Best Friend problems..

[dynamiicz]

Hello,

To start off, I apologize for the long read. But I feel it helps to have some background info amiright? :)

So I’ve been having some trouble with my best friend (I’m 17, she’s 14.) We’ve known each other for about a year now, and our friendship was great up until early March. See, I’m bisexual; and her other best friend, (who I personally DON’T like), just happens to be my ex-boyfriend. So at this point the only reason me and him were civil was because we’re both best friends with her. Basically ever since they met about a year ago, she has reaaaaally liked him. At one point she even told me she was “in love” with him and that she’ll never get over it. This has occasionally led to fights between them, mainly for her not giving him space, etc. The most recent one was when he just stopped talking to her altogether, only texting her “I need space”. Everything was great after that for about a week. Me and her hung out and had tons of fun without him, and I finally felt like she was starting to get over him.

Well, I guess I was wrong. 2 weeks later they were suddenly best buddies AGAIN and ever since then, she and I NEVER hang out. Like literally NEVER. She rarely even texts me back and when she does, it’s not really a conversation. Just small talk. So yeah, it’s been nearly 2 months and I haven’t seen her at all. I’m constantly asking her if she wants to hang out but she’s always with him and it’s annoying. I’ve talked to her about this before but she just ignores me and is always talking about how “we need to plan things more,” and “whenever we plan something it never works out.” But not ONCE have I heard her ask or arrange a time for me and her to hang out. It’s always ME doing the planning and when things do work out, they allegedly have no money to do anything, so we sit in her room looking at the wall. It’s annoying. It takes two to keep a friendship alive and if she isn’t pulling her end of the bargain, I’m just done trying.

So yeah, I was just wondering if you guys had any advice on what to do? Am I just being impatient? I don’t even know anymore...

[Jhcx]

First of all break posts into paragraphs goes easy on the eyes.

Secondly im going to go out on a limb and presume your Ex is Bi. And that he has spoken about yer past differences to this mutual friend, who has sided with your ex and they are now in a bonding friendship leading to future things. unless they break up if they do she will most likely come back to you. Till then the harsh reality seems the friendship is dead by the sounds of it. If it was me in your position i wold just walk away cut the ties and find new friends.

If she should come back, I would give the could shoulder IMO. I dont like to be stabbed. but i would ask and even now just ask is there a friendship or do you walk away.*


*Can cause backfire, also cause conflict and contradiction to walking away with your head high

[dynamiicz]

First of all break posts into paragraphs goes easy on the eyes.
Sorry about that.. :rolleyes:

Secondly im going to go out on a limb and presume your Ex is Bi. And that he has spoken about yer past differences to this mutual friend, who has sided with your ex and they are now in a bonding friendship leading to future things.
Uh, yes. That is correct.

unless they break up if they do she will most likely come back to you. Till then the harsh reality seems the friendship is dead by the sounds of it. If it was me in your position i wold just walk away cut the ties and find new friends.
It just sucks losing someone you literally used to tell EVERYTHING to. :/


If she should come back, I would give the could shoulder IMO. I dont like to be stabbed. but i would ask and even now just ask is there a friendship or do you walk away.*


*Can cause backfire, also cause conflict and contradiction to walking away with your head high
Good idea. ;p