how do i tell my Mum?

[Matt_Keith_James]

Lately i really hate my life, so i started cutting myself on my arm. And it's too much hassel hiding it and covering it up when my parents are around. so how do i tell my mum that i've been self harming? cheers for helping.

[Fractured Silhouette]

Well, the way I see it, there are lots of ways to tell your mum about your SH. It all depends on what you're most comfortable with. I would suggest perhaps have in your head what you want to tell her before you do. If you don't want to talk about it immediately you could try writing a letter first and putting it somewhere your mum can find it.

But be aware your mum might not react the way you want her to immediately, so try to help her understand why your doing it by explaining how you feel about your self-harm. Don't be dissuaded if your mum reacts negatively, from what I understand it can be quite surprising and shocking to learn that someone close to you is hurting themselves. So just be prepared, have an explanation ready and I'm sure you'll be fine. Good luck.

Hope this helped.

[dreamer18xx]

I'm not sure I had my therapist tell my mom for me. So if you go and see one maybe that may be a considerable option for you or maybe you could write it down and show her if it's too hard for you to say. Try to explain it the best you can and maybe warn her beforehand that it's going to be a hard topic for you so you just want her to listen. My mom reacted alright she cried and I gave her a hug but all moms react differently. Just remember your her baby and it's hard for her to accept it but she'll support you b/c she loves you like all moms do. Best of luck to you and don't lose your courage you CAN do this it's just going to be a little hard. Best of luck to you Hun <3

[FullyAlive]

I wish I could of told my mum how I wanted to. Personally I'd recommend writing a letter or preparing a few notes on what you want to say to her. Then printing out fact and information sheets to hand her to read through straight after before any discussion. This way hopefully it'll clear up and negative, stereotypical misconceptions and help her think through what she wants to say or ask. You might also want to have an action plan of what you want to happen afterwards ready to talk to her about.

[Fariko Draw]

I wish I could of told my mum how I wanted to. Personally I'd recommend writing a letter or preparing a few notes on what you want to say to her. Then printing out fact and information sheets to hand her to read through straight after before any discussion. This way hopefully it'll clear up and negative, stereotypical misconceptions and help her think through what she wants to say or ask. You might also want to have an action plan of what you want to happen afterwards ready to talk to her about. I agree with what louise said, but when it comes to talking to your mum, explain to her why you've started cutting yourself, deep down she will be glad that you came to her first, and then should be able to help you stop it, maybe just by talking, maybe with help of a doctor, but I know you will pull through... Good luck mate :)