents are probably one reason you cut so them yelling only makes it worse

[Shadowsinthedark]

It's good to see that your dad has become more accepting. What your mother may be saying is not that you don't understand why you cut -because you clearly do- but how you have affected her by doing it. I'm not sure, just an educated guess on my part.

Maybe you should try letting your anger out in a more positive way? Walking/Runinng/Physical exercise in general is a good way to deal with anger. Also drawing and hitting pillows and stuffed toys.

Sorry if this sounded a bit confusing. Hopefully they both will come around eventually, might just need time.

She definitely meant that I don't understand why I cut and she's also saying that I don't know what's going on in my mind, but she does, which is kind of stupid because she's not a mind reader and she hasn't even bothered attempting to understand what's going on in my head... Thanks for your insight and advice, I have done a bit of drawing to calm myself down and she's gone out now so I just have time to relax and clear my mind.

The sick part of all this is that your parents are probably one reason you cut so them yelling only makes it worse

This is true, since they found out I've had way more urges than I usually would have had before they knew, purely because they're shouting at me and my mum is making me feel worthless and pathetic.