I've got a Homophobic friend!

[Dimentio]

Well he is from America and we have a YouTube gamming channel together, We speak everyday and this is above any normal Internet Friendship, I will be planning to go see him a lot but the issue his, He is SUPER Homophobic! Like he does not even want to hug me as he says it is gay ha ha, And what makes that worse is he does not know i am Gay ha ha.
Like there has been strong signs for it lately but yeah, He does not know fully, What makes it hard on me is he is super cute, Quite tall with a nice body, And he wondered would it be okay if he was nude as nudity does not bother him, I said i did not mind ha ha, SUPER gelous of his GF though!
So should i tell him one day? Or like lt him figure out on his own? Because even though James is younger then me, How mature he acts and how he is and height everything, He is like an older brother to me and i could not live without him.

[thinblueline]

Honestly I would not tell him. If he is really a homophobe, then he might be a bit freaked out.

[Weeping_Angel]

Well he is from America and we have a YouTube gamming channel together, We speak everyday and this is above any normal Internet Friendship, I will be planning to go see him a lot but the issue his, He is SUPER Homophobic! Like he does not even want to hug me as he says it is gay ha ha, And what makes that worse is he does not know i am Gay ha ha.
Like there has been strong signs for it lately but yeah, He does not know fully, What makes it hard on me is he is super cute, Quite tall with a nice body, And he wondered would it be okay if he was nude as nudity does not bother him, I said i did not mind ha ha, SUPER gelous of his GF though!
So should i tell him one day? Or like lt him figure out on his own? Because even though James is younger then me, How mature he acts and how he is and height everything, He is like an older brother to me and i could not live without him.

I think that being honest is the most important thing in any friendship, and if you tell him that you are gay and he still accepts you, that means he is a true friend.

[Stryker125]

I'd let him figure it out on his own, but I don't see anything wrong with telling him. If he's your friend, he'll at least try to be more understanding.

[Desuetude]

Seeing as the three above have all given different opinions I might as well chuck another one in the hat.
Does he make jokes about gay people and make fun of them? He could just be using the word as an insult. I mean, I know quite a few boys that think hugging is "gay".
(and remember I don't like hugs, it might just be him as a person that thinks that :L)
If you go to meet him without telling him then things could get quite a bit awkward :/ I think you should hint at the fact that you're gay and hope to god that he isn't THAT slow. Like Jessica said if he's a true friend then you would want to be able to tell him anything and have him accept you for who you are.
If he does find out you could also reasure him that you're not interested in him in a relationshippy type way and you only want to be friends.

[jenna99]

telling him might scare him to be honest, you will know when you should

[boonsim]

If he can't accept you for who you are, he's not a true friend. Also, if he's REALLY enthusiastic about how homophobic he is, he might be hiding something...

(By the way, not all of us Americans are homophobes!)

[Wooba]

Don't tell him. Your sexuality doesn't really concern him, and unless you feel there will be some kind of drastic improvement in your friendship, then there's no reason to talk about it.
Usually, the homphobes are the ones who are insecure with their sexuality.

[Short Circuit]

If he is a homophobe like you say, then if you do tell him, be prepared to loose that friend. Only you can decide if you tell him or not.

[XxAssasiNxX]

Just keep it to yourelf till he accepts gay people for who they are. and more importantly when he gets wise and realises that some dudes just like other dudes...

[Desuetude]

Just keep it to yourelf till he accepts gay people for who they are. and more importantly when he gets wise and realises that some dudes just like other dudes...
Some people never accept it though. In some cases kids are brought up with their parents telling them homosexuality is bad and so the cycle carries on, yes it's possible for some peoples opinions to change and you would hope that they would but unfortunatley that's not always the way it goes. So if Kieran uses this advice he could be waiting forever.

[joeharris1223]

Ive got a homophobic family sooo.

[Dimentio]

One dude this is about my friend as i don't have much, Two stop trying to make it look like your in a worse position, Three i really don't like you for some reason so do not comment on my threads please.

[Green Arrow]

Let him find out himself, if he finds out himself he will probably react better than telling him yourself. :)

[Noirtier]

I think honesty is the most important thing in a friendship. If he is a true friend, he will still accept you. If he's does reject you because of it, he's not worth the time. I know from personal experience.

[james wolf]

Just because he says hugging is gay? He might not be a homophobe just freaked out or in denial. But if he is one, kill him.

[botwa]

I think that you're not obliged to tell him.
Your friendship is about plain friendship, right? your sexuality shouldn't bother him.

he can also figure it out himself.

[Rayquaza]

Don't tell him. He seems happy with his love life, don't ruin it for him. Since you say he's "homophobic", don't jeopardize the relationship. Maybe he isn't homophobic, maybe he's just saying that. You need to find someone else. Some things are just not meant to be.

[Curtis96]

Tell him otherwise it could get really awkward when he comes round and if he is your mate he will understand and hopefully you will be an exception for him.

[Thunderstorm]

If he really was your friend, he'd aceept you the way you are. Say that you like him as a friend and tell him you're homosexual, but just say can you stay friends. Better you tell him now then let him figure it out. He'd be too surprised if you let him figure it out.

[Aves]

If you tell him, maybe he'll realize that being homophobic is childish. However, he could also stop talking to you all together. So that one is your call. The whole "if he's a true friend" stuff doesn't translate the same, especially over the internet.

Don't tell him you think he's cute or whatever, that will freak him out for sure. He'll definitely be uncomfortable if he knows that you think he's attractive/you like him as well as you being gay. Why? Because most guys would be, it's the truth.