Can someone please explain.

[Destructive Impulse]

So apparently according to people I've talked to over the Internet my parents have verbally and psychologically abused me but I feel as if that's bull shit so can y'all please clarify what would qualify as verbal and psychologically abuse and even if that's a real thing. Sorry y'all if ya disagree with me.

[Mob Boss]

Well, those people may not know the circummstances and obviously don't live in your household. I would consider verbal and psychological abuse as belittling another through words or another form of expression. Maybe a few more details would help, but if you feel like you're not being abused and you're happy and content with your home life I wouldn't put too much thought into others' opinions. But, if you are being abused you should tell someone. I think some times people assume strict parents psychologically abusee their children because they are so hard on them. My parents are strict, and personally I think it's made me a better person than some other kids I know who are disrespectful. Ultimately, what matters is your happiness and wellbeing.

[Destructive Impulse]

Well in no way am I content with my family but I don't really consider being belittled as abuse. It doesn't make sense in my mind

[Mob Boss]

You asked me to clarify what I considered psyhological and verbal abuse and I did. If someone belittles you long enough you're bound to break. It must be bothering you for you to post this, just sayin'

[Destructive Impulse]

Sorry and if it helps here's a thread I made a while ago thats pretty normal in my house. http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=134957

[Mob Boss]

Okay, so I read the thread and that does not seem normal behavior coming from parents. I'm not going to judge people's parental skills nor tell them how to raise their child, but they are acting as if you're a second class citizen. I understand wanting what's best for your children and pushing them to strive harder and build a great life for themselves but that same child should get a choice in their happiness, after all it's your life. So, what I think is it could be harmful to you and your confidence and their lack of support can't help any either. I'm not going to say if I think it's abuse or not, because frankly I don't know. Does it sound bad? Yes. Do I think it could potentially do harm to you? Yes. But, I can't really classify something I don't knoww much about. So, here's what I did, I looked up the definition and information for both so you can look through it and decide for yourself.

*Psychological abuse, also referred to as emotional abuse or mental abuse, is a form of abuse characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another to behavior that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder.
http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Psychological_abuse

*Verbal abuse (also known as reviling) is best described as a negative defining statement told to you or about you; or by withholding any response thus defining the target as non-existent. If the abuser doesn't immediately apologize and rarely indulge in a defining statement, the relationship may be a verbally abusive one.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Verbal_abuse

www.verbalabuse.com
http://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/emotional-psychological-abuse/what-is-psychological-abuse-of-a-child/

I hope you find what you're looking for. And, I didn't mean to be snappy earlier, I was in a bad mood. Haha sorry.

[Destructive Impulse]

but there are many things that can lead to anxiety and depression so having those doesn't nessassarly mean psychological abuse correct?

[Mortal Coil]

That's correct, but abuse can be a major factor.

[Destructive Impulse]

I personally dont think it's too bad

[BigKid8]

verbal is always cussing and yelling at you, telling you that you are nothing and deserved to be treated like it.

psychologically is embedding it into your mind i believe

[Destructive Impulse]

verbal is always cussing and yelling at you, telling you that you are nothing and deserved to be treated like it.


That seems normal to me.

[xXoblivionXx]

if that is normal to you that means you have been treated like this for some time. It's wrong. The question is do you feel that this is wrong? Do you hate your parents for treating you this way?

[Destructive Impulse]

Um no I dont hate my parents. And I dont feel its wrong.

[xXoblivionXx]

so you feel like there is no problem? hate to be rude and don't take this in the wrong way but why did you make this thread? to see what is considered verbal and psychological abuse?

[Destructive Impulse]

Ya because multiple people have told me I've been abused yet I don't think I have. It all just seems normal to me.

[Mortal Coil]

Well, different people have different standards for what is considered abuse. If you don't feel like you're being abused, then it's all good :)

[Destructive Impulse]

Thank you now how do I convince others I haven't been abused

[Mob Boss]

Thank you now how do I convince others I haven't been abused

If they are generally worried about your wellbeing you could explain to them that while they might assume you are being abused you aren't being harmed or mistreated. If they are just being nosey.......tell them to go play in traffic. :p

[Smeagol]

Well, people who have been abused in this manner generally get conditioned to believe that it is normal and that they deserve it. One can get an inferiority complex and other issues from this. If you don't want to do anything about it, it's up to you. Just putting that out there.

[Destructive Impulse]

If they are generally worried about your wellbeing you could explain to them that while they might assume you are being abused you aren't being harmed or mistreated. If they are just being nosey.......tell them to go play in traffic. :p

Well I have been physically abused

[ApresMidi]

I dont know if its only an issue if the persons happy with it or not? What about people who grow up being molested and only realise when school tells them its not normal.
They dont know theyre being abused. They dont hate their parents , they dont realise its wrong. Still abuse. x

[Smeagol]

Well I have been physically abused

Who physically abused you?

[Destructive Impulse]

My mom and dad

[Smeagol]

Well then their verbal abuse is probably malicious too...

[Destructive Impulse]

I don't really think verbal or psychical abuse is a real thing and even it was I haven't been verbally abused

[Mob Boss]

How could it not be a real thing? I'm not trying to sound mean at all, I'm just trying to understand what you're feeling. Do you think you could be denying it? One of my friends, Josh, gets beat by his dad and he amazes me with how much blame he puts on himself and denying that his dad is doing any harm when obviously he is. I understand it must be hard to wrap your head around the abuse or the people the abuse comes from, but maybe it's in your best interest to come to terms with everything you've been through.

[Destructive Impulse]

I dont think im denying it. Its absurd to think that being yelled at is a form of abuse. Neglet is abuse. Beatings are abuse. But a few harsh sentences isn't.

[Mob Boss]

I dont think im denying it. Its absurd to think that being yelled at is a form of abuse. Neglet is abuse. Beatings are abuse. But a few harsh sentences isn't.

You just said you were physically abused as well. You're really confusing me.

[Destructive Impulse]

I was physically abused... I'm denying that verbal abuse is a real thing and that I've even been abused in that aspect