online relationship

[Pipo]

Hey, I know this might be pretty popular subject or not. But anyway I'd like to ask has anyone actually have worked out a online relationship? what I mean is you met a guy/gal in net and now you're dating in person possibly live together or close to each other so you can meet everyday.

I can honestly say I've had two online relationships and I though it would work out but both of them failed. Obvious reasons were that we lived in different country and both of them were English speakers as native language. I'm not. So both of these relationships that I had, had a issue that we cant afford to see each other and that was the biggest issue and second after the visit he would need to go back to his own country of course.

After the first online "dating" I though myself I wouldn't go for one as I've had real relationships in person couple and I honestly believe a good relationship needs physical, mental, emotional aspects to work and when you're dating online those aspect lack a lot..

Honestly I think it was a mistake to start a online relationship.. wanna share your experiences?

[Harley Quinn]

I agree that online relationships take hard work and for this reason many don't end up working. I know that mine didn't a few years back, and I know the reason for that and like you said a relationship needs things that sometimes an online one can't give you. I prefer real life relationships, compared to online because you don't have to spend your life online with someone, you can spend it with them in the person. However, I do know that some online/ldr's do work and that's great, but for me, online doesn't work.

[Pipo]

I also prefer real life relationships over online. I've no idea why I even wanted a online relationship, it's just so much different to date someone in person than online. There's hugging, kissing etc that online relationships don't have.

and I agree with you.

[Zeh Crazy]

I've had two online relationships. The first one was never actually a "relationship", but it was a mutual like for one another that turned into love. We talked everyday for about two years. I loved her with all of my heart. I don't know what I feel for her now. I don't really talk to her anymore. We sorta had a falling out. But for those two or so years, I was completely in love with her, no doubt in my mind. I love my boyfriend very much, but I've never loved someone in the way that I love her.

The other relationship was with a guy and we lasted 1 1/2 years, believe it or not. It was amazing. He was funny, sweet, cute...I kinda miss him. He texts me every once in a while. But he cheated on me at least 2 times, I know. He had been dating other girls nearly the entire time that we had been dating. Thing is, I loved him even after all of that. That wasn't even the reason we broke up. The reason we broke up was because I wanted someone who could physically be with me, and thas when I started dating my current boyfriend. Technically, me and my online guy didn't really break-up. We kinda just stopped talking for a while. I don't think I love him anymore...I really don't know. I would still like to meet him if I had the chance, just to be sure. The girl, too...

I don't necessarily regret my online relationships, but I don't think they're really a good idea for the most part. I mean, you can never really know for sure who they are and what kind of person they are unless you were actually around them. But I would still like to meet both of them someday in the future. They were both a part of my life for a long time as far as teenage relationships go. I won't really feel complete unless I do meet them.

[norcaldude18]

i had a friend that had an online relationship. it worked for a couple months but i would never be able to do that. a lot of a relationship has to do with physical contact and holding hands and stuff. he was always on the phone with her and i thought it was pretty weird.

[Pipo]

I wouldn't recommend online relationship to anyone...would you?

that's just my opinion but I really believe that you're much happier with real relationship than online...also it's much more easier. :)

[Stronger]

I believe they can work, its just a different and harder experience.

[dreamer18xx]

I believe it happens.......actually I know it happens x) someone I know is in a relationship online and is going to meet that person over the summer when they're over 12 hours away from each other. I feel like it takes more effort than a regular relationship but it happens and some people manage to make it happen. :)

[Jean Poutine]

I knew somebody who actually met a girl in a (really) shitty online game. They lived in different countries but they actually moved together just before I lost contact with them. I have a personal experience as well but I'm a little reticent to unveil my private life at large.

I think they can work, but you need to put your money where your mouth is, literally, and get together as often as you can. If you do that it's no different or weirder than dating somebody who's overworked by school or a job and only being able to go out together every 2 weeks, if that. If you can't afford to see each other in the mid-term then forget it.

Also, trust plays a huge role. Be sure you give that trust to the right person.

[Aves]

Well, I have to say, I've been in two online relationships. Both I would like to forget, but for the sake of this thread I'll remind myself yet again they were once real. Just so you know, I was so desperate, I didn't care how the fuck they acted or what they looked like or anything. Boy was freshman year fun.


First was a girl on Xbox. Yes, sounds really fucking lame. Terrible decision, lasted only a few days. I still remember it though because I met a good friend through her, and now we talk shit about her. Lol.

Second was someone I met here. She's left the site since now, so none of you (besides Matt) would remember her probably. This one was a bit more serious. It lasted about 4 months. However, she lied compulsively. At first I was okay with it, because I was just happy to be with someone (sorta). However, I started then losing trust in her and no longer had feelings. Ended it, she became a huge bitch to me. Up until now, never talked about it since. Congrats to making me mention that mistake.

[Pipo]

I believe it happens.......actually I know it happens x) someone I know is in a relationship online and is going to meet that person over the summer when they're over 12 hours away from each other. I feel like it takes more effort than a regular relationship but it happens and some people manage to make it happen. :)


ya I'd say that could work but when it's between countries like I had a relationship. First one was in England and second USA...that's like really far away from me plus everything is so different in there..well in both countries.

I'd say that online relationships might work if you're in same country but..still not sure at least I'm not going to start one again I find both of them as mistake :(

[FullyAlive]

I think they're harder and they take commitment but they aren't any less real than other relationships of course you do need to meet at some point.

I didn't used to think like this at all, but yeah I've changed my mind now.

[Akasuki]

I met my girlfriend online. She used to live 3000 miles away from me and I moved in with her.

It takes a lot of commitment, trust, and love but they can work out.

[Sordid Saint]

Yes it can work but only with honesty and trust. You gotta try really hard and let them know exactly what you feel.

[Electra Heart]

I'd say it's more difficult for obvious reasons. A lot of waiting I suppose. I don't see any reason to show they can't work though.

[Pipo]

Well me or my ex would have needed to learn new language, metric system, etc...to live with me and wait around 4 years before we could move together...

I don't know, I just cant wait that long to be with someone, I want someone from near me at least same country not from US.

[Sordid Saint]

Well me or my ex would have needed to learn new language, metric system, etc...to live with me and wait around 4 years before we could move together...

I don't know, I just cant wait that long to be with someone, I want someone from near me at least same country not from US.

This is understandable, but if you love the person enough you will be able to wait. Think to yourself if they're worth it. If you were still with them I would have said to talk to them about it, to like plan things that you are going to do when you meet them.

If you're in a online relationship and don't think that it's 100% worth waiting for, then it's not meant to be. Think about how much it would suck to go all the way to a different country for someone that you're not even truly in love with.

I hope I'm on the same page as you :P