Sexual Difficulties

[Adam88]

Hi, I am Adam, and i just recently introduced myself. I decided to write on this forum, to get opinions from both sexs. As I get older I keep having sexual feelings that really stress me put. I just want to let everyone know, that I am not one of thos people who want to be part of societys "Norm", of being straight. I feel, that Gays, Lesbians, and Bisexuals, are just as equal as Straights, and if there is a heaven, they will be up their along with straights.

Anyway, like others I am having a hard time with my orientation. You see, I am 18, but I never been with a woman. As smart as I may be, I am still a very shy person, and don'r know how to approach women. So I don't even know whats its like to kiss a female. All my life, I considered myself straight, not because of what society says is normal, but because I say so. Naturally I feel, my heart and soul belongs with women and only women. When I hit the age of 14, I fealt I knew my sexual orientation. Even if I saw a gay scene in a movie, it did not excite me or arouse me, But if I saw lesbians, that aroused me.

When I look back to my childhood, I remember watching wrestling, and getting aroused ounce in a while, and had no prolem with it. Of coarse I got aroused by women, but sometimes the men would to. When I hit the age of fourteen, I realized that maybe I was going through a phase, because at this point I was only attracted to a woman, and if I ever lost my virginity, I would not want to loose it to a man.

I even tried testing my sexuality. Like I said, if I so gay websites, or a gay scene on a movie, I would not get attracted to it. Even watching men wrestling didn't turn me on. It was owmen, and womwn only. Like a tipical man, I love action and watch wrestling. The weird thing is that ounce in a while my penis would get a little hard watching wrestling. Its not a full blown erection like when I see women, but regardless it gets hard. So, what is it? I heared that men can naturally get aroused by fighting, not for sexual purposes, but because of the adreniline.

Now the older I get the worse it gets. For instance, if I see a male who my best friend, ,my penis moves, especially if he looks handsome. Like I said a million times, I feel, Homosexuality, Bisexuality, are just as natural, as heterosexuality. So if I see something gay, and don't get turned on by it, why would I still get erections from a man sometimes. Like I said, I always felt my heart and soul belongs to women only. I am starting to get really stressed, and my brain is having a huge game og tug of war, with my sexuality. I am starting to think that this is not "confusion" because I am 18 already, and shoild know hwo I am by now. I tried so hard, to brake it down, and see who I am but I can't. Should i see a thereapist oe what? I just don'y know anymore.
-Adam

[MoveAlong]

Hey Adam! Welcome to the forums! :D

Ok, well first nobody's too old to know they're gay. I know a man who was 59 when he found out he was gay. Of course that shouldn't be a role model, but I'm just using it as an example :P

We can't tell you if you're gay. If you like women, hmm then maybe you're bi. You sound straight, but a little attracted to men. But it's so hard to tell.
It might feel like a tug of war, but I don't think you should go to a therapist until you've at least tried out this site. There are plenty of gay people who would be willing to talk to you!

Here's the secret to getting closer about knowing your sexuality: talk with a person who understands O_O just talking and letting out your feelings can sort out your mind. Typing can do that too!

First, I just wanna ask, what do you like about wrestling that gets you a hard-on? The guys, the action, or the sport? I mean, the erection would come from some kind of guy-on-guy action, rubbing, or their bulges, not just by watching it mindlessly!

Personally, I think you're just straight and mildly attracted to guys. Just because you get a boner doesn't mean that you're gay or bi.
You're gonna have to give more info (just watch how long the posts are :P)

[Adam88]

Thanks I appreciate the talk. And sorry for the length of the support.

Well, the be more specific, it was only the bearhugs that really did it. After a number of years, I didn't get turned on by it, but now its back. There are times where, I say to myself "ok relax, and see how far it goes", So I'll star at a man bearhugging another, and this time I'll get a full blown erection. And sometimes it won't happen at all. You see, I do believe there is more to life, and you should ambrace every moment to the fullest. So I try not to stress over the issue of sexuality. So to be more specific, its the bearhugs. But I noticed, when I do get a slight erection, I get annoyed, as if my consciounce is getting mad at me. Like i said, I don't care what society thinks of me, and I even have a loving mother who supports me in everything. Perhaps I have her personality. But, even as a kid, whatever I fealy, I believed "I" belong with a woman only. This is what kills me iside. Whats going on?

[MoveAlong]

Well I have no idea why bearhugs turn you on :confused: that's just something you'll have to get over, I guess. Even if I did that with a guy, I prob wouldn't get an erection.
Even tho you're trying to not stress over this, you are.
What happened to your story about the wrestling and the friend thing...? Why didn't you explain that?

[Adam88]

Sorry, I'll go on. As for the "Friend Thing", nothing really happened. I actually meant it for any friend in general. You see its as if the slight erection towards a friend, is more over excitement rather than sexual. Its like, I don;t want sex from him, but yet my penis still moves. Maybe because I really like that person as a brother. But yet if the friend is handsom, again the penis will movie. So I'll sit there and try to think, "If I was bisexual, can I have sex with this guy", but it stresses me to think of it. And if I have a dream, of kissing a man, or having sex, I'll wake up mad, but have an erection. Sometimes I am so stressed, that its hard to masturbate. Because while I cum, to a woman in my head, an image of a guy will pass in the thought. So techniqually, was I masturbating to a male or female,?, or was it an un-wanting thought that past in, to brake my concentration. And you a right, I am very stressed.

[MoveAlong]

And if I have a dream, of kissing a man, or having sex, I'll wake up mad, but have an erection. Sometimes I am so stressed, that its hard to masturbate. Because while I cum, to a woman in my head, an image of a guy will pass in the thought. So techniqually, was I masturbating to a male or female,?, or was it an un-wanting thought that past in, to brake my concentration. And you a right, I am very stressed.

ok well
1) sex arouses everyone. So if you dream about having sex with a man (or if you watch gay porn and actually pay attention when you're straight) you'll probably get a hard-on. That's just natural! :D

2) I think you were masturbating to a gal, but it seems you're just stressing over it a little too much
Wait a few hours, I'd like to see what others have to say, I can only give so much advice being the first to reply :P

[Adam88]

Ok, I appreciate your observation. No problem, I'll wait for what others have to say.

[NintendoFanboy]

As smart as I may be, I am still a very shy person, and don'r know how to approach women.

Hah, that sorta sounds like me.

As for your sexuality, it's okay. Don't worry. It's just being curious. You're straight, but you're attracted to some men. It's natural.

[Camazotz]

It's okay, every guy thinks they may be gay, and sometimes you can be turned on by a man, and thats fine. Personally, I think youre straight. You just like a few men, and thats completely normal.

[A.J.]

yeah adam seriously there isnt anything to worry about. if you are straight not all women(even beautiful ones) can turn you on. You are probably at the last stage of puberty considering your age. You still have hormones that can make you feel aroused by anything sexual and if you arent that is normal too and happens to everyone. Dont worry abut a thing.:)

[Gumleaf]

a friend of my mum's marriage brokedown because the husband discovered he was gay in his 40's after having 2 kids. i don't think discovering sexuality is clear cut at all.

[Antares]

Well what i got from the reading is that you always thought you were straight but your having second thoughts. Well the examples that you gave were petty reasons as examples of being gay (if that makes sense). I think that, like you said its natural and everyone does it and i dont believe that you could be gay from those examples. Now maybe deep down in your heart you may think you are then go with that. But if you think yout gay from those things then i dont know. And your at a perfect age to "come out of the closet" if you did so i dont think age will be an issue until maybe 30. Just make sure its before you get married.

P.S. I was kinda in a hurry so if this dosent make sense PM me.

[LateForTheSky]

Your straight trust me. You are attracted to women and you think of yourself belonging to a women. You sometimes get an errection round me, u said earlier that men sometimes get adrenaline from fightnig and get an errection it can be the same for watching it. You don't even seem curious, I'm gay and I sometimes get a errection round girls rarely but it happens. Your fine trust me. U also said u treat gays, bi's and str8s equaly, does that mean u would be comfortable with yourself if u turn gay

[Adam88]

Good question. I don't know if I would except being gay. The reason, I say this is because, I tried thinking of scenarios of being gay or bi, like being married to a man, and waking up every day next to him. But yet, when I think of it, I get stressed, even if I try to be calm. For instance, when I get stressed, rather than get a headache, I brake out in pimples. So this is why I am not sure, because I get stressed when I think of a scenario, despite how I feel.

[LateForTheSky]

Well all I can say is experement do what u feel comfortable with.
PM me or add me on either msn or yahoo messenger if u want to talk more about it.

[Adam88]

Well, so far thanks for the talk everyone. And as for experemantaion, I don't think so.

[LateForTheSky]

Well, so far thanks for the talk everyone. And as for experemantaion, I don't think so.

Well theres your answer ur str8 congradulations

[Adam88]

LOL. thanks Jackson

[Rawrbaby]

wow jackson is good


u are great jackson is thar anythang ya cant do



and congrats that ya r straight adam

[MoveAlong]

and congrats that ya r straight adam

I don't think that's something you should congrats someone about, I think you should just say "Glad you know now" or something
so that's what I'll say now!! :P Glad you know now!

It confuses me...why would you ask a question about whether you're gay or not when you know you don't want to try anything sexual with a guy? :confused:

[LateForTheSky]

I don't think that's something you should congrats someone about, I think you should just say "Glad you know now" or something
so that's what I'll say now!! :P Glad you know now!

It confuses me...why would you ask a question about whether you're gay or not when you know you don't want to try anything sexual with a guy? :confused:

Well at the same time we would probably say congrads to someone finding out they were gay or bi. And yeah adam if u didn't want to do anything sexual with a guy why did u even think it possible for u to be gay or bi

[Adam88]

Well, its simple. I just wanted to know, what the arousal was from. If one is not that sexual preferance, than why feel aroused? Thats why.

[MoveAlong]

ok, sorry my bad :P
I'm also saying it for some of our other threads too