It's Complicated Would Be An Understatement

[Underground_Network]

So I haven't been on here in forever, but I find myself in a situation where the easiest place to seek advice is probably on here.

So long story relatively short, I have like four girls in my life right now--but two are out of the picture in this scenario--to somewhat reduce the complexity of the situation and because of the issue of distance with those two as well.

So I'm 18 and just got back from college. Since early November out of sheer luck I've been talking to this girl who's 17 and still in high school who I developed a crush on two years ago but when I tried to get close to her I fucked things up.

Since then though, we've been talking nonstop and the couple of breaks I've had whilst in college I've spent mostly with her. Since I got back from college (which was literally just a couple days ago), I've already been on a date with her that went okay, though not exceptionally.

Needless to say, she is wonderful and I've been meaning to ask her out. But I have the hesitance because...

There's another girl here, who just came back from college. She's my age and I've had a thing for her since my freshman year of high school.

I've never been able to read her and I've never thought she's been into me, but now I'm not sure. We've been talking on and off lately and she's just so beautiful and so sweet and it's just so confusing.

Originally my decision was easy because this second girl was in a relationship and this first girl was the only girl in my life who I could spend physical time with. But just a couple weeks ago this second girl broke up with her boyfriend and now that she's single it's just driving me crazy.

I keep putting off asking out the first girl because I just feel overwhelmed and feel like I still really like this second girl.

But I mean this is coming from a guy who typically has no girls to go after because I constantly fuck things up, and I don't want to fuck up here. I feel like I should ask the first girl out and see where things go from there, but it's just such a mess in my head right now.

*Sigh*

[ImCoolBeans]

Don't make yourself settle for second best, you won't be happy with the outcome. Go with the girl who you think will genuinely make you happier, who you think you would most want to spend the most time with and who you think you would enjoy spending more time with. Looks aren't everything, so don't just go for that girl because she may be a little prettier; but weigh it out, find the better and worse qualities of the two, and decide which girl would be more pleasurable to date, since it seems that you have the choice.

[KarkatLuv]

even if you arn't looking for a long term relationship, you need to think about what girl you would prefer to spend your life with, she is the one you want

[Electra Heart]

Well... honestly, they both seem to be eligible girlfriends. You just have to asses the situation, and decide which one would be better for you. Not them, you. Take some time to do this, and when you come up with which one would be better to date, go for it. Good luck :)

[Heatbomb21]

If you REALLY want to give the 2nd a shot, wait a while. A good time. When she just broke up not too long ago she's bound to be pretty sensitive regardless of how it seems and how you feel. You wouldn't want to fuck things up because you asked too EARLY.

I'd say go with #1.

[Underground_Network]

I asked out number one and she said yes and things are going well early on. She's amazing and I realize I'm extremely glad I chose her.

Thanks for the input you guys.

[ImCoolBeans]

Awesome :) Glad it's going well, and glad you chose the right girl for the right reasons

[Electra Heart]

Woot woot, lookachoo :cool: Gettin' all dem ladies