im lonely

[bmxkid313]

Im 15, a sophomore in highschool. I never had a girlfriend, because I never cared to. Im a loner, and im ok with that. I can occupy myself and I don't need to be with anybody to have fun. I don't say much and I just keep to myself. I am fine with being by myself. I would rather be hours from any kind of civilization then be in a crowd of people. I am perfectly fine not having friends, and once school is over I don't talk to anybody. It may sound weird, but I don't want friends, I like to be left alone. Although I am ok not having many friends, I want nothing more then to have a special somebody. I want a girl that I can be with when I want, and also have time to myself. I want a girl that I can talk to about anything and not have to worry about acting like somebody im not. I want somebody to hold and have to myself. I don't want to walk down the hallway at school and look for any girl who wants to hook up. I want to walk down the hallway and look for the special girl, my girl. This is not really a question, but any advice would be appreciated.

[Wooba]

I know where your coming from. I wouldn't consider myself a complete loner, but honestly i only have one group of friends that i stick with. Five kids against the world, that's how i see it.
Anyways; getting that "special somebody" isn't easy. Your not going to find anyone who you have everything in common with. But the easiest thing to do is just start looking around. See if anyone in your classes has the same interests you do, just start a conversation.
Good luck man, hope all goes well. :)

[bmxkid313]

Thanks for the advice. Does anybody else want to weigh in on this?

[johnnyd]

I am in the same boat as you. I feel more comfortable by myself in a quiet, relaxing place than in, say, a loud, crazy party. It's called being introverted, and its far from being a bad thing. However, it does mean that you're going to have to put in a little effort to find that special someone. Finding that girl who you really have a connection with is going to require some socializing, and I know that is probably not in your comfort zone, but you will need to work to find her. I had to go through the same process, but trust me, it is truly worth it.

[marcorar]

I know what you mean man. I don't want the mega popular girl that everyone drools over. It's nice having a chill someone who you could openly be with than a high maintenance person who you'd have to make an effort to please all the time instead of just laying back and enjoying life with. I think it's good to make friends with people like you; those who prefer some quiet time. Then you can choose who you'd want to take an extra step with from there. :) Hope you the best bro!

[bmxkid313]

Thanks, i will try to talk to people more. If ang girls are reading, would like a girls prospective on this.

[bmxkid313]

66 views and none of them are girls?

[obsessivedisorder]

Well, if my sources are correct, I am female. I mean, I am 15 and never had a boyfriend so I don't think it's a big deal. But if you want a girlfriend, you are going to have to open up and talk to one or else no one will know.

[The Bright Side]

i think its pretty cool that you are content and happy with who you are, and most girls who aren't fake and unrealistic would appreciate that.
if you do eye a girl, who is different and not like the rest, take the friend approach. the reason i say that, is because if she is feeling the way you do, she would probably want a guy to take the friend approach and not push her boundaries anymore by going up to her like 'oh yeah im so gonna date you, and not even bother being your friend'. you seem like a nice, down to earth guy, so i think that you would take the friend approach and be patient with a girl.
the advice i have, is if you do eye that special girl, be yourself and if she wants to know more about you, be honest.
in my opinion, being honest is a key thing in any relationship, romantic or not. (besides communication. communication is also important)

[Smeagol]

Good luck with finding that special someone, it takes a lot of time though...

[bmxkid313]

i think its pretty cool that you are content and happy with who you are, and most girls who aren't fake and unrealistic would appreciate that.
if you do eye a girl, who is different and not like the rest, take the friend approach. the reason i say that, is because if she is feeling the way you do, she would probably want a guy to take the friend approach and not push her boundaries anymore by going up to her like 'oh yeah im so gonna date you, and not even bother being your friend'. you seem like a nice, down to earth guy, so i think that you would take the friend approach and be patient with a girl.
the advice i have, is if you do eye that special girl, be yourself and if she wants to know more about you, be honest.
in my opinion, being honest is a key thing in any relationship, romantic or not. (besides communication. communication is also important)

There is one girl, I met her at the beginning of the year. When I met her I saw something in her eyes that made her different then other girls. I don't know what that thing was but I still see it everytime I look at her. We were partners in french and we became friends but were weren't close and only talked in french. Then we started talking on facebook a tiny bit and she normally took a day or so to really but sometimes she would not really at all. We changed seats and partners in french and at the beggining of class she would sit down then turn around and say hi to me. We changed seats again and now she walks in and ignores me all together. When her french partner is not in school she comes and sits with me and my current partner. One day we were in the library and she was helping me with my french and she said that she does not like my partner since she thinks she's a genius and better then other people. She must like me more then she dislikes my partner since she always sits with us. We still don't talk much. What does everybody else think I should do now?

[scott757]

I am so much in the same boat as you. I have my group of friends (okay theres like 15 of us) :P and don't really bother with anyone else. I've always seen myself as a loner and I don't open up easily, you know I've accepted you in my life when I open up to you. I have the same search as you... I am in a relationship but it is really not working out, its just not what I am wanting in a relationship (see my begging for help for that story)

Looks like you may be in luck here. I would say try the friend approach and just have a general conversation with her. Talk to her often but don't become a stalker, be her friend and open up to her about you, when you feel like you have each others trust then begin to hint at you liking her, then if she still seems ok then try asking her to go on a date. Good luck :)

[bmxkid313]

If there are 15 of you in your group I wouldn't call you a loner. I have 3 people in my group... me, myself, and I. I always tell myself im going to talk to her and I think I will but I rarely do. It seems as though she likes talking to me (I could be wrong) but she never starts a conversation with me. I don't know if she doesn't like me or if she is trying to ignore me so I talk to her. I know that she is not shy. What does everybody else think?

[Tristar21]

it seems like you are looking for the perfect person. and no offense but that is really hard to find. as said before just start out as friends with a girl and im sure there are some out there that have looked at you and want to talk. but you say you want a girl to have and hold but also have your space.... remember you have to give back a little to get something. by that i mean you need to listen and talk maybe a bit more than you are comfortable with.... i just read your other post. this girl must like you somewhat. just start talking to her more. this could definitely go somewhere for you. just dont overdo it either or she might get annoyed.

hope this helped

[bmxkid313]

I always want to talk to her but never do. How can I talk to her more? When I see her in the hallways, sometimes she smiles a lot and sometimes not. It seems like when she doesn't expect to see me( if we walk around a corner at the same time or something like that) she says hi with enthusiasm but when we see eachother from all the way down the hall she says it very casually. Why? Any and all posts, opinions, or advice is apritiated.

[bmxkid313]

Anybody?

[brisk]

Just talk to her. It may be nerve racking, but it's the only way to truly get to know her! I know from personal experience that it's better to start a conversation than to let your time go to waste. I had the exact same feelings for a girl, but I didn't vocalize them and she ended up with a jerk. Don't let your feelings go to waste; if she's an honorable human being, she'll talk to you. There's no need to be nervous. Good luck!

[bmxkid313]

I was going to talk to her today, but didn't. I truly thought I was going to ask her to study 9th period after french was over on our way out the classroom and go from there. I assume she left school early because she want there. I know she was in school today. Hopefully tomorrow :( does anybody have any reason why she says hi differently in the halls? (My last post, maybe my second to last post)