Help!!

[Erasmus]

Okay, so today, this girl at my school said that she was gonna invite me to her birthday party. The thing is, I don't know her that well, and I don't want to go to the party. Ut I don't want to tell her that I don't wanna go because I don't wanna hurt her feelings. I was thinking of just telling her that I can't come, and making up some excuse as to why, but I'm not sure. Does anyone have any ideas?

[Destructive Impulse]

My uncles coming to town that weekend and were having a family dinner. I really wish I could go though

[Jupiter]

But why don't you want to go? You might find a friend, someone special, etc. I mean, give her a try, man.

[Erasmus]

But why don't you want to go? You might find a friend, someone special, etc. I mean, give her a try, man.

Yeah, you have a point, but the thing is, I think that her and her friends might smoke weed and stuff, and I really don't want to get involved in that.

Any other suggestions guys?

[Destructive Impulse]

13 and already doing pot? Jesus.

[Guillermo]

If you don't want to go then you don't have to. Just tell her that you don't want to. Sometimes you've just got to be straight up about things. I personally wouldn't want to go if there was going to be weed there.

Though, if you're REALLY concerned about hurting her feelings then just tell her that you have other plans

[Short Circuit]

What better way to find out about someone, than going to a party? However, if you do suspect weed, then tell her you dont approve of it, so would rather not go

[xXl0sth0peXx]

You could always say you might have to leave early (if the party's 3 hours stay for like 1.5 hours?), and if you have a phone, check it about half way through for a 'text' saying that you have to go or you don't have to go (if you're having a good time).

I really do recommend going or talking to her. It's a really good thing to try. You may surprise yourself and have fun. :)

[jjsmitty]

If you do go then don't get pressurised into pot, its you're choice whether you want to take it, not theirs. You wont be any less of a "man" for not taking it (in fact i'd regard you as more of a man for declining).

[Desuetude]

Honestly I don't think she'll be that bothered if you go or not. I mean if you were close and talked all the time then yes i'd understand you wanting an excuse to get out of it but as you really don't know each other then I wouldn't have thought she would mind too much. Just say sorry I can't come and if she asks why then "family stuff" is always a good answer.

[Heatbomb21]

Yeah, you have a point, but the thing is, I think that her and her friends might smoke weed and stuff, and I really don't want to get involved in that.

Any other suggestions guys?


Arrange for an early pickup or just leave if things get out of hand. Don't even wait that long. If it gets remotely sketchy or someone mentions drugs or alcohol, split before any possible influence is caused.