Getting Closer

[KillerKing]

Hi,

So I have a friend. It's not like we're close or anything. Its one of those friendships where if you see each other you talk to each other but if you dont then you dont. But recently, he helped me a little through a bit of a rough patch and I kinda want to get to know him better and all but he's very like secretive about who he is. So how exactly do I get closer to him without making him feel like I'm prying or trying to get info out of him? Also, we only really see each other at school...

Any advice? Thanks

[Desuetude]

Just spend more time with him, hopefully the more you're with him the more comfortable he'll feel around you and he'll open up a little. Be patient though and understand that it might take a while for him to be comepletely at ease. If you have mutual friends then orgianise going out with a few of you and invite him along then it won't look like you're just going for him and he should feel more assured. Be there for him and make sure he knows that you're genuine as he might think you want something from him as you said.

[ImCoolBeans]

Just spend more time with him, hopefully the more you're with him the more comfortable he'll feel around you and he'll open up a little. Be patient though and understand that it might take a while for him to be comepletely at ease. If you have mutual friends then orgianise going out with a few of you and invite him along then it won't look like you're just going for him and he should feel more assured. Be there for him and make sure he knows that you're genuine as he might think you want something from him as you said.

This is good advice.

Spending more time with him is really the only way to get to know him and to make him feel more comfortable around you. The more time you spend with him, you most likely will notice your friendship getting closer and closer. You can either hangout with him in groups, as MyOblivion said, or after you've hung out as a group a few times and you think he might be a little more comfortable now, you could hangout just the two of you to really get to know each other better. Best of luck.

[Steve Jobs]

If he's helped you through a rough patch, I think the best way would be to take him somewhere, and show that you are a changed person because of him. You don't have to act up and all, just be yourself.
To be that friend and to know what you've done would be quite a rewarding thing and often, just spending more time with that friend would be the best way to get to know him better. You should ask more about him than talk about yourself.

[Bojan]

Just hang out with him more at school or ask if you can hang out together on the weekend and do something