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Awkward
April 30th, 2012, 01:24 PM
So as you may I'm 15 and im really really shy. I usually hang around with 13 year olds becuase of this.

When I moved house last summer I eventually became friends with a 13 year old that is like one of the very popular people (He knows everyone in the area but quite a lot don't like him becuase he's the type of person that annoys people) and becuase if this the bunch of 11-14 year olds that are always out have started to say hi and stuff to me (compared to staring at me becuase I used to be a wierd lonely guy). I want to just join them and be friends and hang around with them but becuase I'm shy I can't.

Can someone tell me what to do?

Desuetude
April 30th, 2012, 03:32 PM
Honestly you just need to get out there and say hello. There isn't much else to tell you really. They are taking the first step by talking to you, just engage in conversation that is open ended. Try not to be too reserved and I know it's hard considering you're shy but you need to come out of your comfort zone for a while to allow you to feel more comfortable when you're around them if that makes sense?

Awkward
April 30th, 2012, 04:14 PM
Yeah, the thing is that I have no idea if they really want me around or if they're just friendly like that. But I'll try.

Desuetude
April 30th, 2012, 04:21 PM
Yeah, the thing is that I have no idea if they really want me around or if they're just friendly like that. But I'll try.
If they're talking to you and trying to get to know you then assume they want you around. Don't push them away because you wont get anywhere with them. Yeah, just go along with things and see how they work out because the more you get to know them then the more you'll start to accept each other and feel part of "the group".

BrassMonkey
April 30th, 2012, 06:42 PM
Just get to know them. Talk to them, get an interesting topic started and then boom. After doing this a few times, and hanging around them, they will probably be friends with you. After all, you said they are now saying hey to you, so they must think your cool some way. Thats how I made most of my friends, by being friends with other people and hanging around their friends and talking to them and having interesting conversations with them. Eventually, we became one big group of friends. Besides, If they didnt like you, they wouldnt say anything to you, or thats how it is at my school (They either dont say anything to you or insult you if they dont like you). So, I hope this helped, I hope it works out for you and you make new friends (:

Awkward
May 1st, 2012, 07:16 AM
Thanks :)