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TheCal
May 14th, 2012, 01:20 AM
Hey there, my account is new here no doubt, however not my presence. I have been here for quite a while hanging around in the shadows reading about people's experiences and such forth. I believed it was time that I present my own story and questions to everyone, hopefully some people at least will read it and comment on it! To start you can call me "Cal" just because it's a good alias ^.^.

So anyway, it'd take a very long time to give you the whole context of this situation but I'll give a brief overview:

So there is a friend and he is a guy, anyway I really like him and I am really not sure whether he likes me or not, and I am not really positive of my sexuality that is why I won't state what I am but anyway why should I proclaim my sexuality, heterosexuals don't have to proclaim to their parents when they are sure of it so why should anyone else have to. Anyway - back on topic: So I met him in school and we have around 2 years of knowing each other and I believe starting this year he is a lot more touchy - very touchy!

Anyway, he always hugs me and touches me and stuff. Especially in Spanish class - the only class we have together, he always touches my arms and upper thighs and rubs them, and I'm not saying I don't like it, but I am really worried what people think about me so I never reciprocate but I let him do it to me. Anyway one time on Skype we were talking and had another friend there and we were playing a computer game (League of Legends ^.^) and friend B said jokingly "You're so gay!" and he replied "No, I am bi....why aren't you guys laughing?" also a lot of times people call him gay he replies that he is bi.

You probably think he is extremely effeminate and an obvious gay now that people always accuse him, but the main reason I don't think he is - is because he plays a lot of sports and always comments on women and how hot they are.

Anyway I was at his house once and we were playing computer games (League of Legends ^.^) and he was just in his boxers but anyway he pulled down his boxers a bit and I saw his pubes (xD) and we just looked at each other and went on, also he mooned me once but I looked away so I didn't look. Later on we just sat on the couch watching TV and we were very close lying near each other.

But the most significant thing which made me think was, that last weekend we were at a fundraising event and you stay over tonight and it was cold and our huge bunch of friends was lying on a blanket in the dark and a lot of people laying on each other but he lay on my stomach and then my hand coincidently went into his and we just lay there for like 5 minutes and he kept squeezing my hand but I didn't move it, I don't know why - I should have. Anyway afterwards he didn't seem to want to be super close to me after that - but we still talked a bit, although it was an overnight event so maybe that is why... we stayed awake all night and there are like 30+ people in this group of friends. Haha.

Anyway! What do you guys think about this situation, if anyone reads it..that is...

Sonic Boom
May 14th, 2012, 02:11 AM
Um firstly, just because your friend plays a lot of sport and comments on girls doesn't necessarily mean he is straight/bi/whatever.

Anyway, it just sounds like your friend wanted some reciprocation during the sleep-over. You didn't give him much, and now he thinks you're not interested. Probably explains why he keeps his distance now. But you're not ready to express your sexuality to the world just yet. It might be a little early for you to just label your sexuality, and could just be the hormones screwing with your mind. So your reactions (or lack thereof) were completely understandable! I went through a similar ordeal. And i only "came out" when I was comfortable, and sure enough about it to do so.

Now maybe just explain your situation to your friend, because you could be throwing away a perfectly good relationship opportunity.