Oral: Sex or Not?

[Serenity]

A lot of people I know disagree on this point, so I thought I'd throw it out there. Do you consider oral having sex, or do you think you can have it and still stay a virgin?

[MoveAlong]

That's a good question! I'd say no, but it's so confusing that I would say yes :P Confusing, isn't it?
Is oral sex or not?
I don't think so, or at least not enough to break your virginity...I'll vote no

[Rawrbaby]

well i consider it for male to female sex but female to female and male to male i dont but still it is good

[2412]

hmmm.....

[Antares]

yes
its sexual exchange...
but i accidently posted i dont know

[Maverick]

hmmm.....
Please post only if you're going to have a constructive reply to the topic. Thanks.

[heartagram72]

well it is called ORAL SEX
so y not.
same w/ titty fuck anal sex etc.

[4IrishJustice]

i think its still considered sex. but if you've had, or given, oral sex but not conventional sex, then i would still consider you a virgin.

[Everglow]

I don't consider oral as a form of sex. It's a sexual act, but I don't think of it as sex. To me, sex captivates more sentiment than the act of shoving a penis down someone's throat

[A.J.]

Its actually considered 3rd base (out of 4) so your technically still a virgin.

[Camazotz]

Id have to say yes, cuz thats why its called"oral sex"

[Sapphire]

No.
It is part of foreplay. It isn't sexual intercourse and as such cannot count for the same.

[TeenInNeed]

No.
It is part of foreplay. It isn't sexual intercourse and as such cannot count for the same.

QFT - i will agree, i believe it is a sexual act as well as she does, but in all honesty i don't consider it as breaking your virginity... to me, you lose your virginity whenever you have true intercourse/penetration.

[Gumleaf]

this is an interesting question but i have a firm belief that although its called oral sex, its not actually sex. i believe sex to be intercourse only.

[emowhotxts]

i tink u r still a vrgin till u have u know the down there way but thats my onpinion

[Archduke Robert of France]

Not sex. You're still a virgin unless you have sexual intercourse.

[NintendoFanboy]

No.

[Maverick]

No.
If you're only going to give a one word answer, then taking the poll was enough. Post in polls threads only if you're going to contribute constructively.

[LateForTheSky]

This may sound stupid but what exactly is the defenition of oral sex? that may help. People sometimes get confused over what is what.

[Serenity]

Some other names I've heard- for a guy, a blow job, for a girl, eating her out. Basically just stimulation using the mouth/tongue.

[Rawrbaby]

Its ok, Jackson. It is where a man or woman sucks another mans dick or stimulates it with the mouth or tongue i also heard somewhere that it also means the penis going into the vagina and teabaggin

[Sunrider]

I believe losing your virginity is anal sex and straight intercourse
And jackson that's fine that you don't know and it's a good question, My idea of the definition is when a man or a woman sucks or licks a man's penis

[MoveAlong]

I believe losing your virginity is only when a dick is inserted into a vagina

Then that means gay people are virgins forever! :P
I don't really think it matters...I don't worry to much about when I lose my virginity.

Hmm...I guess when I finally do something I'll list off "well I've done this, and this blah blah blah" instead of just grouping it as one :P

[Serenity]

Then that means gay people are virgins forever! :P


lol I was just thinking the same thing

[Sunrider]

I didn't think about that, stupid me XD
I'll edit my post.

[TeenGuy512]

I say no.

[0=]

It's sex, but you don't lose your virginity, which isn't even a physical thing, just mental. If you've had oral sex you've had sex, just not sexual intercourse. If it were simply a part of foreplay and not a form of sex it would be called oral foreplay rather than sex.

[dogman]

sex is a shortening of sexual penetration, and you don't exactually penetrate in oral sex

[0=]

Shall we look at the dictionary definitions?

Sex
noun
1. either the male or female division of a species, esp. as differentiated with reference to the reproductive functions.
2. the sum of the structural and functional differences by which the male and female are distinguished, or the phenomena or behavior dependent on these differences.
3. the instinct or attraction drawing one sex toward another, or its manifestation in life and conduct.
4. coitus.
5. genitalia.
–verb (used with object)
6. to ascertain the sex of, esp. of newly-hatched chicks.
—Verb phrase
7. sex up, Informal.
a. to arouse sexually: The only intent of that show was to sex up the audience.
b. to increase the appeal of; to make more interesting, attractive, or exciting: We've decided to sex up the movie with some battle scenes.
—Idiom
8. to have sex, to engage in sexual intercourse.


So even the mighty dictionary did not specify acts that count as sex. It all depends on how the word is used. If you say "Peter wants to have sex with Sally" that would generally imply that he wishes to have intercourse with her. If you hear some gossip at school you may hear "Peter and Sally had sex", but in this case it can refer to any sexual act.

oral sex
n. Sexual activity involving oral stimulation of one's partner's sex organs.

Shall we stop denying that it's sex?

[RowanVer.3.0]

Well, see, thing is, Oral sex is a type of sex. There's no arguing that.

Thing is, to lose your virginity, you have to be penetrated. Although when you've had oral, you've had some sort of sex, you're still a virgin since you haven't had full blown intercourse.

[Glasgow]

Well yeah i'd say it is sex and it has the same STD risks as sexual intercourse (i think)

Its just not looked upon as as dirty or bad as sexual intercourse.

[close]

Its actually considered 3rd base (out of 4) so your technically still a virgin.

i think oral sex is sex but you cant lose your virginity. at least the girl cant because they have to have this skin thing inside their vagina break i think. you'll know wgen it happens because a little blood come out.

But dont worry it shouldnt be her period.at least this is what happened when i had vaginal

[Aηdy]

I think that sex is when the penis enters the vagina, and nothing else.

Sexual intercourse is the pairing of opposite-sex (or hermaphroditic internal fertilization animals) for copulation. The primary biological purpose of sexual intercourse is the creation of offspring.

Oral sex consists of all the sexual activities that involve the use of the mouth, tongue, and possibly throat to stimulate genitalia. It is sometimes performed to the exclusion of all other forms of sexual activity. Oral sex may include the ingestion or absorption of semen or vaginal fluids.

I do think there is a significant difference between the two.

[byee]

I think we're splitting hairs here. oral sex is sexual behavior between 2 people. Eventhough it's not intercourse, it' still sexual. So, strictly speaking, having oral sex doesn't mean you're not a virgin, but it does mean you're sexually active. Maybe it's the difference between a noun and a verb.

Alot of people feel better 'only' having oral sex because they feel they haven't broken some rule and that technically they're still 'pure'. But like most technicalities, eventhough they might live up to the letter of the law, they really don't live up to the spirit of the law, so to speak.

[george]

personly i wouldnt consider oral sex to be REAL sex because losing your virginity would be like have just plain sex not oral sex ^^

[RaisingSand]

I consider oral sex to be sex. You are still at risk of RTD's, in some cases, oral sex can have the same negative outcome as intercourse (esp. if you are young and in your first relationship). And secondly, calling it oral SEX is a big giveaway. XD

[Aηdy]

Oral sex and sex is like the same as pot and plant pot, its the same thing but just more specific. So oral sex is a kind of sexual activity but not sex.

[UKGuy9]

In my opinion, sex is one vagina and one penis coming together so the woman has a chance of conceiving. In oral sex, the woman has no chance of conceiving. And before you all say, "Oh yes she can", that's my personal opinion!

[Aηdy]

In my opinion, sex is one vagina and one penis coming together so the woman has a chance of conceiving. In oral sex, the woman has no chance of conceiving. And before you all say, "Oh yes she can", that's my personal opinion!

I'd say I agree with pretty much all of that!

[Maverick]

I'd say I agree with pretty much all of that!
So gay people are virgins for life then? :P

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

Its called Oral SEX for a reason:P

[Hyper]

Sex is sexual intercourse with the chance of pregnancy.. And ''penetration'' is involved..

As for the gay part, most gay people have still had sex with a female :P

And there is penetration involved.....

[aero booster]

I think everyone should try oral sex on a boy and on a girl i've done it on both it was FUN:wub:

[Underground_Network]

Thats not the question Aero Booster.. but w/e.. this thread is somewhat old, but its fine, b/c I don't see any other threads like it... but any way.. I see it as sex in the sense that one person's thing is going inside another person's thing (Yes that sounds vague, and sounds like what a 5th grader would say, but I'm really tired and too lazy to think), but I don't see it as a way to lose your virginity.. and I guess if you can't lose your virginity through it, its not sex? Idk.. I'll vote for not sure.

[northskater110]

i dont think that you can lose ur virginity through oral sex, but i will still wait until 16 just to make sure i dont get the pants sued off of me =]

[Soccerkix]

Its actually considered 3rd base (out of 4) so your technically still a virgin.


what he said sounds right, its a kind of sex at 3rd base but you didnt loose your virginity

[Serenity]

Thats not the question Aero Booster.. but w/e.. this thread is somewhat old, but its fine, b/c I don't see any other threads like it...

Ditto on both counts, thanks U_N

[redcar]

As for the gay part, most gay people have still had sex with a female :tongue:

Mmmm no.

[Ironic Infidel In England]

As for the gay part, most gay people have still had sex with a female :P

Says who?

[thesonicguy]

No It's not!
And yes it's not breaking your virginity.
I vote no.
I think it's not sex.

[MoveAlong]

I completely change what I think based on what was pointed out in sex ed
I didn't learn anything but it made me think differently about it!

I think that it is sex because you can get many of the STDs from it. You can get infections, you can get HIV, HPV, all sorts of stuff, so yeah I change my mind, I think that it is sex because it's just as dangerous as vaginal and anal intercourse.

[Serenity]

Hm.......because it's as dangerous as intercourse, it's grouped in the same category? I dunno about that...

Playing devil's advocate: you can get some STD's from your mother before birth, too.

[MoveAlong]

You can get some STDs from getting someone's blood in your eye, mouth, in your bloodstream/if you have an open wound or by getting it in your eye, or by coming in contact with a used needle
How that would happen? If you were a doctor, surgeon, paramedic, someone who chooses to help in an emergency situation, EMT, if you are one of the victims, if you do certain drugs like heroine with other people etc

Why would oral sex not be considered sex?

[Hyper]

I completely change what I think based on what was pointed out in sex ed
I didn't learn anything but it made me think differently about it!

I think that it is sex because you can get many of the STDs from it. You can get infections, you can get HIV, HPV, all sorts of stuff, so yeah I change my mind, I think that it is sex because it's just as dangerous as vaginal and anal intercourse.

You can get HIV with kissing.. So that must be sex too

[MoveAlong]

No, you can't get HIV from kissing. If you want to see resources of this knowledge, ask. The only way of getting HIV from kissing is if one person is bleeding from the mouth or one has a cut in their mouth and another person has a cut in their mouth.

Please read my post that's just above yours, not above Valerie. If HIV is a sex thing, then that must mean bleeding is sex too. Don't get sassy with me.

Edit: Also, oral sex could be considered a form of sex to lose your virginity over, because for some people (gay and straight alike), it's a loving thing to do in bed or a way to share your body with someone (yeah tacky wording, I know :P)

Some gay men even choose to have oral sex and nothing else. Even more so, if we classified every type of intercourse (vaginal, anal, and oral) as breaking your virginity, then why do some use the term "I'm a anal virgin" etc? If we had to classify everything in one, personally, I'd put all 3 in the same catagory because they're all risky to do, but a way to share feelings and emotions between a person.

But of course there's the argument that sharing feelings an emotions can also be done through mutual masturbation, which some couples prefer or stick to. Still, that isn't nearly as dangerous as oral, anal, and vaginal, so that's why I classify it this way. It's just my opinion :P

[sunsings]

i would have to say no

[irhmrh]

once a penis comes in contact with somepart of you body i say no more virgin

[Θάνατος]

I would say oral is sex, but no you are still a virgin until you have intercourse. In order to lose your virinigty you would have to penetrate with your penis and be penetrated by a penis. This includes anal or vaginal intercourse.

[RowanVer.3.0]

Virginity really has no meaning now a days, unless you're some kind of puritan.. So, basically, make of it what you will...

But technically, the preservation of the hymen is virginity... If you've broken your hymen already and have sex, your body will be pretty much the exact same as before you had sex... Meaning, all virginity is now a days is a title. A title meaning you've had intercourse.

So, no, you'd still be a virgin, since fellatio/cunnilingus isn't intercourse.

[Serenity]

once a penis comes in contact with somepart of you body i say no more virgin

In order to lose your virinigty you would have to penetrate with your penis and be penetrated by a penis. This includes anal or vaginal intercourse.

So then do lesbians stay virgins forever?

[whitecar]

in my mind it's not but...

Its actually considered 3rd base (out of 4) so your technically still a virgin.

ture... very true :D

[Nikki9]

I'm not too sure. I would think it does mean you lose your virginity because to "have sex" refers to oral as well as intercourse.
However, it just doesn't seem the same as having intercourse, I don't know why.

[TheDude]

I think that if you are the one getting orgasmed then yeah, but if you are the one giving the orgasm, then no.
If you are doing something like 69 where you both orgasm then it is definitely sex.

[ThatCanadianGuy]

I think it's a sexual activity of course; the same with mutual masturbation (handjobs/ fingering, whatever). Though I would not say you've lost your virginity by doing it. Basically I think that mutual masturbation with your partner is the best thing to do in a relationship. There's no chance of getting pregnant or STD's (if you're clean about it that is; there ARE some exceptions). Oral Sex gives you the same risk of getting an STD as regular sex, so to be safe I'll stick with some mutual fun untill I think I'm mature enough to take the next step :yeah:

[Chrisownsu]

Yeah, anything really. Haha Girl or Guy.

[Aηdy]

Look at it this way, you read the back of the bookm you know that it's about (oral sex). You read the whole book, you know exactly what happenes (sex).

[tay2stay]

If you only had oral sex, i guess ur still a virgin, but it's still a form of sex regardless...and theres still a risk for STDs

[Attax]

me and my girlfriend both enjoi it

[Serenity]

me and my girlfriend both enjoi it

Yeah thanks but that's not what's being asked. Don't post unless you're contributing to the thread, please and thank you.

[dipper94]

it is a form of sex, but i dont count it as loosing your virginity

[theOperaGhost]

This is over a year old..:locked: