Opinions?

[xXoblivionXx]

Well as you can tell from my previous posts I am having some cutting and self esteem problems. I have been talking to my school counselor and two close friends. Since I have relapsed, twice, I was going to tell my parents that I cut, I'm guessing that I would start going to a therapist or something like that after they find out. I haven't cut for about 3 days... but now I am having second thoughts about telling my parents. I think I can stop cutting by myself, with the guidance of my counselor and friends of course. I'm starting to not want my parents to know, I don't want to go to therapy. I think I can do this... Please give me your opinions, especially if you are a former cutter.

[Jupiter]

Don't do it if you don't know if you are absolutely sure.

Are they the trusting type? Are you guys close?

[xXoblivionXx]

I trust them I guess, they are my parents. But we aren't extremely close.

[Carly011]

If you can stop cutting then i probably wouldn't tell them. But if you are still struggling and still having probably where you come close to cutting then you really should tell someone. Stopping is hard, yes you have gone 3 days but do you think you can go longer?

You are strong, but it always helps to have others support you!

[xXoblivionXx]

I'm not sure... I think I can stop... otherwise I am going to stop on my arm and do it on my thighs... It's just my dad is putting so much pressure on me I need to release the pressure one way or another... I think him knowing about my SH will just cause more pressure in the atmosphere. Like I said I don't know what to do.

[xXl0sth0peXx]

I'd tell tbh.

It's so easy to say 'I can quit on my own' but the reality is that most people can't, and can even possibly cause you to harm more. Therapy could actually be beneficial, and helpful. Though I guess if you have your school counselor that's pretty much the same thing to an extent. As long as there's (at least) an adult (if not more) that you can go to when you need help, then I'd say you don't have to tell your parents. I still recommend it though.

Good luck; always here if you need to talk. <3

[xXoblivionXx]

So as long as I have an adult helping me I don't need my parents to know?

[xXl0sth0peXx]

Yeah, I'd say that's fine. It's really important having at least one adult around to help. Can't stress that enough. More important than peer support even. So yeah, you don't need to tell. :)

[bes004]

I would tell them. Sure makes recovery a lot easier when you have a support team

[FullyAlive]

I'd say it's important to tell them if you can, just because it stops awkward conversations about why you're so covered up and shit. And it's always good to have two adults you trust to ask for help if you Jeff it. If you cut too deep it'll be a lot harder to tell them if they don't already know you self harm. You don't necessarily have to talk to them and have all meaningful conversations just tell them you don't need that from them. But yes in my opinion it is better you tell then now and get their support than they find out later on down the road. After all how long do you think you can hide the scars?