seeing dad more

[honeybear]

I usually stay at my dad's every other weekend but it always seems to end so quickly and I am always sad when I get home. I'm trying to work up enough nerve to talk to my mom about letting me see him more when I get my driver's license and car... I don't THINK she'll be upset but there are alot of real bad feelings between them still. Sometimes I wish I lived there but then I'd miss mom...fortunately he just lives on the other side of town so even during the school year i could drive.....*sigh* this sucks :(

[Desuetude]

This is the exact same situation I was in a year ago. Dads every other weekend and every tuesday evening or something.
Honestly talking to your Mum is the best thing to do. When I told mine it was in the middle of an argument so probably not the smartest plan but now I do alternate weeks with each parent.
When you have your drivers license things should be a lot easier and i'm sure she'll be more accepting. She just wants you to be happy and if that means seeing your Dad more then she should be supportive of that. If you lived with your Dad then you would want to move back to your Mums, trust me. Because you don't spend a lot of time with him at the moment he treats you and lets you do things that maybe you wouldn't be allowed to at your Mums. If he becomes more full time that tends to change lol.
Just sit your Mum down and explain how you feel about this. Tell her you love her but you want to spend some more time with your Dad and want to build up a better relationship. There is nothing wrong with you wanting to see him more and she should have figured something like this would happen.

[honeybear]

well I guess I should have also added I spend a month with him in the summer too...but yeah I know things would be different if I lived with him...and I really am happy here but I tend to miss him alot..

[Darlamcbeth]

i think you should just ask her (: hes your dad!

[johnnyd]

As a fellow child of divorced parents, I feel your pain. Because of certain issues, I saw my dad even less than you when I was your age. However, as I grew older I wanted to see him more, so I finally got up the courage to talk to my mom about it, and, although she was initially reluctant, she let me. I would definitely recommend talking to your mom about it. Just remember, they divorced for a reason and she may still harbor ill feelings towards him (I know my mom did and still does.) If she doesn't say yes immediately, don't be discouraged and keep trying. Let her know how important it is to you. Eventually, she will realize how much it means to you and will let you. In the end, she does love you, afterall.