Friends That Come and Go

[BrassMonkey]

All my life, I have had friends that came, and then left. Mainly because I stayed at my grandparents apartment over the summers when I was little. People would live there, and then move off somewhere. I have also had a friend that lives up the road from me, and we have been friends for years. We hung out at each other house, I would either stay the night at her house or sometimes mine (We were little when we done this, so dont freak out with us being opposite sex,lol). We just had so much fun back in those days. I have noticed over the last two years our friendship has faded away. Mainly because as we grew up, we changed a bit, but I think she changed the bad way.

The reason why I say this is because, she just got where she used me. She would come to my house, and get on my computer for an hour and sometimes she would take a bunch of pictures on my camera without asking. I had got an old golf cart that no longer works anymore, but when it did and I road it, they would always ask if they could ride (Which didnt bother me, but then it got everytime, they would do that), Plus when her other friends came, she would sometimes demand to get the golf cart ready for her and her friend to ride...We would get into arguments over stuff like that, plus I heard she talked about me behind my back. She is also negative about things too, and she didnt used to be like that.

Now, she will message me on Facebook saying we need to hangout, but I just got where I dont want to. I will debate whether or not to go hangout with her, and I always end up not going. Its just, over the past 3 years, Im just fed up with her using me and her negativity. Its not just that, its just other things that have been said and done. Its just, after taking this in for so long, you just get tired of it and dont want to be around her. I hate that it has come to this, because we used to have a lot of fun, and we have really good memories, but Im just tired of everything that happens.

Has anyone been in this situation? Give your stories and thoughts.

[Desuetude]

Oh yep, i'm exactly the same.
Infant school had 2 "best friends" and I went round their houses all the time and played with them and stuff. Junior school came and they ditched me, the boy to play football with the other boys and the girl to hang out with the popular girls. I was a loner, the bullying got really bad so I moved schools.

Years 3 and 4 I had two friends I was close to and we'd pretty much do everything together. Years 5 and 6 we became a group of 8 and we were pretty much part of the higher raki of the school (though I was only part of it because I was their friend, otherwise I'd have been at the bottom lol). Though there would be a fight every day and people attention seeking splitting off into groups, so immature.

Year 6 ended and our group got split into two differnt schools, every single one of them got popular, apart from me of course. People from the other school now make fun of me and send me hate on facebook which I ignore and get more hate lol. The 4 that go to my school generally ignore me or sometimes I see them bitching about me but I honestly don't know these people I used to call "best friends" anymore.

I'll sum this up as quickly as I can. Year 7 had a good group of friends then started getting closer with another group so I staretd eating lunch and stuff with them and they were in my tutor so that worked anyway. Year 8, eating lunch and whatever with the same group you get the stupid agruments and bitching everyday but whatever. This year, year 9 comes and i've stopped hanging around with them which is good because apparently they were planning on "kicking me out" anyway. Moved back into the group I was originally in in year 7. They had just had this massive argument (happened about a month ago and everyone is still tense), I join and find out 2 of them hate me so yay! 3 of them are pretty much nuteral but they'd go against me if needed. 2 of them like me though they're a minority.

So yeah, my life story, literally. I guess i've been backstabbed a lot by friends I don't trust people in real life anymore at all. Good memories are now completely replaced by bad, I don't think i'd be able to rememer anything good above bad if you gave me hours. Hmm long reply about nothing :coolthumb:

[Smeagol]

I only have four friends that I met outside of the internet. They are always loyal, but I see them once a year... :/

[Steve Jobs]

You aren't alone. It's really hard to find friends that'll always stick by your side who you can relate with.
I'm in that situation just about every day now, I'm new to this country, I'm different and a lot younger than everyone else, people use me, invite me to places and end up pressuring me into drugs and all that crap. I've taken a lot of time out to myself, but then again, I guess life shouldn't be spent alone.

I guess the logical sense would just be to walk away and find someone else.. and that's all I'm trying to do right now :/

[JamHaychUK]

You're not alone, lots of people lose many friends along the way. As the poster above said, finding one that will stick with you no matter what is a rare gift :)

As for myself, I've been in your situation a few times, but right now I know that when I leave high school it's likely I might not see most of my current friends as much, or even at all (unless we go the same uni or share a flat, etc). So, that sucks :P

[Fushigi]

hmmm well if you think you're not comfortable with her or the things that she do to you makes you feel bad , then you shouldn't hang out with her. I'm sure you'll find some person who deserves you. :)