Dad's Home

[xXoblivionXx]

My dad just came home from work... he is upset about something I can hear him yelling from upstairs... it's going to be a long night, let me get my razor ready :(

[Harley Quinn]

You don't need to do that, you know it too. Shut off the world, put some headphones in and just headbang your way through the night. Before you even know it it'll be over and you'll probably end up wearing yourself out so much you pass out and sleep. If your dad isn't yelling at you, there's no reason for you to grab your razor, there's no reason to anyway but you need to distract yourself.

[Error 404]

Don't :/

If you got headphones, put them on, and listen to music, and ignore him/them...find some game and play it.

Edit: Derkhead said exactly what i thought... :) Listen to her/him.

[xXoblivionXx]

No... he was yelling at me for not eating (i was eating, just a really small portion) I hate the way he looks at me. I can't take it anymore... I already cut 9 times and by the end of the night My arm will be covered. :(

[Carly011]

No hun. You KNOW that wont make you feel better. Its not the answer. You can do this. Just ignore him. He doesn't know what is going on with you. Just talk to us. You will be ok, i promise

[xXoblivionXx]

He doesn't understand... he thinks that everything that happens to me must be checked by him... I'm not a kid anymore and something he just will NEVER understand. :(

[Harley Quinn]

With dads, daughters will always be his little girl. It's just the way it is and that's all he's doing, he doesn't want you to grow up because that means you don't need him anymore.

[xXoblivionXx]

He is giving me more pain than love </3

[Carly011]

Have you ever thought of writing a letter and telling him how you feel? Your realtionship with him sounds ALOT like mine with my dad. Now i just give up, i know he will never change. We will never have that relationship i want. I just have to accept that and move on.

[xXoblivionXx]

I think I have to just except it and move on... somethings just never change.

[Carly011]

I know, it really sucks. But it does feel a lot better because you no longer have to worry about making your relationship work. Finally you can just let that baggage go and its one less thing to worry about

[xXoblivionXx]

So I should just get use to the fact that we will never have that strong of a relationship? I think that is what is going to happen. :/

[Carly011]

Yeah pretty much, it sucks. it does. But it helps to let that go. I mean you still love your dad, and he loves you there just will never be that realtionshop that you want. I have finally accepted that and its so much easier not to get my hopes up that he will change

[JackShephard]

Look, I am truly sympathetic for you. I really am. I know what this is like. So please don't take this the wrong way. I've read through this thread, these users are giving really good advice and you seem not to be giving anything a shot. And if nothing works, let me tell you something that changed my whole perspective when I was in this situation myself. I am in control of my mind, therefore I am in control of how I feel.

You've got to realize this at one point or another. When your dad is making you feel like shit, you need to take a moment, let out the hurt, and move on. Lying around in your own pain will only cause more pain. It sucks. I've actually been put into a downward spiral because of this. Started using drugs and cutting and the like.

Take charge of your thoughts. Don't think "he's never going to love me" but start thinking "he has a problem, not me. Maybe one day he will grow as a person." Pity him. Not yourself. When you start doing this, you'll feel a hell of a lot better about yourself. If this becomes emotional abuse, you have to leave. Nobody deserves a fucked up childhood. Find another family member and just go live with them. SOMETHING.

[xXoblivionXx]

I actually think that you are right Seth. He has really high standards and I'm not meeting those standard so I feel bad about myself. :( It's not my fault it's his.

[Noxail]

Hey hun, I know exactly how you feel. It's. Not. You. It's his ignorance that's the problem and it's hurting you. Don't ever, ever, let anyone convince you that things like this are your fault. You are a child. He is an adult. A stupid adult at that. Just skirt around him until he goes to bed, and you'll be alright :hug: