I get a girlfriend, but then feel helpless..

[thinblueline]

I've had a few girlfriends in high school and middle school, but none of my relationships ever last because of one main reason...
I feel like I won't be able to meet the standards of being a boyfriend. I just got a new girlfriend this week and have already began to feel that. I feel like I will let her down and not be as good as a boyfriend as I should. On top of that, I am very busy and feel like I'll fail to do even the simple duties.. any way to feel more confident? :p

[Weeping_Angel]

I've had a few girlfriends in high school and middle school, but none of my relationships ever last because of one main reason...
I feel like I won't be able to meet the standards of being a boyfriend. I just got a new girlfriend this week and have already began to feel that. I feel like I will let her down and not be as good as a boyfriend as I should. On top of that, I am very busy and feel like I'll fail to do even the simple duties.. any way to feel more confident? :p

Ok. First off, don't count your relationships in middle school as real relationships, because that's just a pile of shit. Second, if you don't feel you are ready, why do you keep getting girls who you know you can't stay with, and then piss them off? Maybe you should take a break, figure out your life, and then sart thinking about relationships again.

[thinblueline]

Ok. First off, don't count your relationships in middle school as real relationships, because that's just a pile of shit. Second, if you don't feel you are ready, why do you keep getting girls who you know you can't stay with, and then piss them off? Maybe you should take a break, figure out your life, and then sart thinking about relationships again.

Alright, first of all, I'll count whatever I want to count as a relationship. That is for me to decide, not you.
Second, when I am single, I feel ready for a relationship. Then when I get with them, I feel less confident. I feel that with time, i'll just one day feel confident. But obviously that isn't happening so I am looking for a different way. As for you telling me to "figure out my life", what would YOU know about my life and if I have it figured out or not? I need to figure out my relationships, but that is just one part of my life, not the whole damn thing.

[Aves]

Alright, first of all, I'll count whatever I want to count as a relationship. That is for me to decide, not you.
Second, when I am single, I feel ready for a relationship. Then when I get with them, I feel less confident. I feel that with time, i'll just one day feel confident. But obviously that isn't happening so I am looking for a different way. As for you telling me to "figure out my life", what would YOU know about my life and if I have it figured out or not? I need to figure out my relationships, but that is just one part of my life, not the whole damn thing.

Calm down, generally middle school relationships are a pile of shit. They're normally about the physical attraction, which is what I assume when I hear of someone counting middle school relationships. I'm willing to lay my money on the table and say that your relationships were simply sex driven. Even if there was communication, it was not that of a true, lasting relationship more than likely. At least not all of them.

More on topic, you just have to believe that you're doing the right thing. When you don't believe that, the relationship will fail. The best way to be more confident is to just do it. No simpler way than that.

[Weeping_Angel]

Calm down, generally middle school relationships are a pile of shit. They're normally about the physical attraction, which is what I assume when I hear of someone counting middle school relationships. I'm willing to lay my money on the table and say that your relationships were simply sex driven. Even if there was communication, it was not that of a true, lasting relationship more than likely. At least not all of them.

More on topic, you just have to believe that you're doing the right thing. When you don't believe that, the relationship will fail. The best way to be more confident is to just do it. No simpler way than that.

Exactly what I wanted to say, but I subpar coated it. I shouldn't have.

[thinblueline]

middle school relationships are normally about the physical attraction. I'm willing to lay my money on the table and say that your relationships were simply sex driven.

More on topic, you just have to believe that you're doing the right thing. When you don't believe that, the relationship will fail. The best way to be more confident is to just do it. No simpler way than that.

Keyword: Normally.

They were not sex driven, first of all, as I am a virgin. I'm one of the few guys that will only get with a girl if I have known her for a long time and have gotten close to her as a friend; never have I really even considered asking a girlfriend to have sex with me.

And thank you. I guess I will just have to try that.

[Weeping_Angel]

Keyword: Normally.

They were not sex driven, first of all, as I am a virgin. I'm one of the few guys that will only get with a girl if I have known her for a long time and have gotten close to her as a friend; never have I really even considered asking a girlfriend to have sex with me.

And thank you. I guess I will just have to try that.

Not to push any lines, but I think you are giving off worng impression vibes by putting yourself shirtless as your avatar

[Aves]

Keyword: Normally.

They were not sex driven, first of all, as I am a virgin. I'm one of the few guys that will only get with a girl if I have known her for a long time and have gotten close to her as a friend; never have I really even considered asking a girlfriend to have sex with me.

And thank you. I guess I will just have to try that.

Sex driven doesn't mean going all the way. I simply meant like someone just to make out with or make you look good publicly. I would not think of you any differently if that's why. Most do it and it's become the norm.

[thinblueline]

Not to push any lines, but I think you are giving off worng impression vibes by putting yourself shirtless as your avatar

Why is that? Putting myself shirtless should not automatically give me the title of being sex driven. If it does, then too bad because I am simply proud of my body. :P i know, i'm weird..

Sex driven doesn't mean going all the way. I simply meant like someone just to make out with or make you look good publicly. I would not think of you any differently if that's why. Most do it and it's become the norm.



Ehh public display of affection is not my thing either. the most I will do is hold hands in public if there are not a lot of people around. Otherwise, I feel like people are whispering.

(sorry for that double post)

[FullyAlive]

Merged :)

Please try and keep the thread on topic.

[Jhcx]

What i got in trouble for, as not the 'best boyfriend' was that i was rarely there with her. I did very little kissing(Still getting to terms with it :( ) If you can fufill those obligations and making her feel wanted and giving all your attention i think you will have a normal relationship. :D As for counting your relationships go. if you've been out on a date in public and declared it then its counted weather your in school or not. So i'd take ^^ :P what was said with a grain of salt. :P