Too high standards

[oscarlichen]

Alright, so I'm gay, and I think I'm fairly attractive and all and I've done my share of bad relationships, but I haven't even hooked up with someone since November, and it's seriously killing me. I have very very high standards, and frankly there are no boys that I even know that are my type, and the ones I do know hate me or don't like me. I can't lower my standards because then I won't be happy, but I don't know what to do other than wait for someone to like me now. I've been waiting for almost a year. I need someone. I don't know what to do.

[Desuetude]

Get out there and meet someone. Join a club or a youth centre could even be a good place to just get to know new people. You can wait for someone to come along but really you can't know when that's going to happen. Why do the people that are your type hate you? Have you done something to piss them off?

[oscarlichen]

I've hurt a lot of people myself, and others have just developed some weird hate for me for god knows why.

[Charoum]

I would agree with what Nikki said, but I would also say you should at least try to lower some of your standards. You could be missing out on some guy that could be an amazing lover, but you won't bother just because they might not meet all of your standards. Hopefully you will at least be willing to compromise on some of the standards you have set, because it's hard to find someone that meets up with all of them. And it seems like for the most part, your high standards are starting to lead you to be a wee bit unhappy as it is. Just try to compromise or lower some standards and if you find the right guy, it will be worth it in the end.