Bi?

[Short Circuit]

Would you consider someone as being bi, just because he received oral once?

[Stronger]

Just once? No, probably not, since I guess that would be considered experimenting or whatever.

[Incompris]

No, if it was only once, just probably experimenting

[PerpetualMotionSquad]

No u were just experimenting a second time maybe a third time definitely

[Harley Quinn]

Would you consider someone as being bi, just because he received oral once?

No. The person received, not gave, therefore implying that they didn't want to give and so therefore implying they only liked getting oral from someone, thus this person probably isn't bi.

[CrossingtheCourtyard]

No, receiving doesn't make you bi. Lot's of straight people will receive from others and that doesn't change their sexual orientation, often it's just for pleasure.

The only think that would make you bisexual was if you had feelings for both men and women.

[Fariko Draw]

Bi no, Curious once, your only Bi if you chose or truly believe that you like both genders, otherwise its just be curious

[Jupiter]

You don't become Bi. After you speaking to me, it sounds like you are, and you just realized it.

[Short Circuit]

Eric, I have explained to you what happened, for obvious reasons, I cannot put it on here as your not allowed to share techniques/stories, HE was the one who did things to me, I just let it happen without respondiing.

I dont think just this one experience would make me bi, even though he has been my best friend for most of my life, and I love him like a brother. This is really bothering me, and cant come to terms with what happened, and have never had to question my sexuality before.

I just dont know anymore :(

[JamHaychUK]

If you're romantically and/or sexually attracted to males and females, you're bi.

If you're not like that, but do enjoy experimenting with your friend, I'd say you're curious at the least.

[Jupiter]

You don't need an experience to "make" you bi. I never had an experience and I know.

[YOUNGFLYGUY]

No but if it keep going on then your bi

[OregonStateDude]

I've given head to my best friend more than once, and it doesn't make him bisexual. He just likes having his thing sucked.

[prob1996]

No , one time doesn't make u BI. there's more to it than just sex

[Desuetude]

I dont think just this one experience would make me bi, even though he has been my best friend for most of my life, and I love him like a brother. This is really bothering me, and cant come to terms with what happened, and have never had to question my sexuality before.

I just dont know anymore :(
You say you love him like a brother so not in a romantic way?
Bi would imply that you liked both boys and girls physically and emotionally, sometimes sorting out your feelings can take time, I know someone that wasn't completely sure what they felt and after a week of talking to the other person they figured it out. Sometimes all it takes is time, I would talk to your friend, see what he has to say and ask about his feelings towards the situation. That could help you find out whether or not to act on what has already happened?

[Short Circuit]

You say you love him like a brother so not in a romantic way?



This is really complicated, but let me try to explain the situation.

I have been friends with this boy for most of our lives, he spends more time at my house than he does his own. He is openly gay, I have never thought about having a relationship with him, as I think of him like I do my brother, sort of a bromance kind of thing. At sleepovers, he always tries to feel me up, but this wakes me up and I stop him.

However, at the last sleepover, I did not stop him and he gave me head, he also did another sexual act that I will not describe on here.

I was talking to Dierdrie about this, and he asked me if I could see myself in a relationship with HIM. My reply was, with him yes, with any other boy no. I think the bromance we have made me think it would be alright to sort of date him, but everything in my body says I dont want to do it. Also, I could not see me doing anything back to him (hand or mouth or bum) as I am not into that at all.

I am just so confused as to what went on and what I should do about it :what:

[OregonStateDude]

He is openly gay, I have never thought about having a relationship with him, as I think of him like I do my brother, sort of a bromance kind of thing. At sleepovers, he always tries to feel me up, but this wakes me up and I stop him.

Okay, you need to talk to this guy and tell him that your body is off limits. This is the kind of thing that can destroy a friendship.

I'm in a similar situation, although I am not openly gay. When Justin and I started fooling around, we set limits as to what I could or could not do to him. And I've never tried to "feel him up" when he's sleeping.

We do share his bed when I sleep over at his house, but I make sure there is no body contact between us. I'm not stupid enough to throw away 6 years of friendship for some cheap thrill. :eek:

[Short Circuit]

Sorry to bring this back up.

I think our friendship is in ruins, I cant face talking to him about what happened, and I can not even look him in the face now. I tried talking to him about it shortly after it happened, but can not come a closure on it.

Why the hell did I let this happen?

[Desuetude]

Sorry to bring this back up.

I think our friendship is in ruins, I cant face talking to him about what happened, and I can not even look him in the face now. I tried talking to him about it shortly after it happened, but can not come a closure on it.

Why the hell did I let this happen?
Hey, don't beat yourself up about it, it's not worth it and won't help also don't be sorry, that's what the forums are for.

How is he acting around you? Is he being weird or annoying about it. I see no reason why you shouldn't stay friends, maybe give it some time and give each other some space and see how things go? It's happened and although there is nothing you can do to change that now running away and burying it will do no good either. Sometimes it's hard to accept, feelings and actions although they can be and are sometimes 'forgotten' you can't just leave things like that, an extra burden on your shoulders isn't what you need.

I know it's hard but if anything you need to talk to him about this. Don't just leave your friendship in tatters forever wondering how it ever got so bad. It sounds like he's a great friend and you shouldn't give up so easily, fight for him, for both of you and although at first it might be awkward just try it, again, there can never be too many times you can try to fix a friendship when it's important to you.

[Rayquaza]

I think that a man can't be judged by the actions he does, only what he says and what his emotions portray. I think that only you can call yourself bisexual or not, it's not anyone's decision to. I also think that as it's still teen years, you're experimenting and that is perfectly fine, by the time you're an adult and you've settled down, you'll think about how crazy you were in your teen years, and how that has effectively made you a better person and see which sex you are attracted to. Only you can tell if you are straight, bi or gay, and our opinions don't matter. Personally, I don't think that it's gay or anything, it was only oral. Heck, theres a guy in our school that had gay sex and says he's straight. But does anyone care? No.

You need to come clean and tell him that you don't want him to keep making sexual moves on you. You need to tell him hes uncomfortable and that you don't want to continue any further. You need to sit him in a room and tell him. Make sure there are no distractions, this is serious. Don't leave your friendship like this, make amends and fix it. You said he's like your brother. Imagine losing a brother. I couldn't, that would be too awful.

You don't become Bi. After you speaking to me, it sounds like you are, and you just realized it.

Eric, I don't think it was called for bringing up what seems to be a private and uncomfortable conversation that he probably doesn't want to talk about again. But he's opened up now which could be potentially better for him, and I congratulate you for finding the courage to tell us, so thank you.

[Bath]

Unless you have emotional (and maybe sexual) attraction to the same and opposite sex, then no.

Nobody can really tell you your sexuality other than you, though.

[RoseyCadaver]

You don't need an experience to "make" you bi. I never had an experience and I know.

This. I've only had experiences with guys, but I know I'd happily do something with a girl or two lol.

That, and I also want to say sexual experiences don't always define your sexuality. My boyfriend has done things with girls before, but he said he didn't like it at all. He's gay.lol.

And to be bisexual is to have physical and emotional attraction to both sexes, not just physical.

[Laquifa]

Just once ?? That's basically experimentation .