Sexually Confused!!!

[smartkid1]

I can't take it anymore!! I am so sexually confused and in combination with other events in my life I'm getting just so depressed. I literally can't take it anymore. I'm 14 and in 8th grade, a male.

When I was younger I had always had crushes on girls. I remember 3 girls that I used to like from 1st grade to 6th grade. In 7th grade I had a really big crush on a girl, but I got over her.

Then in the summer I really didn't like anyone considering I did nothing all summer. I didn't hang out with friends or anything. In addition I've become sexually attracted to guys.

This year when I came back to school I didn't like anyone. I still don't really like anybody now. The rest of the guys I know are horny, always talking about boobs and butts, but I honestly don't see what's so great about it.

I like girls on an emotional level, but not on a sexual level.
I like guys on a sexual level, but not on an emotional level.

I know that I really liked this girl last year. Like I really, really liked her. I can't explain it. It was my first love.

I can't see that I'm gay considering I really liked her so much, and I've never liked a guy.

I've heard that it's normal for my age to go through a phase like this but I'm getting scared.

All I want is to have children and a wife, and I'm so depressed because of other things, I can't see this happening.

I don't know at all what to do.

I'm really so confused, is something wrong iwth me?

Double post merged ~ ImCoolBeans

[jmrsp]

i'm going through the same thing. But it is normal. I still have to figure it out for myself. I like girls and their bodies and more on an emotional level than guys, for me guys is just a physical thing. I'm guessing that this is just a moment in our lives that we have to really think about our wants and needs, because I also want to be married with kids. My advice is: Don't worry about it. You are still young and you still have time to figure yourself out. Don't stress about it, think and live life

[smartkid1]

But why am I not attracted sexually to girls? What don't I see... what am I missing? And why'd I randomly become attracted to guys physically after having crushes on girls my whole life?

[jmrsp]

maybe your hormones are running wild. Its nothing to really worry about, i'm no professional here but maybe its a certian chemical in your brain that is attracted more towards a more familiar object(in this case boys) but that does not mean you do not love women. Maybe this will go away in a few months or years but the important thing is that you are not missing anything, there is nothing wrong with you.

[smartkid1]

But I'm afraid that it won't go away. And I don't have anything against gay people, but I don't want to be gay, I want to have a wife. I can see myself with a man. Yet, ugh it's just so confusing.

[jmrsp]

I get you, maybe it will go away, but when you find your true love, you will know your true feelings. Physical attraction is just one little thing, love is way more important, besides you are still young so dojt worry too much your life is still very much ahead of you

[ExhibitG]

omg. you just described my life. i'm not even kidding. from the sexually attracted to guys but emotionally attracted to girls to the fact that i've never liked a guy either to the fact that i used to have crushes on girls all the time to the fact that i want a wife and kids to the fact that i'm not feminine but i tend to have slightly more girl friends than guy friends.... everything. you described me perfectly. only i'm 17 lol.

from my own experience, the feeling will either grow toward guys or diminish over time. for me, i'd say it's grown, unfortunately, so i'm basically all but calling myself bisexual at this point.

[ExhibitG]

you literally just described me perfectly. in all the posts i've seen on virtual teen, never have i seen a post that describes me absolutely without flaw. only difference is i'm 17. but i'm glad we can relate! :)

unfortunately, i think the feelings toward men will either enhance or diminish over time. for me, it's grown. it sucks, but i guess it's out of my control. right now i'm basically calling myself all but bisexual.

[KenBoy6]

Maybr your just bi and dont know it

[Skyhawk]

Give it time....hormones can be ridiculous.

[Thanatos]

I'm joining the club. It started for me in 8th grade too. All of a sudden, guys started to really turn me on sexually. I can in no way see myself with a guy in 20 years, I'm just not emotionally "In Love" or crushing on them. I do find them attractive as all get out, just not in a romantic emotional way. Girls on the other hand I can feel myself become emotionally attracted to, there's one girl I've been crushing on for a while, but sexually they just don't do as much for me. Sure I find them hot or good looking, but not to the same level as guys.

Every so often this gets me extremely depressed when I sit and think about it, but for the most part I try to avoid it. All my friends think I'm outright gay since I don't really hide that I find guys attractive, but I don't know what to call myself.

Oh well, live and learn.

[PerpetualMotionSquad]

I'd give it a bit of time but at the moment I'd say your straight because you have not had a crush on a guy

[Cicero]

It's called being curious. However far your in puberty most teens feel that way. I sure do... A lot. But the closer you are to puberty ending, the less feelings you might have for the same sex. I started puberty late because I have a condition (CF). They will lessen over years of time. Your perfectly normal and they're nothing to worry about, but personally, I think vaginas look gross. I only like the boobs and butts haha

[KarkatLuv]

The joys of puberty. Sadly as everyone says, this is the type of thing you need to just let simmer it in the boiling pot, one day it will become as clear as a freashly cleaned window.

[nick carter]

Well, just continue your thing with girls (and boys if you'd like too) and you'll figure tht out by yourself ;)

[Short Circuit]

You could possibly be bi, but as your only 14, dont read too much into it, hormones and that play havoc during puberty

[justsum1anonymous]

Maybe you just identify/relate better with guys being one yourself. Don't worry much over it, it'll shake off. It's sorta same for me too..... Have you been shy/introvert since childhood?? That could explain it because then you'd only relate with people like you ,in this case, boys rather than girls.

Forgive me, but your questions seem ironic.... With your username being 'smartkid'

Double post merged ~ Mike/ImCoolBeans

[Boroboii]

Im similar man! Just hormones and stuff, hopefully will grow out of it but just try stuff with lads and lasses boyy!

[ImCoolBeans]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality

[Mob Boss]

You're 14 and your hormones are having their way with you. Almost everyone goes through a questioning/confused phase and some learn it's not so much of a phase. Sexuality is very fluid and not so black and white as people would have you to believe. If you meet the girl of your dreams GREAT! If you meet the boy of your dreams that's GREAT as well. As long as you're happy it doesn't matter what others think. You will figure it all out eventually but for now just have fun and leave it up to fate.

[Danny.Robertson]

You may be bi, you may be gay, you may be straight. I'm bi and in love with my boyfriend. He, i feel is my true love. Just don't deny it if you think you bi/gay it doesn't go well for your mental state.