To Prevent Getting Hurt Anymore, I'm Gonna Try and Go Straight

[Biscuithead13]

As much as it hurts me to say this, I think I just need to force myself straight :/ Over the years, I cant deny the fact that I've developed a huge attraction to guys, much more than to girls. I've had a gf, and did get to second base with her and it was bearable. I've experimented with guys, and it really did a lot for me, but I think the emotional pain I've dealt with has become too much. Over the last three years I've liked a number of guys, and never got anywhere with it. Much of that had to do with the uncertainity about myself, but at this point, if I cant bring myself to come out completely so I can live the LGBT lifestyle properly and openly, then I need to just cut it out completely. The last guy I liked hurt me so bad, which is sad because we dont even live near each other he lives in another freakin state. If I'm going to just end up liking the wrong guys and getting burned by guys who think, say, and even come off as bi then do a 180 on me and suddenly say they are straight, then I just need to drop it and go after girls. Mabye I can build up attractions to them more if I try.

[Stryker125]

Dude. You are who you are, and you like what you like. Everybody goes through a few bad relationships...doesn't have anything to do with sexuality. There's this saying that goes "Be patient when it comes to relationships. You have to slay a few dragons before you get to the princess." Just be patient dude. You'll be alright.

[ExhibitG]

so i'm going to be blunt: you can't turn yourself straight. you are who you are and there's no changing that. guys hurt you, but so what? girls get hurt by guys just as much as you did to say the least. it has nothing to do with your sexuality. you're giving up pretty quickly since you are only 16 years old. you have your whole life to meet a guy that treats you right. i think instead of putting all this effort into being straight, you should refocus your efforts on building up courage and emotional stability to withstand the pain and move forward.

[Short Circuit]

You will cause yourself more harm than good if you deny your own sexuality. As others have already stated, you are what you are, nothing more, nothing less.

[Mortal Coil]

Be who you are. First of all, sexuality is not a choice; nobody can choose who they love. Therefore "turning yourself straight" is impossible anyway. Then there's the fact that it will hurt you too much.
Stay yourself.

[PerpetualMotionSquad]

Don't change who you are If people cannot accept it then they aren't worth your time. I am bi think I turning gay tho and I have told 3 people and it feels good. Just be yourself

[Breakeven]

hun be who u are , u cant live ur life afraid of getting hurt , we all get hurt till we find the right one that makes us forget all the pain we been throu

[spiderdude]

Don't let anybody change you. You are who you are

[Spreadingwings]

maybe you should hold of on dating. If not I don't believe you should give up. Love is hard to find and hard to keep, if you have anatraction pace yourself into it. But use your own judgement to guide you too, I'm just saying what I think. Wish you luck.

[Biscuithead13]

What I'm thinking is I'm falling for the wrong guys :/ I'm attracted to straight acting gay/bi guys, mainly because I wouldnt feel that sense of security with a femme acting guy. The problem is im finding your straight acting guys, a least the ones I've liked, turn out to only be curious and change thier mind constantly. It sucks :( I know there are straight acting gay/bi guys out thier, but I just dont know how do I get myself to a point where I'm open enough about my sexuality to be able to go after them, or be pursued myself. It seems that if I'm not completely out its impossible to find a relationship with a guy.

[MemoriesLost]

I tried to go straight and it really didn't work for me :c
I just CAN'T feel attracted to guys. I don't think there's much to do about it. You should just wait it out... If someone you REALLY like comes along and seems interested in you, tell them! I just don't think forcing yourself to be someone you're not is the answer to this. Or to anything, really. You should talk to somebody about your emotional pain. It'll help to vent.

[Alexander The Great]

You can't 'force' yourself into being straight dude...you are who you are, and just because guys hurt you, doesn't mean that girls won't (and trust me, they do hurt!). Just man it out; things will get better

[Smeagol]

You are who you are, you really can't change it. I'm sorry that you had bad luck with guys in the past but you will find him eventually, he's out there...

[LatinaVivit]

I know this may hard to hear - well, read - but you'll have to wait a little longer. Once you're in college and on your own, you'll figure out those high school guys mean nothing. You'll find someone who'll be the best guy you've ever met...and he'll be as much into you as you are into him! High school friendships, let's be honest, won't last forever. You're going to grow up, meet a guy, have kids, a white picket fence, and be normal. Guys at that age will know who they are, will be mature, and be able to be who they are with you. Good luck!! :)

[pineinchneis]

Forgive me for using a cliche but you were born this way. I've tried tks go straight before and it dean work. It just makes you fell even worse than you did before. Just try and work out a way forward form here. It will be difficult and it may take time but at the end you will know who you are.

[Biscuithead13]

Ok so after a few days, I deleted that boy off of everything, my phone, FB, Skype, and all his pics are gone. I also cant let his actions sway me towards something I know is only going to hurt me more. I know I'm not straight. I just like guys a lot, plain and simple, and there's nothing wrong with that! :D

[CrossingtheCourtyard]

There we go, dust yourself off and get back on the horse. There's someone out there for you yet.

[whiteyrhys]

Dude! Be yourself!
Don't be someone you don't want to be!
Keep persevering

[Lovemeorleaveme]

Ok so after a few days, I deleted that boy off of everything, my phone, FB, Skype, and all his pics are gone. I also cant let his actions sway me towards something I know is only going to hurt me more. I know I'm not straight. I just like guys a lot, plain and simple, and there's nothing wrong with that! :D

Go you, everyone has trouble finding Mr or Mrs right no matter what sexuality they are, you have your entire life ahead of you dont wast it by focusing it on finding him cause for all you know you might miss him, put yourself out there, go to partys if your invited, hang out at places were you might meet people with the same interests as you, if you like books read at the library instead of your house. Someday somewere you'll find him but untill then live life, have a little fun, mess around and regret it all when your older.

[EmptyBottle]

You can't force yourself to become straight. It's who you are.

[tmak621]

Man, be yourself. You can't have people let you down because you're different. Everyone has to sooner or later accept the fact that you are who you are and you do what you want to do. It's just opinions. There are some rude/selfish/disrespectful people out there, don't ever let them get to you. It only makes you stronger if you just accept the fact that you are different then they are.

[Mysterious Skin]

By pretending to be something you're not it just gonna hurt yourself. No Matter Gay or Straight the people you thought that loved you are going to hurt you. And that's life. You have to be brave and accept it. "Going" straight is like eating a food that you're allergic to. Be yourself.

[loganbenson]

You are who you are...u can try but it won't work.......

[Random101]

I used to be the same as you too.after a year nd a half of coming out
I was so overwhelmed with the bulling that I jst told my friends
That I was straight now even though inside I new I was bi nd up to this point
Everyone still thinks im str8 now

[SamB]

You should not have to change who you are to please anyone else. Being gay is something you cannot chose and if people don't accept you for it then it is their problem not yours.

So you have had a few bad experiences with guys, the same will happen if you are "straight" but it could be you doing the hurting towards girls because you will never be able to love them like you are straight.

Honestly, although it may not seem like it now, it will get better and easier. You are only young and have a lot of your life ahead of you, do not write of the possibility of finding a husband at this age, you will find someone.

If you try to make yourself straight you will only end up hurting yourself more then you are hurting now, there is no one on this planet that can hurt you as much as you can hurt yourself, you need to think about this and realise that this is something that you will need to stick with, and it might be hard but you will get through it.

[Drew5]

You should not have to change who you are to please anyone else. Being gay is something you cannot chose and if people don't accept you for it then it is their problem not yours.

So you have had a few bad experiences with guys, the same will happen if you are "straight" but it could be you doing the hurting towards girls because you will never be able to love them like you are straight.

Honestly, although it may not seem like it now, it will get better and easier. You are only young and have a lot of your life ahead of you, do not write of the possibility of finding a husband at this age, you will find someone.

If you try to make yourself straight you will only end up hurting yourself more then you are hurting now, there is no one on this planet that can hurt you as much as you can hurt yourself, you need to think about this and realise that this is something that you will need to stick with, and it might be hard but you will get through it.


Don't worry, girls can hurt str8 guys. We're not that diff in that area. I think Biscuit is havin prob finding guys who are comf with who they are. No joke, gay/bi kids need something that they can recognize as gay or bi that the haters are clueless about. It gotta be better than gaydar too. Something subtle tho. Maybe be a little more open abt checking guys out and someone will pick up onit.

[ramgoat647]

Dude! You don't have to change. In this society, it will be difficult to live as an open gay. However, if you embrace it and accept it, nothing will get to you. And don't let anything get to you. You shouldn't change because other people are idiots. When my uncle came out as a gay, his father pretty much disowned him. But he started a life, found a boyfriend and are now living together, His dad is starting to see that being gay is not a horrible, nasty thing. Don't change because of other people. Be yourself. Don't make me find you and give you a stern warning! :) Good luck.

[SkeptiqL]

What I'm thinking is I'm falling for the wrong guys :/ I'm attracted to straight acting gay/bi guys, mainly because I wouldnt feel that sense of security with a femme acting guy. The problem is im finding your straight acting guys, a least the ones I've liked, turn out to only be curious and change thier mind constantly. It sucks :( I know there are straight acting gay/bi guys out thier, but I just dont know how do I get myself to a point where I'm open enough about my sexuality to be able to go after them, or be pursued myself. It seems that if I'm not completely out its impossible to find a relationship with a guy.

*Cough Cough* there are some straight acting gays here ;) in all seriousness don't change yourself I mean there's loads of straight acting gays out there trust me I've been Hurt too but now I have found an amazing boy! Just keep looking and you'll get there :)

[LatinaVivit]

You're absolutely beautiful and normal just the way you are. Don't ever forget that. You don't have to try and change yourself for others. Be who you are, and I promise it'll feel much better:)

[Upgrade_U]

you shouldnt have to change the way you are. if people cant accept you for who you are then thats their fault not yours.

[JackShephard]

A few bumps in the road. That's all. You can try and change who you are, but you where born this way. And so was I. It sucks I know. Currently, my roommate is my best friend, and I want to come out to her, but my sexuality has been in question before and she's even told me that she would be mad if I turned out gay. It sounds shitty, but I feel that her hurt would come more from me lying to her for the past years rather than that I am bisexual. But, keep your head up. You will find someone some day. People who will turn you away are ignorant and not worth your precious time. Life is short after all.

[TheLoveYhuMonsterr]

Don't force yourself straight. If you do, it's just going to hurt yourself more. You don't have to come out anytime soon, but when you are ready and open about your sexuality you will be happier. Sure, comes the occasional sting to the heart, but you get used to it. Your heart has to get broken a few times before you find the right person. The only reason I know about this is because my brother's gay and he's 19. My step grandmother told him that he was sexually molested as a child and that he was posessed by a demon. My brother, my uncle and I don't believe you just wake up one day and decide to be gay/les/bi because that may be offensive to other people with that sexuality. My uncle is 23, and he is pretty happy being open about being gay. There's nothing wrong with it and you were born that way(: don't be ashamed or scared of getting your heart broken. That is simply a part of life. Be happy and don't force yourself to be straight.. It'll just cause you more pain
Hope I helped
:)

[KenBoy6]

Dont chang le for anyone. Just be yourself

[Sean4U]

Ok so after a few days, I deleted that boy off of everything, my phone, FB, Skype, and all his pics are gone. I also cant let his actions sway me towards something I know is only going to hurt me more. I know I'm not straight. I just like guys a lot, plain and simple, and there's nothing wrong with that! :D

there you go Chris, you realize you're more gay than str8...and you're doing what is natural to you...let's face it str8 guys/girls have the same problem with relationships....you'll have many between now and when you find THAT guys believe me....i think i have the best bf in the world, but I also know that more than likely it is not the guy i'm going to be with all my life, we will both grow up, maybe go to different colleges and then well find someone else to date and fall for....just let yourself live your life and be happy with who you are....you're definitely in that groove now :D...bcasue there is NOTHING wrong with being gay ...because that is who you are

[Biscuithead13]

Haha yeah and I figured out that I was gay :) I mean I'll be honest i think girls are cute in the face and I can kiss one and like it but thier body doesnt sexually attracted me. Vaginas are gross but I like the other thing :p guys are just all around hotter to me and I had a boyfriend from my school and like it