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screamtobeheard
May 5th, 2012, 12:12 AM
When I was younger I was really close to a girl who lived down the street from me. We hung out a lot, but she always treated me differently than anyone else. They'd call me fat, wimpy, nerd, goody-two-shoes. You know, typical younger kid insults that sound stupid to me now, but hurt a lot back then. Anyway, I could deal with me being treated badly and having my self-esteem shot down. I could even handle her stealing from me and using me. What I've been thinking about a lot lately is when we would have sleepovers. She would never sleep over my house. I always had to go to her house. And I was young, I wasn't going to argue. When I was there, we'd do weird things. She and her brother would force me to play strip poker or truth or dare where you can't pick truth and the dares are always provocative or she'd make me take a bath with her. How her parents were okay with this, I have no idea. The kids would make me do these things by physically hurting me or telling me things that would weasel me into it whether I wanted to or not.

This went on for a very long time, and it's been bothering me lately. Sorry if this is in the wrong section, but I really wanted to let this out.

Mortal Coil
May 5th, 2012, 12:57 AM
It's abuse. I'm really sorry about all this :hug:
PM me if you ever need to talk, alright? I know it seems weird, me being so much younger and having only been a VTer for a couple of months, but I mean it. It takes time to get over these things, especially when they happen at such a young age.
Stay strong.

Lyra Heartstrings
May 5th, 2012, 10:59 AM
That is abuse, most definitely. The parent's had obviously done SOMETHING to both the kids, and made them think it was normal to do it to other kids. Like evil.angel, if you ever need to talk, PM/VM/Skype me. I'm here. :)

MemoriesLost
May 5th, 2012, 12:55 PM
This really is abuse. I think you should stand up for yourself. She doesn't have the right to treat you like that. Tell an adult, even. I wish you the best.

Smeagol
May 5th, 2012, 04:53 PM
This is abuse. You ought to tell your parents about it.

screamtobeheard
May 5th, 2012, 09:29 PM
Thank you, everyone.

On the point of telling someone: I would, but no one would believe me if I did.

Truth
May 6th, 2012, 06:12 AM
Thank you, everyone.

On the point of telling someone: I would, but no one would believe me if I did. Of course they would! Why would anyone say "Oh, you're lying to me. You made that up"? It's not like you have a reason to make this up, hun. If you have any close friends you can discuss things with, I am certain that they would not question the validity of your story.

I am so sorry that this happened to you. It's quite obvious the parents were just irresponsible, or they thought that you didn't mind it... I'm sorry, once again.

screamtobeheard
May 6th, 2012, 03:54 PM
Of course they would! Why would anyone say "Oh, you're lying to me. You made that up"? It's not like you have a reason to make this up, hun. If you have any close friends you can discuss things with, I am certain that they would not question the validity of your story.

I am so sorry that this happened to you. It's quite obvious the parents were just irresponsible, or they thought that you didn't mind it... I'm sorry, once again.

I just think they would wonder why I'm just mentioning it now.

It's alright. It's in the past now. I just happen to keep thinking about it for some reason.

Truth
May 6th, 2012, 11:57 PM
I just think they would wonder why I'm just mentioning it now.

It's alright. It's in the past now. I just happen to keep thinking about it for some reason. Well sometimes, you just need to talk about things.

From my understanding, something happened to me as a child - but I can't remember it at all; blocked from my memory since I was young. So you're not alone here. :)

screamtobeheard
May 7th, 2012, 02:35 PM
From my understanding, something happened to me as a child - but I can't remember it at all; blocked from my memory since I was young. So you're not alone here. :)
I suppose. It's just that my friends aren't particularly supportive.
I'm sorry to hear about that. :/ But it is nice to know I'm not alone.

jjsmitty
May 7th, 2012, 02:46 PM
No you are not alone, and if this keeps bugging you / dragging you down you needs to tell someone you trust. Having been subject to similar abuse myself years ago when I was about ten (a friends older brother 17 ish would get into bed with me whenever he could and, well, you get the picture) I kept it to myself until I told my boyfriend a year ago and he was really accepting and understood, he made me understand that it wasnt my fault, which is what I think someone needs to say to you, its not your fault, just some twisted kids messing you about.
Hopefully there's something in here you can use, stay strong.
Aim High.

Truth
May 7th, 2012, 03:04 PM
I suppose. It's just that my friends aren't particularly supportive.
I'm sorry to hear about that. :/ But it is nice to know I'm not alone. Lol, don't be sorry. I truly don't remember it at all; and I have only made connections... (for example, I'd need to shower with my grandfather at age 6 while camping for some reason?)

Anyhow, I'm sorry your friends aren't supportive. =[ If you ever feel bad send me a pm!

screamtobeheard
May 7th, 2012, 08:34 PM
Lol, don't be sorry. I truly don't remember it at all; and I have only made connections... (for example, I'd need to shower with my grandfather at age 6 while camping for some reason?)

Anyhow, I'm sorry your friends aren't supportive. =[ If you ever feel bad send me a pm!

Ahh, I see.

It's alright. And thank you!