Dating online?

[Lyra Heartstrings]

So I'm curious-
Has anyone else dated online? I did..twice. I'm friends with both still..but it just felt weird. I've vowed to myself to never do it again..but am I the only person who's done it?

[Jupiter]

I actually did not do that ever. I don't think I would be willing to do that, either.

[ImCoolBeans]

While I do firmly believe that love is attainable online, I don't like the idea of a full on relationship over the internet. I just don't like the idea of not being able to fully be with somebody, and I know how it hurts. I have not and will not date online, but I do know that love can come from an online connection.

[Jess]

someone TRIED to have one with me, but I firmly turned him down by ignoring him and blocking him. he was asking weird and disgusting questions. otherwise, never dated online. I never will.

[Kanindrum]

I believe love can be found just about anywhere. The thing is that over time, the two will need to eventually be united, of course under safe pretenses. Basically, I don't think the relationship can STAY an online relationship forever.

[Maverick]

Online dating for the most part is bad news. As long as I been on here I never seen one relationship developed online ever work out.
While I do firmly believe that love is attainable online, I don't like the idea of a full on relationship over the internet. I just don't like the idea of not being able to fully be with somebody, and I know how it hurts. I have not and will not date online, but I do know that love can come from an online connection.
I don't think love can come solely from an online connection. Part of the problem online is that people paint a pretty picture about themselves and you get a limited view of the person. Online there is always the temptation to depict yourself as someone that you really aren't.... without necessarily lying.

Its like reading a website about a hotel that makes itself out to be 5 star but if you really went there its at best a 2 or 3. You basically just fall in love with an "idea" of a person not who you are really dealing with. You can't love a person without being with them in person unable to hide behind a computer screen, webcam, or skype call.

You gotta know somebody for a long time, know a lot about them, and been their presence before you can say you truly love them. The barrier of the internet leaves out too many crucial things to make love possible. Of course there are exceptions and all but very rarely are people going to share intimate details with someone they never met.

[ImCoolBeans]

Online dating for the most part is bad news. As long as I been on here I never seen one relationship developed online ever work out.

I don't think love can come solely from an online connection. Part of the problem online is that people paint a pretty picture about themselves and you get a limited view of the person. Online there is always the temptation to depict yourself as someone that you really aren't.... without necessarily lying.

Its like reading a website about a hotel that makes itself out to be 5 star but if you really went there its at best a 2 or 3. You basically just fall in love with an "idea" of a person not who you are really dealing with. You can't love a person without being with them in person unable to hide behind a computer screen, webcam, or skype call.

You gotta know somebody for a long time, know a lot about them, and been their presence before you can say you truly love them. The barrier of the internet leaves out too many crucial things to make love possible. Of course there are exceptions and all but very rarely are people going to share intimate details with someone they never met.

Perhaps I could have worded my last sentence a bit better, because what I was trying to say was that love can emerge from an online connection, as a starting point, rather than just speaking over the computer, phone, webcam, etc...

But in regard to your last sentence, I agree that there are exceptions where you can form a very close relationship (more so in a friendly manner) via the internet. It doesn't happen extremely often, but they do happen.

[Mortal Coil]

Never have I tried online dating. I've certainly kept in touch with long-distance friends over the internet, but that's the closest I have or will come. I think that internet relationships don't work because people lie too much. Admittedly, people lie in person too, but the truth comes out more easily in person, and you get to have a first-hand experience of the person's personality as opposed to the watered-down version that they give to their online potential boy/girlfriend.

[Donkey]

Never had an online relationship and never intend to, sounds like a very frustrating and unpleasant experience to me

[jbs1125]

Closest I'll ever come is sort of pen pals, just with email with a girl from Europe, you have to meet in person and I don't think relationships should be built behind a screen.

[Scarykings]

never had one but i don't know if i would. I prefer seeing them in person but hey i would try an online relationship. Communication is important

[BEASTFROMCHCH]

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Yeea i have done it before, but we talked heaps

[Archerer2012]

Ive done it before a bunch of times an it's not that bad, if there is trust. U just have to be honest with the other person an yea new too I'm friends with some of them, but that's just my personal knowledge. But it's not that bad.

[joshduder]

Anyone tried it how good is it?? And how to start with it

[Fiction]

I've done it.

I believe that love can stem from online connections, but as Anthony said, you can fall in love with the idea of the person, or the person they make themselves out to be, not the person they really are. However, this makes it no less painful, the love is still there. I also believe that the nature of the love, especially when found on a site like this, can be very dependent. Love that makes you completely dependent on each other is never a good idea. I found that I began to shut myself off from everyone and everything in my real life. My life was the internet. I had no one, but a computer screen. It was a lonely, lonely place.

From my experience of online relationships, they hurt more than anything I have ever experienced. You become isolated and alone. You start to crave human contact of any form. Hugs begin to mean more to you than you can imagine. Your life begins to revolve around a computer. You have no social life, and basically no life. Mine ended in hospitalised suicide attempts on both parts, We where too dependent, and too isolated from anything but each other.

Online relationships are hard and something I vow never to do again. I really would not advise them under any circumstances.