Why do people ask us?

[MoveAlong]

Why do people ask us if they're gay?! That's something you find out for yourself so why the heck do they ask us?? It makes me madder everytime I see a question like that :angry:

[Sapphire]

Maybe they want reassurance?
Maybe they just can't be arsed to read all the previous posts clearly labelled "Am I gay?" or "I am worried I might be gay"

I don't know. But I suppose we just have to regurgitate the same advice and stick it out.

[MoveAlong]

But I suppose we just have to regurgitate the same advice and stick it out.

And that's exactly what we all keep doing. Why do they ask "does this make me gay?"? They don't even know what being gay is I guess :confused:

I get a hard-on from breasts, am I straight?
*rants*

[redcar]

Why do people ask us if they're gay?! That's something you find out for yourself so why the heck do they ask us?? It makes me madder everytime I see a question like that :angry:
Slightly disapointed you would ask that.

Being gay is not easy, and its even worse discovering you are gay. You want someone to tell your not and its just a phase. But another part of you wants someone to just tell you the truth. Even though its asked everyday we still need to be there. We help people.

[MoveAlong]

I'm sorry :|

I just see that people are so scared of being gay that they worry so much and need that reassurance so they know they aren't something that they would not accept themselves for if they were.
So how well would that person accept another person that's gay? I've talked to straight guys on the site and they've told me that they're glad that I don't act like a princess and I get a strong feeling that I can't doubt that they wouldn't be my friend or have anything to do with me if I acted like a princess. And they expect that from a guy that's gay...

Maybe I need the help right now, because I'm just about burned out on this entire subject -.- And I'm wondering why you're dissapointed...

[redcar]

You say that people find out for themselves. Thats very true. But people when they find out or in the process of finding out may need someone to tell them "It's ok to be gay." or "I'm gay too, I know what your going through." Something that says your not alone. And being gay can be a lonely life. I have great friends, but there are times even when I am with them that I feel very alone because of my sexuality.

So when people post questions like "Am I gay?" thats not all they may be asking.

[MoveAlong]

And being gay can be a lonely life.

you bet.
I'm still behind everything I said before. People have the wrong impression about being gay. :|

[Antares]

i kinda feel the same way
i starting to get annoyed when people ask the same question over and over. and i kinda wish people would like search first but then the forums would be kinda slow. as for the am i gay questions i really havent decided on my sexuality so i kinda dont understand but i do understand where your comin from in a sense...

[what the?]

Being gay is not easy, and its even worse discovering you are gay.

I can understand this, I'm lucky in that I didn't really have a hard time coming to terms with my sexuality, but I know how other people feel about their sexuality, so I can understand why people ask whether they're gay. And I think Alex is right in saying that people want to be reassured, because they do.

When I first discovered I was gay, I honestly had no clue what these feelings were, whether they were normal and had no one to talk to or no way of verifying what was going on.

VT changed all that, specifically this diary and the work that James did. I owe a lot to this diary, so now I guess it's my turn to help others.

[LateForTheSky]

In my opinion I think we should have a sticky for all these questions then the actual forums wouldnt be so boaring.

[Melchi0r]

Maybe there should be an "Am I Gay?" sticky either here or in the Puberty for Boys forum to at least clear up the simple questions, such as looking at/masturbating to gay porn or wanting to experiment with friends. But for more complex questions there should be no reason why we can't take the time to read their post and answer their questions as best we can.

[Ironic Infidel In England]

I think that's a great idea... make a thread in suggestions someone. If it's not done by the time I get back, I'll do it.

[Rawrbaby]

well are ya back yet

and i agree with him thar should be one

[MoveAlong]

I don't think it should be in puberty for boys because girls ask the same question in this diary.
Once this diary becomes an official forum, there should be a sticky for "Am I Gay" questions.

[what the?]

I think I might just sticky it now anyway, because I do agree, all the "Am I Gay?" questions would be better serviced if they were all in one place and wouldn't clutter the diary.

Alex, you're welcome to get rid of anything I put up lol

[MoveAlong]

I don't think it's good for an official forum like it's just about to become. It seems too much suited for a diary and not enough for Puberty101

[Antares]

Theres an "am i gay" sticky in this diary. maybe someone should make a link in p101 to that one

[Archduke Robert of France]

I think it's because people aren't sure how to react when they find out / think someone is gay.

[MoveAlong]

Theres an "am i gay" sticky in this diary. maybe someone should make a link in p101 to that one

I don't think that's a good idea, especially with the question of whether this diary will be an official forum or not. If it does, we kind of wasted our time with that idea :|

[xTheLordsServantx]

To answer your question,

People are fragile creatures. We need to have people there to support us. I do agree with you when you say that figuring out one's sexual orientation is a personal discovery...but sometimes humans look to others for support on their quest to discover self-truths. In essence, people ask you this because of a mental insecurity. So, the best thing for you to do when someone asks you this is be supportive and help them to find their truth.

I hope this has helped a bit...if you want to chat more, feel free to PM me.

God Bless

[tom223]

people just go through shit in life and they are confused about it, shit happens to everyone

[greger92]

ok so i like girls alot and i hate guys (im a guy) so does that make me straight??? haha no im jking