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[ausy94]

Alright so I have known I am at least bi for a year now. The problem is nobody knows. I really like a good friend of mind, and we defenitly flirt a little. I get a hint he might also be gay or bi. How to I approach this? If I am wrong I will lose all my friends as they are very homophobic, and so is my school. Please help.

[Lyra Heartstrings]

Wait. If your school is homophobic, it could end badly. You said your friend may be bi/gay? What does he do? Mannerisms, I mean.

[Harley Quinn]

Alright so I have known I am at least bi for a year now. The problem is nobody knows. I really like a good friend of mind, and we defenitly flirt a little. I get a hint he might also be gay or bi. How to I approach this? If I am wrong I will lose all my friends as they are very homophobic, and so is my school. Please help.

I would take him to a private area and talk to him about everything that you need to. If you lose friends, they were never even friends to begin with, would you want friends that ditched you because of your sexuality? I know I wouldn't. Ask him his opinions on gays etc that will most likely help.

Wait. If your school is homophobic, it could end badly. You said your friend may be bi/gay? What does he do? Mannerisms, I mean.

Not always.

[Archerer2012]

Ok do if he was truly ur fiend he wouldn't mind. And a good hit to finding out if he is , look at his eyes, and his glances . Sometimes he might look a cute guys. Butt or something lol but Ik how it feels to be in a school that's homophobic, but honestly , you'll feel so much better I promise. If you need anymore advice ; help pm me k? Good luck!!:)

[jjsmitty]

Maybe see if you can get his opinion on bisexuality before, like drop it into conversation casually. But its always a very hard situation, I would say that anyone that is no longer your friend after announcing your sexuality even though you are the same person on the inside and outside doesnt deserve to be considered a friend. I know exactly how you feel about your school as I grew up in a very rough all boys school, but I think you'd be surprised how people react when someone they KNOW comes out. Sure there will be the odd person that takes the mick, but you just suck it up and carry on. I'm not going to lie to you this will be something you will have to deal with for the rest of you're life.
You need to do what you feel is right. And i'd suggest coming out to you're parents first if you havent already, its good to have some support at home for these situations.
Hopefully there's something in here you can make use of, good luck and if you need any more help on anything about bisexuality just get in touch on here, I check in atleast once a day so I don't take too long to reply. :)

[ausy94]

I agree with the if they don't except not friend deal, however, this is the area I live. They are not very understanding people. The people from here are ignorant to say the least. Another kid in our grade came out and he has lost most of his friends, made fun of behind his back, etc. Its just not a "safe" time to come out unless i can be sure there is some one else with me.

As far as mannerism goes, extreme butt slapping, sexual comments, acting gay in general, but says gay is not a good thing (at least around all our friends).

[Archerer2012]

That would mean he's insecure and not eilling to be himself. I'm sorry but that's a lot of signs if you wanna call them that of an un straight person. Just talk to him. I know how ignorant people can be but it's best to be yourself than to be brought down by a group of stupid people

[JamHaychUK]

Hrm. Tell him how you feel in private. If he doesn't feel the same way, ask him to keep it a secret. If he doesn't do that and tells others, you'll find out who your real friends are - they're the ones who won't care and will stay on your side. The rest are irrelevant :)