Disowning my mum (kinda)

[TeddyBearRock]

This is just a rant, just so I know its been written down and people have read it (feel free to comment)

So it's basically about me braking my relationship with my mum. It is mainly her boyfriend WHO I HATE he officially moved in a few weeks ago and he has a dog WHO I HATE, what he does is.....

He is the biggest kiss ass I know
He calls my Lou. It's a nickname I have always Hated and he coping the name off my mum
His dog's hair is all over the place
It will be him, me, my mum, little bro and the dog on a two seater sofa and the dog will have the most room
The keeps dog stuff with people stuff
When eating dinner the dog is under the table ( I'm a clean freak so all these germs bug me)
And some weekends we go round my mums m8s house for dinner and stuff and it last quite late but we always have to go earlier coz of the dog

Just to let you known I love dogs, it just this dog is filthy. Even my mum is annoyed with the dog. So we are going to be moving soon and I'm gonna tell my mum I'm gonna live with my dad, I will only visit her if he and the dogs not there and if I get a birthday or Christmas card/present with his name on it I shall bin it what ever it is.

[boonsim]

You shouldn't destroy your relationship with your mother just because of her boyfriend and his dog. You need to speak to her and tell her how you feel about them. In a single mother's life, kids almost always come first.

[green]

grow the fuck up!

seriously if i disowned family members for either their annoying traits or their partners i wouldnt have a fucking family. so the dog is a bit dirty, its a dog. you cant just hate someone because their dog smells. also about the germs thing, you might need to get on some meds. Dogs are fairly clean animals, they have a very good hygiene system so they wont spread to many bad germs. only if they have worms or fleas. the dog on the couch, so what, my dog sits on the couch with me, they have a bond and a fairly strong one. you cant change that. if you dont like it, get a new seat.

Also about the nickname, hes trying to be friendly! He wants you to accept him.

so in all, grow up. Your mum has obviously decided that he is worth having a slightly smelly dog around. You shouldnt punish your mum because she wants to be happy.

[johnnyd]

grow the fuck up!

seriously if i disowned family members for either their annoying traits or their partners i wouldnt have a fucking family. so the dog is a bit dirty, its a dog. you cant just hate someone because their dog smells. also about the germs thing, you might need to get on some meds. Dogs are fairly clean animals, they have a very good hygiene system so they wont spread to many bad germs. only if they have worms or fleas. the dog on the couch, so what, my dog sits on the couch with me, they have a bond and a fairly strong one. you cant change that. if you dont like it, get a new seat.

Also about the nickname, hes trying to be friendly! He wants you to accept him.

so in all, grow up. Your mum has obviously decided that he is worth having a slightly smelly dog around. You shouldnt punish your mum because she wants to be happy.

this^ . From what you've said, your mom has found a man that she loves enough to accept into her home, smelly dog and all, and you need to mature enough to get over your petty problems and accept it. Of course he's a kiss ass! Its beyond extremely awkward for a person to try to make a place for himself into an already formed family. Same with the nickname, he's just trying to make you like him. Give him a break for the little things and get to know him better. If something he is doing is truly bothering you, talk to him man to man and ask him politely to stop and tell him why. Don't let your immaturity spoil the happiness that your mom has found. Sack up and deal with it.

[Genghis Khan]

this^ . From what you've said, your mom has found a man that she loves enough to accept into her home, smelly dog and all, and you need to mature enough to get over your petty problems and accept it. Of course he's a kiss ass! Its beyond extremely awkward for a person to try to make a place for himself into an already formed family. Same with the nickname, he's just trying to make you like him. Give him a break for the little things and get to know him better. If something he is doing is truly bothering you, talk to him man to man and ask him politely to stop and tell him why. Don't let your immaturity spoil the happiness that your mom has found. Sack up and deal with it.

I want to address this first. The OP is (apparently) 13 years old, he's going through what is a confused time for most people, starting puberty, getting in touch with who he really will be in the next 5-6 years and above all he has to deal with a broken family and a new life. So telling him to 'grow the fuck up' like you and the other dude did was a shit move and it's illustrating you two as complete douchebags.

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OP, I'd encourage you to maintain your relationship with your mother. I understand why you feel that way about these changes and adjustments you need to make, but don't thwart a parent away just because of reasons that while seem too much for you now will seem trivial later on in life. I know people who have broken off relationships that genuinely could have been better if that person had made a bit more effort. I don't see how your mother is being completely unreasonable here, but if it does bother you then you should be able to make a conscious decision about whether or not to live with your father. Although since I'm not sure what your father's like I can't say for certain if he's appropriate or otherwise. But don't put an end to what you and your mother have, it'll build up the hatred you have for yourself and her new boyfriend.

[ImCoolBeans]

grow the fuck up!

seriously if i disowned family members for either their annoying traits or their partners i wouldnt have a fucking family. so the dog is a bit dirty, its a dog. you cant just hate someone because their dog smells. also about the germs thing, you might need to get on some meds. Dogs are fairly clean animals, they have a very good hygiene system so they wont spread to many bad germs. only if they have worms or fleas. the dog on the couch, so what, my dog sits on the couch with me, they have a bond and a fairly strong one. you cant change that. if you dont like it, get a new seat.

Also about the nickname, hes trying to be friendly! He wants you to accept him.

so in all, grow up. Your mum has obviously decided that he is worth having a slightly smelly dog around. You shouldnt punish your mum because she wants to be happy.

this^ . From what you've said, your mom has found a man that she loves enough to accept into her home, smelly dog and all, and you need to mature enough to get over your petty problems and accept it. Of course he's a kiss ass! Its beyond extremely awkward for a person to try to make a place for himself into an already formed family. Same with the nickname, he's just trying to make you like him. Give him a break for the little things and get to know him better. If something he is doing is truly bothering you, talk to him man to man and ask him politely to stop and tell him why. Don't let your immaturity spoil the happiness that your mom has found. Sack up and deal with it.

That is atrocious advice, and not only are you two insensitive, but that is just not appropriate. Who are you to tell anybody to "grow the fuck up" when you just made a rash, childish statement. You are not above anybody on this site so do not act like it. This is a warm and welcoming environment and you are clearly defeating it's purpose. Think about things before you say it, because talking down to members in such a way is not okay, and if this is seen again further action will be taken.

[Destructive Impulse]

I agree with green. I mean its just a dog. sorry man but I dont know what to say

[Mortal Coil]

Please don't distance yourself from your mother like that. I know it's hard and that this guy is getting on your nerves, and I think that going to live with your dad for a while may actually be a good thing, but "disowning" your mother is not going to change anything. In life there will be things that you do not like and cannot change, and right now this is one of those things. It sucks, but it will pass.

[Steve Jobs]

I dont think that's anywhere near enough for you to "break" your ties with your mother. Familial relationships depend on unconditional love. As harsh as it seems, you need to accept her no matter what. It's fair to say that if her bf/new husband and dog worry you to an extent that you need to get away, you can do that. I would seek some good advice though. Is your father willing to take you in?