Advice...? I don't know, meep.

[Electra Heart]

Ohey, so long story short. I'm gay, only dated girls, obviously that went smoother than smooth. I've been in TONS of little flings, but now I want something more serious. Most of my friends are girls, I really only have one good guy friend, but... yeah, no. So... Yeah how the fuck do you do this? I'm like a toddler. I haven't the slightest idea how to find someone to be in a relationship with. Maybe I shouldn't be finding them...? I don't know, this is rocket science to me.

[RCT109]

Well try meeting new people and work that way

[Maverick]

Well try meeting new people and work that way
Lol thats helpful....

Anyway, Tim when you're gay and wanting to go into the dating world, largely depending upon your area can determine how easy or hard it will be for you. When I was your age in high school throughout my 4 years of high school I don't think I ever saw one person that was full fledged openly gay or not even a hint on the gaydar. Maybe I wasn't paying close enough attention or that's just how it was... I dunno. So I know you'll be starting high school this fall and maybe as you get to know people you may find somebody that interests you and shares the same sexuality.

Part of the problem is that most gay people are in the closet so its not easy to pinpoint who are the gay ones because not everyone holds a rainbow flag and talks in a sissy voice. My biggest suggestion is to make many guy friends and as you get closer with them maybe you'll find out more about them. One friend you make may later confide in you that they are gay or maybe not. Its a hit or miss situation but if you don't put yourself out there getting to know guys (even if they turn out to be straight) you'll never meet anymore. You aren't at the current age when you can just walk into a gay bar or strip club and know that every guy there is gay.

But definitely check up on any gay straight alliance clubs in your school, local area, and any pride parades. Remember relationships aren't something that you look for and find... they just happen, sometimes when you least expect it. The goal shouldn't be trying to find a boyfriend but the goal is to make friends and being open to a relationship if thats the way the cards lay out.

Also please for the love of God do not resort to online dating.

[Donkey]

It happens when you least expect it bud. Are you out? That's most definitely the first step to getting anywhere, you'll find people still in the closet might come to you.

[Electra Heart]

Lol thats helpful....

Anyway, Tim when you're gay and wanting to go into the dating world, largely depending upon your area can determine how easy or hard it will be for you. When I was your age in high school throughout my 4 years of high school I don't think I ever saw one person that was full fledged openly gay or not even a hint on the gaydar. Maybe I wasn't paying close enough attention or that's just how it was... I dunno. So I know you'll be starting high school this fall and maybe as you get to know people you may find somebody that interests you and shares the same sexuality.

Part of the problem is that most gay people are in the closet so its not easy to pinpoint who are the gay ones because not everyone holds a rainbow flag and talks in a sissy voice. My biggest suggestion is to make many guy friends and as you get closer with them maybe you'll find out more about them. One friend you make may later confide in you that they are gay or maybe not. Its a hit or miss situation but if you don't put yourself out there getting to know guys (even if they turn out to be straight) you'll never meet anymore. You aren't at the current age when you can just walk into a gay bar or strip club and know that every guy there is gay.

But definitely check up on any gay straight alliance clubs in your school, local area, and any pride parades. Remember relationships aren't something that you look for and find... they just happen, sometimes when you least expect it. The goal shouldn't be trying to find a boyfriend but the goal is to make friends and being open to a relationship if thats the way the cards lay out.

Also please for the love of God do not resort to online dating.

That was basically my sketched out plan for next year... just not as many details :P And oh GOD no, wouldn't dream of that.

It happens when you least expect it bud. Are you out? That's most definitely the first step to getting anywhere, you'll find people still in the closet might come to you.

To a few people, in high school I'll probably just say fuck it, and be open about it. Never met any kind of bisexual or gay guy in real life so, I really don't know how to do that anyway.

[The Joker]

Honestly, if you are open about your sexuality, you will probably find many "closet cases" that will confide in you with their sexuality...and possibly hit on you. Depending on your area/school, there might only be a few gay guys, or a lot. I know of a few guys that are mostly in the closet at my school.

I dated someone (not for a long period of time, mind you :P) who I met at an LGBT youth group in the Vancouver area. If you live in a smaller city/town, try a Google search with something like "gay youth (city)". If you can't find anything there, maybe see if you can find anything in the nearest big city.

[Akasuki]

Like another poster said, it comes when you least expect it. You can't look for love, it finds you.