Flings

[Wayne92]

Since I've always had romance troubles, which is something that's always bothered me.( never dated, kissed etc.) Plus I'm out for the summer and all of my friends are in relationships and even getting married, so I've been down even more. Anyway, since my confidence in getting a girlfriend is at a all time low and I am a virgin, I have thinking about have a fling or friends with benefits relationship. Have anyone else felt like do this or have?

[TRRT]

I hear ya' buddy!

Friends with (great) benefits are brilliant. The best thing I've ever went down the path of however be aware that if you find a girl (or guy, whichever) you may get attached to her too much that's when the heartbreak starts.

Flings are best, go to a bar/pub find a person have a fling and never see her/him again.

[Magenta]

Questions for Both Boys and Girls :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[jjsmitty]

Me and my partner (bf) did swinger nights as a couple, where we exchange partners and have a good night or whatever.
Trust me, just go to a well known bar for picking people up and you'll sort yourself out. However your virginity is an important thing, consider whether you'd rather lose it on a drunk one night stand (like I did) or save it for someone special?

[Deltanicks]

i wouldnt worry about having a relationship. just enjoy your life until someone walks in. dont go looking around. and id just casually date or find a "fling". much less drama

[Aves]

i wouldnt worry about having a relationship. just enjoy your life until someone walks in. dont go looking around. and id just casually date or find a "fling". much less drama

This. Seriously, relationships aren't that great if you're just looking for somebody. When you look for just anybody, you might end up with the wrong person.

Just live your life and have fun. Sure you have a fling if you really want, but I think that you should just find something you enjoy and do it.

[Wayne92]

yeah, but it seems I fall for the wrong people anyway. I know it's bad to go that route but ... idk.

[FullyAlive]

I'd say have a fling over friends with benefits. Friends with benefits always turn out messy eventually.

But you don't need a relationship to be happy, if you have the right one I'd assume you'd be happy anyway but who wants to be tied down over summer. You can just do your own thing without consideration for anyone else. If it's the physical side you're after then just go to a party it's not as if they're short of people willing to have sex with someone.

[beccaweiser]

...but if you DO have a fling, then just please remember to be careful and use protection...

[ImCoolBeans]

I personally do not like and do not have flings. Going into a relationship with the intentions of having sex, and having a relationship based around sex not only defeats the purpose of "dating" but it really isn't a good way to have an intimate relationship at all. You may not really like the person, and they may not really even like you if you just go off on a fling or have a friends with benefits type deal.

[Wayne92]

I'd say have a fling over friends with benefits. Friends with benefits always turn out messy eventually.

But you don't need a relationship to be happy, if you have the right one I'd assume you'd be happy anyway but who wants to be tied down over summer. You can just do your own thing without consideration for anyone else. If it's the physical side you're after then just go to a party it's not as if they're short of people willing to have sex with someone.

It's a bit of the emotional and physical sides. It's hard to explain without really going into different things. Both have the perks, but it's hard to decide what to do.