3 things I really need opinions on!!

[Alexander The Great]

Well, if anyone has been following my posts recently, you'll be well aware that I am mixing in with the polish community in my school. I don't know why, but I find them a lot more fun to be around than the english in my school. It is probably because we are (well, I was) in a similar situation - coming to england from our home country, everything is scary, and everything is new, and some people even laugh at you. Well, they hide it amongst themselves, but on facebook they leak it all to me on chat - how they are really feeling. Now, I have one sort of polish friend who is a girl, and she was this new girls buddy who has been in england for about 2 months now (with no english knowledge), and they became really good friends really quickly. The girl who was sort-of friends with me said that this new girl saw me today, and said she really liked my hair and my looks in general and wanted to get to know me. Right after that, she sent me a friend request on fb and started talking to me. The first day was pretty good, but the second day she pretty much vented all her feelings onto me, and told me she was thankful that I listened. This may sound ungrateful, but this has become 'routine' for me...I seem to be everyones shoulder to cry on, but I don't seem to have my own one. If it follows the previous experiences, she will just use me and once she has cried it all out, she will just throw away the 'tissue' (me)

Anyway, this scenario is different. Before I tell you anything else, I get my clothes from 2nd hand shops, my shoes are fugly and so are my trousers. I have never really paid much attention to my non-schoolday looks. However, recently (about 1 month ago), I started paying attention, and I was saving up for chinos and vans (we are actually not poor at all, our house is worth a lot, but my family just says theres no point buying new clothes etc etc). So, yesterday she asked if I wanted to meet up with her and the person who told me that she wanted to know me. I have never been asked to meet up with anyone in a good month, and never from a girl :P so this was a bit of a surprise. However (I am still not regretting this decision), I lied and said I was going to a friends house for a sleepover (i would hate her to see me in the clothes I have right now....seriously). Today we had a facebook convo again, which was 'before I left to my friends house' but that died down pretty quickly; there wasn't anything to say. Her english is very bad (but its really ncie that she's trying, and with the help of google translate we do get along).

So basically, these series of events boil down to 3 questions

1) Was it wrong of me to lie to her that I had other plans, because I was scared she would see me dressed like a dung heap?
2) What can I do to find things to talk about? She is in none of my lessons, and I rarely see her in the corridors
3) Will this just end up like the rest of 'them?' (once they're through the horrible experience of hardly any english knowledge, people taking the piss etc), and she will just chuck me in the bin?

Sorry that this is quite a negative topic, but I would appreciate help :D

[jjsmitty]

Well, this is a complex topic that has my brain working quite heavily on a Sunday night but;
1. She obvioisly likes you for who you are and probably doesnt give two hoots about how you're dressed, it probably took alot of courage for her to ask you in the first place, but if you aren't comfortable with her then thats something you'll have to work out.
2. Perhaps you could talk to her about what it was like to move to the UK from another country, whats different, what she used to enjoy thus
3. You could incorporate What she used to enjoy into a new relationship, if she see's you as a true friend she should count herself as lucky she found you.

Hopefully this is helpful, i'm not great at this stuff but I hope there's something in there you can use.

[DarkHorse4eva]

1 it was wrong, but you had a good reason and i think she would understand if you told her the trueth
2 you can ask her about her family and stuff like that
3 i dont think it would end that way, it seems like she has a little crush on you

[Alexander The Great]

Thanks for both of your opinions; I am beginning to feel a bit guilty for lying to her, but I don't think I should tell her the reason yet...as we speak she is venting her love life, and from whats being said either she is really volatile with her crushes, or there was a little porkie being told when I heard she had a bit of a thing for me...I really don't know what to say :/ but thanks for the replies guys <3