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imnotcreative3
April 28th, 2012, 09:15 PM
So two months ago tomorrow my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. She has had her surgery and just recently started chemotherapy. But thats not the problem...

For the past two years I have had a bestfriend named Catie. Her dad has/had cancer and I know that I can tell her anything and that she will always be there for me. Just yesterday we found out that we liked each other and I asked her out and she said yes. And dont get me wrong in normal circumstances I wouldnt have asked her out so soon but yesterday was the perfect time and we also know each other so well its really only taking our relationship up like one notch.

But the thing that I'm worried about is that she told her mom today and my mom and her mom are gonna see each other on Tuesday, and obviously her mom is gonna tell my mom. I want to tell my mom its just that since her chemo has started she has been really sick and staying in bed. I dont want to tell her and then cause her unncessary stress but I also dont want her finding out from someone else!

What do I do? Please help!

After the fact I also thought about whether or not I really need a girlfriend right now but I've been having a really tough time and I know that I can tell her anything so this probably will be a good thing!

Jhcx
April 28th, 2012, 09:25 PM
Sounding a bit ignorant, But can having a GF really cause that much stress. if your mam is anything like my step mam she could be delighted you have a GF. keep you on the straight and narrow. your mam really doesnt need to worry about anything.

In My Opinion i think you should tell her. just capture the right time like at night of after a good conversation. just bring it in easy.. Unless you know your mam is going to freak out to which i dont know.

BrassMonkey
April 28th, 2012, 09:37 PM
I would just go ahead and tell you mom. I know its kinda awkward, but thats what I would do, just to get it over with.

codex
April 30th, 2012, 09:33 PM
I know how stressful relationships can be, the best way is to sit down with your mom and just say "I know you're gonna be so happy for me, I've found this wonderful girl who really understands me." And then hopefully it'll take away the stress and you're mother will be happy to know you're doing well.

botwa
May 2nd, 2012, 07:32 AM
I think you should tell her. before she knows it from somebody else.

madea rocks
May 2nd, 2012, 02:07 PM
Tell her

Smeagol
May 2nd, 2012, 02:52 PM
You ought to tell her. It's best for her to hear the good news from you and not somebody else.