change of view towards someone?

[commikid]

Okay so around 7 month ago I started talking to this girl, she was really nice quite pretty and had a none serious sence of humor which is good for me because I'm not always that serious about things. I've never had a propper girlfriend because I havent really put myself out to find one, I'm the type of person that lets things fall into place (although this doesn't seem to work in relationships I figure :/ ) and anyhow we decided to go see a film. when I met her that night I had just found out that she had got with her ex again so I waited to see if she would tell me. As the night went on she never mentioned it and then she never even spoke to me again. I bumped into her with a mate the other day and spoke to her for the first time in 3 months and she was all fine just like nowt had happened but I find that the one person that I would have done almost anything for I now hate with evengence. I wish a world of bad luck on her and think that she is just no better than some lier. Infact I just f*c*king HATE HER! And I dont even know why :'( has enyone else been in a simlar situation?? :/

[Harley Quinn]

You know, you don't actually mean what you say, and in fact it's rude. But yes I understand that the situation you were in fucking sucked, and you need to take your anger out on someone, but don't wish anything bad on anyone. It'll come back round and slap you in the face, real damn hard. I suppose you could say that because you didn't ask, she didn't tell, it's just the way you look at it really. Either way, yes it was wrong of her to do what she did, but if you want to know why, you need to ask her that way you'll understand more. I have been in that situation, so yes I know how that feels, you'll feel differently soon, though.

[commikid]

You know, you don't actually mean what you say, and in fact it's rude. But yes I understand that the situation you were in fucking sucked, and you need to take your anger out on someone, but don't wish anything bad on anyone. It'll come back round and slap you in the face, real damn hard. I suppose you could say that because you didn't ask, she didn't tell, it's just the way you look at it really. Either way, yes it was wrong of her to do what she did, but if you want to know why, you need to ask her that way you'll understand more. I have been in that situation, so yes I know how that feels, you'll feel differently soon, though.

Well I suppose thats true, what goes around does come back around! And I dunno what I think anymore :/ I took your advice and asked her and she just said "family stuff" which I know is a load of bull because she always spoke to me even when her gran died so I'm left lied to yet again :/.

[Harley Quinn]

You don't know that though, she may actually be genuinely telling the truth. It may have been easier talking about the death than it is to talk about what's going on in the living. I'm not saying it's not bull and you're not being lied to, I'm simply saying some things are easier to talk about than others.

[commikid]

You don't know that though, she may actually be genuinely telling the truth. It may have been easier talking about the death than it is to talk about what's going on in the living. I'm not saying it's not bull and you're not being lied to, I'm simply saying some things are easier to talk about than others.

Haha you could speak alot of truth tbh but what would you do next? Because I feel asthough I can't trust what she says but yet I would like to get to know her better :/ I figure your right, I dont wish hate upon her I dont really dislike people tbh it was just a spur of the moment anger type haha

[Harley Quinn]

I would try figuring it out by telling her that actually you aren't sure what you believe, and you'd like her to tell you the truth because you feel like you've been fucked over. If you want to get to know her, you might just have to look past the fact she could be lying for now and focus on knowing her, once you know her better you can question her honesty. It's not nice to wish hate on anyone so I'm glad you realise it was just a one off moment.

[commikid]

I would try figuring it out by telling her that actually you aren't sure what you believe, and you'd like her to tell you the truth because you feel like you've been fucked over. If you want to get to know her, you might just have to look past the fact she could be lying for now and focus on knowing her, once you know her better you can question her honesty. It's not nice to wish hate on anyone so I'm glad you realise it was just a one off moment.

Well I'll try and get to the bottom of it then :) it's hard to figure out with some people though because the majority of what they say can be lies depending on the person :/ . And thats true, hate aint a good thing,, the planet would be a much nicer place if it didn't exist but I guess its all part of our emotions in a way. Its wierd, I would have never thaught I would be taking advive from someone that is younger than me, when you get older you kinda expect you would know how people react and what people are like in different situations but this goes to show thats not always true and you've acctually been quite a help so thankyou :)

[Harley Quinn]

Exactly, but you can't say anything until you know them properly. Hate is a human emotion and everyone feels it sometimes it's just not good when it's aimed at someone, because it could end up developing from hate into something completely different. I'm surprised you took my advice, too. However, I don't think that age has anything to do with it, you just have to listen to what advice is being said and if it's good, the age doesn't matter. For all you knew, if I didn't have my age up, you wouldnt know I was younger :P I'm glad I could have been some help to you.

[commikid]

Exactly, but you can't say anything until you know them properly. Hate is a human emotion and everyone feels it sometimes it's just not good when it's aimed at someone, because it could end up developing from hate into something completely different. I'm surprised you took my advice, too. However, I don't think that age has anything to do with it, you just have to listen to what advice is being said and if it's good, the age doesn't matter. For all you knew, if I didn't have my age up, you wouldnt know I was younger :P I'm glad I could have been some help to you.

Thats true haha I wouldn't have guessed you was 16 at all lol. And yeh why not I'm open to peoples thaughts and oppinions :) its good to be broad minded. Dont think I'll ever get my head around how you girls think though lol :D

[InstantSerenity]

Well, yea you have the right to hate her because of what she did but have you ever thought that the reason why she didnt tell you was because she didnt wanna hurt you? This kind of situation happened to me twice and it gave me a much better reason to look forward and move on with my life. I bet youve hurd this already "There are many fishes in the sea" and as lame as it is, its true. So just keep your head up high and you're gunna feel better about yourself!

[commikid]

Well, yea you have the right to hate her because of what she did but have you ever thought that the reason why she didnt tell you was because she didnt wanna hurt you? This kind of situation happened to me twice and it gave me a much better reason to look forward and move on with my life. I bet youve hurd this already "There are many fishes in the sea" and as lame as it is, its true. So just keep your head up high and you're gunna feel better about yourself!

I have spoken to her since but its been nothing like it was so I have no idea ehats changed, see I'm not the type of person to chase someone really so she doesn't even know how I feel. And yehh I have herd that saying lol :) it is true only hard part is catching those fish :S. Thankyou though :)