Can any girls help me out please?

[rubberbabybuggybumpers]

I was wondering if a girl liked a boy(sexually), would they ever ask the boy if they felt the same way or even ask the boy to ask them out or would they say nothing in the hope that the boy would say/do something. I have just noticed, without being offensive or sexist because that is most definitely the not what I am trying to achieve, that the boy is always the one who 'asks'. At least that's the way it is here in merry old london. Maybe it's different in the states, I just don't know.

I would feel a lot better if I knew if a girl liked me or not before I 'went for it'. It would be better that people would just speak their minds (tactfully) than for every attempt at a relationship, in this instance, to be a stab in the dark. Trying to be a psychic is all I ever seem to be able to do in this instance. Any ideas.

[Serenity]

Well, I generally don't ever voice my feelings, because i'm actually pretty insecure. However, had I not spoken up about the way I feel about my current bf, our relationship never would have happened. So, I've learned that being the girl doesn't mean I have to sit around and wait for the guy to get a clue- quite the opposite. I'm still learning to be open about my feelings in every aspect of life- it's definitely something I have to practice as it doesn't at all come easily to me.

So to answer your question: in my experience, both personal and with other people, yes, the girl generally waits for the guy to speak up. Though not always :daisy:

[rubberbabybuggybumpers]

thank you. I wish there more girls who could just speak openly to someone they liked like that. Oh and you have very good grammar, thank you for that too. I like not to have to struggle to read posts.

[rubberbabybuggybumpers]

If the 'girls' is visible to you in yellow and bold then i'm sorry as Im not being sarcastic, I just don't know what happened to it.

[Serenity]

A) You're quite welcome
B) I'm working on the whole being-open thing :daisy:
C) Thanks, I pride myself on good grammar :P
D) 'girls' is fine, no worries
E) Just edit your post next time if you want to add something rather than double posting as this is considered spamming.

That is all. Happy posting :D

[wes]

dude struggle to read post look in the mirror oh and girls might not express it openly for the same reasons guys dont and as they say in the marines dont think just do so if you like a girl just ask her out that might be the only way to get the answer you whant

[rubberbabybuggybumpers]

Sorry I don't understand the mirror part and the US Marine Corps may say this but the Royal Marines don't so I wouldn't be able to draw any moral conclusions from it due to the fact that I didn't know it existed.

[sexyblondie]

hm. im a very bold person. so i usually tell the guy..or better yet ill just make a move. whatever happens..happens.. but most of my friends dont do anything..i guess it really just depends on the girl.

[LateForTheSky]

Wish more girls asked people out instead of waiting on the other to make the first move.

[Maverick]

Wish more girls asked people out instead of waiting on the other to make the first move.
What's stopping you from making the first move?

[Rawrbaby]

because people see it as that the man should make the move first and we see it all the time women need to take the action or they will fall behind

[RowanVer.3.0]

Seriously, girls making the first move isn't as great as you'd think. I came into high-school with the same mindset as you, and as I expected, girls are way more upfront in High-school.

I was asked out a total of 4 times, one I accepted not even knowing who it was. She wasn't bad, she just kind of weirded me out for whatever reason, and I kinda realized that I want to be the one that makes the move.

I think it just comes down to me knowing what I want. If someone you don't want is forced on you(get your mind outta the gutter), you feel really uncomfortable and odd around that person.

The time I accepted was at the start of the year, I ended up turning 3 other people down afterwards. It was just a bad experience and it was dumb of me to say yes.

So, to sum up what I have to say: Be ballsy, make the first move, if you get shot down so be it!

[Sunrider]

I suggest making the first move or becoming friends with the girl first to know if she likes you. If you're shy and get shot down, you could always act like it was a joke and maybe save some embarassment.

[BasesLoaded90]

hm. im a very bold person. so i usually tell the guy..or better yet ill just make a move. whatever happens..happens.. but most of my friends dont do anything..i guess it really just depends on the girl.


how does making the first move with a guy youve been in a 2 1/2 yr relationship make you bold.....speak for yourself. The rest of us may not be in the same place as you.